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| 1 | Is it worth it to use Ai for photos at this point?Haha fair point, but they'll also fool anyone else as well. Not suggesting every output it perfect. But if I make 50 images, at least 20 are brilliant, and you can't tell. The only giveaway sometimes can be noise patterns that are too regular... But how many women are looking for that on tinder? | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 02:15 AM |
| 0 | Is it worth it to use Ai for photos at this point?Emphatically yes - I WAS making professional LORA files of people's faces specifically for dating profiles. And it works incredibly well on good models. The reason I don't do it so much anymore is that gpt image 2 does it better just uploading 4 high quality face shots and not training a Lora at all. So I have no profit to be made now from saying that it's definitely possible. And if go so far as to say that it's the ONLY good way to do it now. And that if you do it ethically, it's the best repr… | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 01:41 AM |
| 0 | Is it worth it to use Ai for photos at this point?Yep agreed, I've been doing this professionally for 6 months. You can fool your own parents (and I have). | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Is it worth it to use Ai for photos at this point?Haha yes it is! Especially when done right. Have you seen what SOTA models can do with decent prompts? If I throw 4 good quality images of myself into gpt image 2, and ask if for an amateur mobile phone photo of a candid moment of myself sitting on a bench near the beach or a selfie of myself with some male and female friends at a rooftop bar.. maybe ask for it to be slightly underexposed.. There's no telling real from fake. You can also pass it through a noise/denoise path if you're worried abo… | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Cold hard truth - Height play a Major Factor than CharismaIt's true you never literally said that but I also literally never said that I had to be well built or that I had to be charming. I was just admitting that I was those things And I was using the term "silver bullet" because you were suggesting that tall guys don't have to be charming at all and they don't have to work out. In fact the world is full of tall guys who are still struggling with women for a variety of reasons. Some of them are tall and lanky and skinny and they struggle with that. So… | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Cold hard truth - Height play a Major Factor than CharismaThat's a bit trickier to answer as when I was learning this stuff I never thought about height at all.... But I also usually hitnon women shorter than myself as a preference. I've been with a good number of women taller than me, but that was more of an "accident" than intentional. I solidly believe that for most women, they just want a guy who has a good 3+ inches on them. So at 5"5 you just focus more on women who are on the shorter end of the spectrum... But again, always exceptions - and plen… | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Cold hard truth - Height play a Major Factor than CharismaYou know I know a LOT of 6"3 guys who can't meet women right? Heck, 100s of them have come to me for coaching. People who think height is this magic bullet are delusional. Of course height is a benefit - it's great to have. But people behave as though it's this huge critical thing you are screwed without. | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 04:15 AM |
| 25 | Cold hard truth - Height play a Major Factor than CharismaI'm 5"8 - I've easily overtaken plenty of tall guys. Slept with 100s of women. My now brother in law is 5"7, I've coached and he's doing the same. We are both above average looking to be sure. We are both charming. We both go to gym five days a week, so we are lean and in good shape. We both dress very well I'm sure we both get rejected at times because of our height. But neither of us have ever considered height and issue. In fact I NEVER even considered height until guys started talking about … | /r/seduction | 21/06/26 09:35 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?I think 3 things are true.. The idea that women are finding everything 'ick' and are much harder as a result of that is largely overblown by social media. Most real women in the real world CAN get the 'ick' from what seems to be quite mild things though - especially anything that smells like incongruity in behaviour - it's a personal safety thing - and this was happening just as much 20 years ago as it is now. Far more women these days BEGIN with negative feelings about men than they used to....… | /r/seduction | 16/06/26 11:04 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?Now by your own admission you had to do thousands of approaches and see multiple expensive coaches - and they got you there - GREAT! But for many, by that assessment, it could be labelled a scam because imagine how many men would have given up after 300 failed approaches with seemingly no end in sight? Most dating coaches make it seem relatively easy with a little grit and elbow grease - but thousands of approahes and multiple coaches is a big ask of faith no? I mean - I'm not fighting you - I'v… | /r/seduction | 16/06/26 10:57 PM |
| 12 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?Been a dating coach for 17 years - let me tell you where it's a scam and where it isn't. For some guys - it's just NOT the time in their lives to learn. It can't do anything for you right now. Its a waste of effort. . - your general social skills are below a critical baseline.. If you're not coming to the table with a decent base social calibration - regular dating coaching just can't help you.. you'll be spinning your wheels literally forever. You have to focus on non women related social inter… | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: 9s are overrated - a 7 with a good body is worth moreThe ones you approach, and suddenly realise how beautiful they are up close, when far away they just looked regular attractive... As most guys notice, it's usually the other way around, especially in places like bars and clubs when makeup, and clothing, and flattering lighting so heavy lifting. | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: 9s are overrated - a 7 with a good body is worth moreYep this is definitely true | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 10:01 PM |
