First post on here. I'm glad to share my experiences. I need to get into the habit of making field reports.

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Here is some prefix before going into Friday night.

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I'm currently in my last semester at school and I'm just starting to go out again. 2 Weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend. She was my sexy Panamanian queen and letting go of her was difficult. I won't go into the details of why but my point here is that I met her through game. I met her towards the end of one year going out as a newbie.

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Now here we are 2 weeks later. Coming out of a long relationship and not doing cold approach in a long time meant that I was basically starting from my newbie status again. I forgot what being good at game even looked liked or what it felt like. I knew that things would probably get ugly before they got good again.

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Friday Night

Originally my plan was to go out alone and sober. I had gone out with friends last weekend who only wanted to leave the bars after an hour of being there because they couldn't get enough drinks in a busy crowd. Trying to avoid any bull shit excuses going out alone made sense. I could focus on my own intentions and stay sober enough to maintain proper clarity to recognize logistical issues and that sort of thing. So there I was sitting in my room contemplating going out alone. I had done it many times before but as the night rolled on I could slowly feel the anxiousness building. Then around 9:00 another set of friends call me. The want to go out and play some pool. I reluctantly agree as I can get rid of that anxious feeling and go out with guys who are slightly better than the friends from last week. These guys are very smart, educated and business orientated. They even like the idea of pickup. Their game is very week but who am I to judge. I'm basically a newbie at this point myself.

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I meet them at 10:00 and we play pool for a couple hours. There are no girls here but at least i'm having fun. I'm engaging socially and starting to get our of my own head. I do start drinking as well. The feeling is nice and my confidence starts to rise, unfortunately for me so does my ego. This is one reason why I want to avoid the drinks. My older friend is chatting up this drunk frumpy middle aged woman who decides to keep close to our table. When i'm not playing i'm chatting with her. Might as well since not many other females were even around. She was easy to talk to. She was very drunk and 20 years older so anything that left my mouth seemed hilarious to her. This was actually a highlight of the night lol. A drunk middle aged woman. The reason being is I got to see myself in a good light. A saw a girl who liked me because I was funny and obviously cute for her. That imagery was powerful because it gave a boost to my confidence (and again my ego because i'm getting drunk - its hard to keep it in check). The conversation was very free flowing and it allowed me to say almost anything. I had lots of jokes and even sexual conversation. My intentions weren't to bang this woman but having that type of conversation is still important. It reminds me that I can act that way and girls want me to. I'm starting to get restless at this point so I suggest we go to a venue with more opportunity.

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We arrive at the second bar and this place is packed. We go upstairs and order more drinks (again with that double edged sword). We soon find ourselves at the dance floor after. At this point all of us feel really good. We all instantly start dancing like idiots. I start dancing with some fat chicks to get out of my head even more. After doing that for a bit I decided to start to put in the real work. I position our group next to the cutest girls we could find on the floor. There are 4 girls here and only 1 seems attractive to me. The venue is loud so this conversation has to be physical. My approach was a simple tap on the shoulder. When she turns I hold out both hands and remain smiling waiting for her to take them. When she grabs I pull her in and dance for a bit (this was the apex of the night lol). I don't think I lasted 30 seconds before excuses start rolling into my head. I see my friends dancing alone and I could use their help with a 4 set. So I let go of the girl and move back to them. I ask them which girls they like and I try to pair everyone up like a half ass RSD coach or something lol (here is the ego coming to get me). When I move back to the girls again I immediately get shut down by the ugly friend. This girl was angled away from me when I initially went in and now shes the closest in my re-approach. I look back at the girl I was dancing with and she shoots me this look that says "i'm being judged right now because of you". Instead of persisting I just give up.

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Now I see my older friend dancing with a fat chick. This guy has some low standards. The fat chick has an ugly friend as well who latches onto me. I say fuck it and just dance with this girl and try to keep her occupied for my friend. This was the end of the night man. Proudly displaying my dancing skills with an ugly chick lol. No numbers, no romance. We all go back home empty handed.

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This was a really ugly night and I wanted to share this for those other newbie's who love theory but struggle out in the field. The point is you have to put yourself out there even if things are bound to go horribly due to your naivety. In order to get good you have to see where you are bad. Plain and simple. Do not be afraid to try and don't worry about what people think of you. Do this all for yourself.

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Here is my list of mistakes:

- Drinking boosted my ego and made me retarded in that 4 set. If I was sober I probably would have stayed in that initial approach longer and built something more meaningful. I probably could have handled the friends in a much smoother way.

- I went out way too late. My first conversations didn't even start until 9:00 after a day of staring at my computer trying to complete assignments.

- I doubted myself and didn't stick to my intention of going out alone.

- Simply not enough approaches. I talked to 2-3 girls the entire night.

- Not approaching the right girls. Why waste your time dancing with fat chicks to boost your confidence when you could just dance with the hottie?

- I was too intentional. My focus was locked on trying to get a girl and honestly I should have just been more free flowing. I was too ego driven again.

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Let me know all my mistakes boys. Help me get better. Tonight I intend on going out alone and sober and doing lots of approaches.

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