| 50 | Unpopular opinion: 9s are overrated - a 7 with a good body is worth moreI've coached for 17 years, it's my experience that most women men consider 9s are just more regular 7s dressed up sexy with great makeup. When I was dating a Parramatta Eels cheerleader I saw this all the time with her cheerleader friends. They were never ugly, but in regular clothes outside of the night club they were far less intimidating. | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 10:20 PM |
| 15 | Men with high bodycount. Your experience?It's absolute rubbish - there is not even any science to speak of behind the theory. The reverse however does hold - that some men have real struggles pair bonding and as a result of this end up living a life full of one night stands. But as a man well in the triple digits, I got married last year and three years into the relationship have had no need to chest and no struggle bonding. | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on “standing out” with your outfit?I'd recommend two things 1) start hunting around for "styles" - google images, Pinterest, online clothing stores.. start screen grabbing any looks that appeal to you, especially if the models seem like they match your body shape and skin pigment roughly. Just spend hours exploring. 2) if you ever have a weekday off work - go to a shopping mall. Bounce from men's clothing store to men's clothing store and in each one ask the girl working there something like "hey, I'm not great at clothing myself… | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on “standing out” with your outfit?So yes, dressing in a way that makes you stand out certainly can work. But it's absolutely critical that you dress in a style that's coherent with who you are and your personality. I got into pickup all the way back in 2003 - and back then, I was dressing up in a way that was relatively unique - wearing vests, a cravat, fedora hat, this kind of thing. It sounds lame now, but back then nobody had been doing it much, and it was just a way of dressing up and being more fancy in a way that no one el… | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 10:37 PM |
| 4 | Does fucking 4s or below help you in any way with getting 5s and up?Here's a critical observation worth considering 90 percent of guys I know who have a LOT of sex, are not obsessed with 10s. Sometimes they sleep with super hot women, other times the women are just above average cute. Sometimes they're below average. But ultimately because they're always flirting and always figuring sex with a fun woman is better than no sex, their whole lives they're getting 100x the practice of everyone else It fuels the belief that women in general want to sleep with them. I … | /r/seduction | 29/03/26 09:43 PM |
| 0 | Confidence comes from within? It make you more attractive? You actually believe this?Confidence usually comes as a feedback loop - but part of that loop is what you focus on.... So if your metric is "will women date me" the feedback loop could be negative for now and might stay that way until you focus elsewhere. If the feedback loop is, am I working hard on things I believe in - health, fitness, career - you can find positive feedback first from the obvious wins and results and then from feedback from others. I know a lot of very confident and very very mid guys, because they'v… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 06:05 AM |
| 1 | The first time you fuck a girl you have to slowly escalate to it without asking. But every other time you can just ask her, why is that?If most women are claiming that they're taken, it's usually because that first impression of creating isn't hitting the mark. I usually tell guys that when you meet women, you are a no, a maybe, or a yes. Once you get decent, you're going to be a maybe most of the time, not a yes. But it's also possible, for most of the time, women meet you and it's a no. They have met you, they've gotten your vibe, and they've decided, 'No, there's not a chance.' That's not the signal to give up. It's just the … | /r/seduction | 26/02/26 11:45 PM |
| 1 | The first time you fuck a girl you have to slowly escalate to it without asking. But every other time you can just ask her, why is that?So a simple example might be having a conversation about societal sex norms for men vs women. We will talk about how women are just as sexual as men - I might throw in some future pacing about how if we hook up tonight we could be equally excited but tell ourselves different stories tomorrow. This could evolve if she's comfortable talking about sex into other topics I can use a well executed.. compliment - a well timed "I have to say that dress does being out your best.... Ahhh... Features" whil… | /r/seduction | 26/02/26 10:11 PM |
| 12 | The first time you fuck a girl you have to slowly escalate to it without asking. But every other time you can just ask her, why is that?Just because this is what most men do, doesn't mean it's necessary. My whole thing in clubs and bars used to be creating oodles of sexual tension without physical escalation and then just saying, "okay. I really think you and I should go back to my place right now - there are some things you and I need to do" If you're both in the mood you can just outright ask for it. .. The issue is that in the beginning guys are nervous about reading women wrongly - or most importantly they don't know how to … | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 08:13 PM |
| 10 | What is your opinion on Blackpill/Looks Matter #1What breaks my head is that it just takes one day hanging out in Walmart to see all the very VERY average dudes with wives and kids to disprove the "looks are all that matters" paradigm. And yet they fail to do so.. | /r/seduction | 21/02/26 06:19 AM |
| 4 | Brazilian girls in CarnivalBefore you go, get a laminating machine - user it on your todger, will be more economical instead of condoms for all the sex you can have . In all honesty, it's a blast and Brazilians are amazing fun! | /r/seduction | 13/02/26 06:20 AM |
| 6 | Vulnerability is consistently rated as one of the most attractive traits in men by women. Not weakness—vulnerability. The willingness to be authentic even when it's uncomfortable.This is true.. but vulnerability isn't sexy at the start - it's sexy when she's already sexually into you. Being a bit cocky, a big bit confident, and having a great sense of humour gets that ball rolling at the start t | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 07:00 AM |
| 1 | How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women?Oh yeah I'm 42, never claimed to be young anymore - I'm married now and definitely not pretending to still be on the market or wishing I were . I mean. I've run a company for 17 years as a dating coach for men and women, for ten years it was the most successful in the country.... I wasn't trying to prove anything to you, merely pointing out the experiential component.. When someone disagrees and has the qualifications to have an informed opinion, it's not an invitation to try to throw insults, I… | /r/seduction | 01/02/26 01:48 PM |
| 1 | How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women?Oh in plenty of these cases, the women wanted to be in a relationship with me... Obviously not all the time - but certainly sometimes - and that didn't make them more interesting... They valued different things in life, we didn't have crossover. Bare in mind, I'm not talking about all "hot" women, I'm talking about a specific demographic of attractive women.. the cool kids , the mean girls, the ones who barter heavily on male attention to the point they almost never leave the house without looki… | /r/seduction | 01/02/26 01:40 PM |
| 3 | How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women?Okay fair point - I guess it's saving people from nightmares unforseen to them. I'll write another answer to his question detailing what's required | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 11:36 PM |
| 20 | How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women?I'm 42 now, but when I was learning this stuff when I was in my early 20s and getting really good - I started turning myself into knots to learn to pickup the absolute hottest women in the clubs - you know the ones! Dressed super sexy, usually in VIP sections etc - IG influencers weren't a thing then so this was the equivalent. And I started to pick them up - I HATED IT They werenl not as fun to talk to, they always had odd neuroticism issues, temperamental and often narcissistic. Also the sex w… | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Men chase, women choose: the reality of attention in datingI'll just say something like "I'd better get back to my friends I don't want to be rude and ignore them for too long. It was great to meet you have a good night!" | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 09:20 PM |
| 31 | Men chase, women choose: the reality of attention in datingIt's more that women gatekeep sex while men gatekeep relationships.. But a lot of this is also mindset.... What I mean is, when i approach a women, I'm giving her a chance.. I'm deciding if I even like her before I worry about if she likes me. I walk away from plenty of attractive women before I even know if they liked me because I was being a chooser myself. That mindset alone will make a man more attractive, they can feel if they're being assessed by a man and it raises his value in her eyes. … | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Onlyfans Acquisition StrategyI had a client who built his own studio and maanged some women, starred with a few. Wasn't a bad gig. But he doesn't do it anymore, managing the women was a nightmare | /r/seduction | 11/01/26 05:40 AM |
| 5 | Guys, did you know bigger museums are filled wit all kinds of baddies?! Anyone had any luck here?I used to work at the cafe in a big art gallery - I... Enjoyed myself a lot ;) | /r/seduction | 31/12/25 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Dating Coach?Well they often say "I'll take the win" and stop moving forward... For instance, a woman is flirting, she's clearly interested - the guy asks for a number and goes back to his friends. Or worse doesn't bother following up the number (that happens way more than you'd expect, even when he likes her) Or she's interested, but he never creates sexual tension / escalation because that might ruin the progress by scaring her away. Or she's starting to try to build some rapport with him, and he ends the … | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Dating Coach?I think you've oversimplified. I'm a dating coach , but not an arrogant "bro" kind. I like to think I'm down to earth. It's not that I don't get rejected - of course I do - but far less than you'd think... But it's not because I'm just irresistible to women, or I know the secret line to say.. it's mostly a mix of a few things... 1) I'm generally more fun to talk to than regular guys - I approach without worrying about trying to impress, there's no pressure or expectation , im playful I joke, I'm… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 10:09 AM |
| 3 | Are the pickup gurus getting rejected frequently still?So for myself, it came with experience.. I recognised something too subtle to verbalise in certain women.. But here's the wild thing - my wife senses it too.. if we are at the gym, and I see a woman who is the sort who I know would likely sleep with me, my wife is watching her closely (she's a Latina after all) With clients, I teach them to hone their instincts with women by verbally predicting to myself or his wingmen what he thinks she will be like.. "I think she's a bit sexually conservative,… | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Are the pickup gurus getting rejected frequently still?Been a dating coach for 17 years, been doing pickup for 21 years (although just got married last week) Of COURSE I still get rejected! Or I get women turning me down for sex on a date etc. The three things that really change when you get really good though are: 1) you get really good at picking women to talk to - if I get to pick my own women all nightz my success rate is really quite stellar. I know who's likely to want to be with me. But if someone else were to choose for me, I'd have a succes… | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 08:46 AM |
| 1 | Online game is 100x better ROI than walking around cold approachingThe issue is that this is a story, and an idealization. It's just not true. Id I get three numbers I'm consistently getting 2 dates and they're going to lead to sex more often than not. These days nobody is getting 10 dates an hour unless they're already very good looking. I build dating profiles professionally, I've watched online dating change over the years. I'm not new to it, I watch guys who are independently successful and guys who are coaches by professionals (not just by myself) - I know… | /r/seduction | 19/11/25 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Online game is 100x better ROI than walking around cold approachingThat's honestly not true once you're capable of basic success from cold approaching.. It's just a skill that needs learning like anything else. Online dating becomes this time sink - between gaslgihting profiles, realising in 30 seconds of a date this isn't a woman you like at all, swiping swiping swiping, texting texting texting. Then the quality of the women you meet. When you could go out on a Saturday nightz talk to ten women get 3 or four numbers, occasional one night stand, get 2 dates wit… | /r/seduction | 19/11/25 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Truth about "Body building to generate attraction"Most studies show that the biggest marker for initial attraction by women is waist to shoulder ratio.. so science mostly disagrees with your post. What's interesting for me is they, my success with women hasn't seemed to depend on my personally going to gym or not. | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Why it is hard for short guys in datingHeight is like boob size - most men prefer an ample bosom all things being equal.. But plenty of small chested women get loved. I'm 5*8 and never perceived w height disadvantage.. I've been a dating coach for 17 years.. My best performing student ever was a 5*7 Indian guy. My soon to be brother in law is 5*6 (and half black) went 6 years with no sex, then I met his sisters and started coaching him... He went to gym, he built a life for himself, he's getting laid like a rockstar.. Is height an ad… | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 09:27 PM |
| 3 | If you have a rotation of women you're practicing polygamy don't expect it to suddenly change your views when you marry to 1, you'll always want more women because you're used to itI understand the logic behind it.. But I also see men who never got to life the player lifestyle, suddenly find themselves at the receiving end of their hot receptionist giving them attention, and they mess up their entire families because they're chasing a life and set of experiences they never had. But I don't desire to play around so much anymore, it was fun, I look back on my time with fond memories. But I want something different. Most guys experience this eventually in my experience.. they… | /r/seduction | 25/10/25 10:36 PM |
| 6 | If you have a rotation of women you're practicing polygamy don't expect it to suddenly change your views when you marry to 1, you'll always want more women because you're used to itNot true.. I've been with a lot of women in my time, I even had an ex who wanted open relationship so i did that for 11 years too. I'm 42, getting married in two weeks, perfectly happy with monogamy and starting a family. I think the issue is that some men try to settle down when they're not ready to let go of the single lifestyle. Dont get into a relationship if you're not ready, just enjoy life whatever way you want at that point in time | /r/seduction | 25/10/25 09:21 PM |
| 4 | Are the Dating coaches and Gurus actually that good in real life?I've been a dating coach in the industry for 17 years now, I'd like to add some nuance here to add to the discussion. There's another element i see a LOT that isn't talked about - sex or affection addiction... I see some coaches pick up and get laid effectively, but their lives are otherwise a mess.. they can't have healthy relationships to or with women, they need constant neverending validation to keep emotionally stable... Their relationship to sex and love is warped and very unhealthy. Then … | /r/seduction | 06/10/25 10:06 PM |
| 2 | What are your seduction unpopular opinions and hot takes? Things you truly believe, but would get downvted?I've been in this game for over twenty years. Men who sleep with hundreds of women are almost always less picky than those who don't. They'll opportunistically sleep with less than ideal women, not because they're desperate but because they have nothing to prove, and so long as the women is mildly attractive, a fun night of sex is more enjoyable than being alone. But they still sleep with more stunning women than most guys too, they're just not obsessed with looks. 99 times out of a hundred, whe… | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 10:41 AM |
| 5 | got 300 likes on a Thailand dating app with women aged 18-24. 0 Likes on Tinder in Europe. im in my 30's.This is normal, and they're not all hookerw or ladyboys. As a white guy in Thailand, tinder is just easier. Been there a bunch of times. I don't particularly love Asian women unfortunately. But was very easy to pick Up there without paying. | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 11:32 PM |
| 1 | What do I have to do to date/sleep with girls "out of my league"?Unpopular opinion - get in her league. Okay, you can't change your genetics - but you can build value.. in many ways.. from how you dress, to social skills, do you live a life doing shit that excites you? Do you have w plan for your career? Get motivated, inspire yourself and others.. You do all that, and you may find yourself out of her league. | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 10:58 AM |
| 1 | How realistic is Californication?https://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/david-duchovny-tea-leoni-sex-addiction-blame-strife/story?id=13970246 | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 11:19 AM |
| 8 | How realistic is Californication?The role is written specifically for him - a sex addict in real life. So there's definitely something to it. They give him outrageous opportunities that are unrealistic, but I do think this demeanour is definitely one that definitely works. I've told many clients to watch him and his way of dealing with women. I like it because hes not doing the same tired "Alpha male" BS. It's not the only way, it's not my way, but it's definitely one I can recognise as effective. | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 04:14 AM |
| 7 | Do you guys actually experience women initiating sex?A bunch of things create sexual tension... A. Suggestive look at her cleavage followed by a cheeky smile that communicates "yep, you saw me cheking you out" I usually make some sexual banter.. "if you're going to stick your ass there, you know it's looking for trouble right? I didn't know your ass was a trouble maker.." Prolonged eye contact Again how you build tension also depends on how much sexuality has previously existed. Wha most guys struggle with is they don't really do or say much sexua… | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 09:34 PM |
| 85 | Do you guys actually experience women initiating sex?A lot depends on the women too... Some women have a high sex drive, some have low.. Some are very comfortable expressing sexual desire, some are uncomfortable.. Some think it's unfeminine if a woman makes the first move etc.. So yeah I've experienced it plenty, but a lot depends on the woman. You've also got the matter of how good you are at creating sexual tension etc as well. | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 04:31 AM |
| 8 | Are dating really harder now, or is that just a myth?I've been coaching full time for 17 years.. Dating isn't actually harder... Honestly, the same skill level that got results 15 years ago will get the same results today. BUT Men are growing up in a far worse place mentally and emotionally now than in the past. Willingness to take social risk, and be sexually assertive is insanely low. Limiting beliefs and negative limiting beliefs about women are at an all time high. Dating apps. Erode guys self esteems badly. So the journey is harder for me in … | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 10:00 AM |
| 3 | How different is dating and pulling girls in Islamic countries?I think you’ll find that it’s a better experience if you yourself aren’t Islamic or middle eastern. Ive seen this in many countries,’not just Islamic, where the women who do want to party exclusively choose foreigners because they’re safer for that kind of behaviour. | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Going to the gym is a game-changerSeeing a lot of comments here… Here’s something to consider. I went five days a week to gym from 15 years to 32 years. I was in great shape. Then I had a hormone problem and had to stop gym. I couldn’t hold onto weight well so was slim but not in shape. Then I finally found out what was causing the hormone issue at 38, and have since been working out six days a week again. The gym made about 20 percent difference, just enough to notice, but not enough to “change everything” I’ve watched a lot of… | /r/seduction | 13/04/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | How would you seduce a woman that's anti casual sex?Honestly, I’ve been coaching for 16 years and I don’t see a massive downward trend in casual sex in my students. Perhaps a bit less, but it’s nothing drastic. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 11:55 PM |
| 1 | How would you seduce a woman that's anti casual sex?But why? The world is full of hot women who ARE open to casual sex… it’s just more effort for you and a helping of bad karma. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 02:40 AM |
| 7 | Those who slept with married or taken women, what patterns did you recognise?When I was in my 20s I used to specifically seek taken or married women, not so proud of it, but can’t change it now. For me, a woman who wasn’t willing to cheat would make it VERY clear very early on. In short, she was a good partner…. But way too many wanted to still flirt, still feel like they had “it” . I’ve learned that you can usually spot the cheating risks in either gender because they’re the ones who still need to feel sexual validation… if they constantly seek the attention of opposite… | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 07:17 AM |
| 3 | Guys who live in Amsterdam, Holland, is it true that there is no hooking up in clubs like there is in other places in the world? I saw a Brazilian woman saying this in an interview. Is this true or a silly myth? What is it like there?Myth, i hooked up there a few times fifteen years ago, and last year i ran three bootcamps there and had a few guys take women home. | /r/seduction | 06/03/25 06:32 AM |
| 23 | Why do women wanna “fix” a manIf you choose a bad boy, then he’s going to have issues (same as a nice guy for that matter) but because at least bead boys have sex appeal, they need to tell themselves a narrative to validate staying with him. So they often have the “he’s really a good person but he’s a tortured soul, that’s why he acts up, if I love him enough, he’ll heal and be a perfect man to date” To be fair I see guys doing this with bad women too. It always ends in tears. | /r/seduction | 06/03/25 03:46 AM |
| 1 | To all the experienced guys here: Does casual sex increase happiness?I got into this seduction world in 2004, so been at it a long time. I would have loads of casuals sex, then get into a relationship… if the relationship ended, loads of casual sex. I think casual sex is more of a fun hobby - it’s a fun thing to do, but I can’t quit say it brings happiness and foms the backbone of a good life - or real happiness… It brought loads of happiness MORE because of the fun memories with my friends at bars sharing stories laughing at rejections talking to girls together … | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 07:51 PM |
| 11 | Successful womanizer for years, now in healthy relationshipI have a successful dating coaching company, been running it for 15 years, been with a LOT of women in my time.. I’m in a long term relationship now - age and shifting priorities were a part of it for me - at some point I just found myself truly wanting something different than the chase. Now, perusing women is this fun memory - but it’s not what I want NOW… now I want kids and a family. I’ve just changed - and I think that’s relatively normal to happen over time to men. Honestly, I would have s… | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 08:55 PM |
| 1 | do you think Miami has worn out its welcome and is overrated as a city to find women?I’m not the best person to ask probably - I just head to the states once or twice a year running workshops. But I hear very good things about Dallas and a few other places in Texas | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 12:00 PM |
| 1 | do you think Miami has worn out its welcome and is overrated as a city to find women?I coached a few groups of guys in Miami last year - it’s not what it once was - by that I mean - ten years ago it was better when I coached there. But it still has lots of amazing women - and yea, if you try to pick up where the gold diggers are, then that’s what you’ll get. But there’s more to Miami than that, much more. | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 06:14 AM |
| 5 | What is the gym equivalent for females?You just gave me new appreciation for Australian gyms where we have at least 40% women. | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 01:44 AM |
| 3 | I Moved Abroad for Dating - and Had This Surprising LessonThe general rule is this: If women won’t date you at all - changing countries is unlikely to help much, unless you rely on white priveledge and money in a poor country. And those relationships can go sour in many unforeseen ways if you aren’t careful. If women where you live will happily date you but you don’t like them, changing cities can make a world of difference. I didn’t have to change cities for this though, I just placed certain nationality requirements on any women I’d be willing to dat… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 09:05 PM |
| 68 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?As someone who has coached in both countries , the answer is a pretty solid “Spain”. Not just for the Spanish women, but a LOT of tourists if you go to the right cities , and they often want to have fun | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 07:46 AM |
| 2 | how does severely autistic pick up chicks at the clubI’ve been coaching for over fifteen years, guys in the spectrum tend to struggle quite a bit more for obvious reasons, but it’s not always the case - ASD presents in so many different ways of course. But what really can help a lot is to EMBRACE your awkward side - this may be hard to get through in text - but many asd clients of mine try to hide who they are, they focus so hard on acting neurotypical because they perhaps were teased as kids or admonished by parents or siblings etc. Instead, beco… | /r/seduction | 07/12/24 08:03 PM |
| 1 | why everyone who claims to be slightly good in attracting women claims to be a coachAs a highly successful dating coach since 2009, I agree with most of the sentiments in this thread. Seriously, some really poor coaches out there, every year I see a new band of merry idiots enter the industry, and just as many fade out. It gives the genuine coaches a very poor name. But a couple of things miss the mark. 1) there are comments suggesting it’s nuts to coach when you can go out and have fun, and if you really were good that’s what you’d do. I find the emotionally stable guys discov… | /r/seduction | 26/10/24 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Is Mystery outdated? Who is today’s greatest PUA?One thing I really noticed , and what I think you’re talking about it this… Who stays single long enough to sleep with thousands of women? Who peruses women all the time with exception of everything else in their lives? I’ve had a lot of success with women, but when I met a good one, I wasn’t afraid to give up the single life either. Guys get obsessed with “how many women have you slept with” - like it’s a mark of honour, but just as often, it’s a mark of emotional dysfunction. Most well adjuste… | /r/seduction | 12/10/24 09:09 AM |
| 20 | Why is it that the answer to a man's inceldom is, 99.9999% of the time, to "just work on yourself bro," even if its for the next 50 years, "just work on yourself bro?"I’ve been in this industry since 2003… I’ve watched thousands and thousands of men come and go. There were no incels back then, there was no manosphere, no online dating either - at least not like it exists today. And yet the advice was and still does need to be the same. Most of the guys who really struggle have internal stuff going on. The reasons are changing but the internal issues are not. Learning the social skills is not nearly so hard as dealing with our internal junk. Everyone has inter… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Would a women date a man, in a lower income bracket?Happens all the time, hot girl supporting her bum boyfriend, so the short answer is yes. But the longer answer is that you gotta bring something to the table that she finds sexy. | /r/seduction | 26/07/24 06:53 AM |
| 3 | Is Mystery outdated? Who is today’s greatest PUA?I’ve been coaching for 15 years, very successful, never fell into this trap. Was in a twelve year relationship, now celebrating my 18th month with a new partner. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 11:28 AM |
| 2 | The difficulty increase from seducing 8/10's to 10/10's is unreal. How do y'all do it?One thing I’ll note from coaching for fifteen years. Guys are happy to tease and banter with women up to a certain attractiveness. Playful common push/pull of atttaction. But when women get perceived past that level, most guys shut off the fun completely, not more teasing, not more push pull. The attraction evaporates with it. I watch this happen all the time. Once they push themselves to start giving the hot women a bit of sh!t again, the women are just as flirty as less attractive counterparts… | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Las Vegas RecommendationsSo maybe I should be more specific, I want to avoid the trashy drunk crowd as much as is possible. When I'm coaching locally in Australia, I target the classier lounges and bars, where you still have some younger women, but the 25-30 crowd of classier, less drunk women are abundant. The trashy drunk as skunk crowd is way overhyped for pickup IMO. I follow that basic formula whether I'm coaching in the USA or in Europe too. So it's not that I Was suggesting a guy of 35 should avoid 23 year old wo… | /r/seduction | 21/07/24 04:03 AM |
| -1 | Help Me Pick The Best City For My Next Euro BootcampIt's where I coach a group of guys to meet women of a number of days taking them out during the day and night and approaching women with them. | /r/seduction | 09/03/24 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Do not ditch OLD. It’s better than Cold approach.I professionally teach both cold approaching and OLD Online dating certainly can work if you’re average or above in looks. And the learning curve is much easier than cold approaching. But cold approaching consistently yields far better results once you’ve reached a certain skill level. The difference isn’t subtle either. I see hundreds of cold approaches and online dating profiles every month - sometimes it’s the same guys. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 11:53 PM |
| 3 | how to handle gf tantrumsSo you are always in danger when you get too caught up with the concept of 'power' in a relationship honestly... So I feel like point 1 in your question just now is the crux of everything... You're losing your power because you're scared of missing her - so as a result you put up with tantrums without talking to her about it and letting her know it has to change. Then you are scared of being without her without everything first being made okay. I can certainly understand the feelings, I've been … | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 10:27 AM |
| 67 | how to handle gf tantrumsHey mate, I'll be the first to jump in here - or maybe not by the time I finish it ;) There are a few things worth noting here: 1) Throwing tantrums without talking about it isn't a behaviour you should have to be okay with. 2) Her not wanting to talk about an issue immediately is a behaviour that should be okay in a relationship. In fact, I think it's super healthy to sometimes postpone talking about a problem until the strong emotions have passed (if in fact this is what she's doing) So rega… | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 12:59 AM |
| 7 | Movies that show seduction properlyYeah oddly I often point to this show too, I think it’s more realistic than many others, even if a tad exaggerated. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:44 AM |
| 1 | I feel overwhelmed when it comes to dating and meeting girlsI meet a lot of guys who feel this way - it's such a sadly common experience and the frustration and exasperation is very real. Things I would consider if I were in your shoes: Do you have a good group of friends? A place where you feel like you belong? A man without a tribe can really struggle to have a good sense of self. Having a good tribe also does wonders for our emotional state. Do you have female friends? Have you ever sought them out? Good female friends can really be an amazing support… | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 01:16 AM |
| 6 | Planning dates while on a dateWomen are so sensitive to 'WHY' we do things.. What I mean is, if you are FEELING needy and anxious for her ot like you - then when you try to organise future dates, it's going to feel clingy to her. It will come out in your body language, and delivery. But you can also feel confident and sure of what you want - and even on a first date you can look her in the eyes and say - I liked this date and I want to see you again, what are you up to over the weekend? You're essentially saying the same thi… | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 01:09 AM |
| 2 | How do I make peace with never getting any closure?So first of all I want to say - Yeah, having something fall apart that has meaning to you, and not knowing why is super hard. I don't want to downplay that with my advice below. This is an opportunity for you to recognise what this girl has highlighted for you... Most of us really struggle to embrace uncertainty - We want to find ways to avoid it in the future, and that can drive the best of us insane sometimes. See this as an opportunity to get better at being okay with uncertainty and not know… | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 01:57 AM |
| 15 | Have You Ever Tried to Pick Up a Waitress in Your Favorite Place For CoffeeSo I've done this a bunch of times with cafe's bars, even strip clubs. And I always went the same way about it. My focus would be on having fun with them - long before flirting with them... Say I go to a cafe for the first time, and it's near my new job and there's a cute girl there -I'm just going to be social with her - "Hey, I'm Damien by the way, I just started working here, so I'm REALLY hoping you know how to make a good coffee, or you're going to have a disappointed man - just saying, no … | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 01:50 AM |
| 8 | Cold approach actually works.Congrats bud, if 9/10 times it wouldnt' go so well, then you'd only have to talk to 10 girls a night and get a solid number and date every time ;) People say it's a numbers game and it sort of is - but you can get much better at tilting the numbers more and more in your favour. Guys are often completely unaware of how many times women go to stand or sit near them in the hopes of someone saying hello. | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 01:44 AM |
| 12 | Cold approach actually works.Wait, do you actually believe there aren't guys who cold approach and get regular results? Are you convinced it can't work for you? What are you actually believing? | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 01:42 AM |
| 2 | We had sooo much fun approaching women at the club but the result still made me wonder if it’s worth itYeah all the time funnily enough… I mean I don’t even bother to ask for numbers anymore honestly… Not dissing phone numbers or anything - but I get more mileage out of Insta accounts | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 10:45 AM |
| 5 | We had sooo much fun approaching women at the club but the result still made me wonder if it’s worth itThese days I find IG more useful than phone numbers honestly - I wouldn't discount getting a girl's insta for a second. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 02:27 AM |
| 2 | We had sooo much fun approaching women at the club but the result still made me wonder if it’s worth itHey bud, I think you're on the right track in most ways already... The mistake most guys make is they don't have fun - and so steady rejection combined with phone numbers that don't go anywhere quickly wears you out. Something I've always made my primary goal when going out was fun... I had to have fun first and pick up women second... This would mean that sometimes my mates and I would do things that would DESTROY our interactions... or at least endanger our chances of success... Sometimes I'd … | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 02:25 AM |
| 1 | This greatly increased my value on hingeI do a data-mine for new statistics every few months for my videos - here is my latest one - at the bottom you'll see I've listed a bunch of reference for online dating statistics: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HY8ZH5-jXRg&ab_channel=SchoolOfAttraction But the actual reference you want is on this site: https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2020/02/06/the-virtues-and-downsides-of-online-dating/ the quote is here: "They found that it is not just the better-looking people who receive lots of messa… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 03:37 AM |
| 3 | This greatly increased my value on hingeSo I'm a dating coach and avid photographer - guys pay me regularly to take photos for their online dating profiles - it's worth it... BUT I also see guys losing money to photographers, so here are some things to consider, because the online dating landscape keeps changing. The majority of photographers are rubbish for online dating.. They take technically brilliant photos, but don't actually take the time to help you find the sides of yourself that are most attractive.... This can result in a l… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 12:52 AM |
| 0 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?This is a long post to try to unpack - so my apologies if I don't refer to every point you made... Regarding the what is moral... In my question what's unsaid is "to your own personal sense of what's morally okay" I live by my own morals, not social mores or laws... PArt of my path to self-development is working hard to see all points of view by asking questions like the one I asked in this post - that helps to form my ever evolving sense of what's morally okay (by my own standards). So for myse… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?Hey Neo - I'm the exact opposite, I don't much respect laws, and instead trust my own moral judgment. Thinking that ehics and morality don't matter is a very dark triad (narcissism/machiavelianism/psychopathy) way of viewing the world. I'm not suggesting you are dark-triad yourself, but this kind of ideology isn't healthy for the individual or society on the long term. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?Yes, this is well stated! There is definitely a soceital problem at hand - Men are suffering a lot and nobody is paying attention - of this I'm with you wholeheartedly. I think I'm asking the question because I'm trying to look as broadly as possible and say "okay men have a serious problem socially that needs attention and care - How can I best support this while not creating a huge problem on the other side of the fence" But yeah - the solution isn't easy. Clearly I made my choice when I decid… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?Yes this is a reasonable argument - For the record, I'm never thinking men SHOUDNT improve their confidence with women - the intellectual debate I presented was more about 'are we going about this in a way that's long term sustainable for the majority of men' - OR should be slightly changing how we go about it or police ourselves. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?This is somethign I wholehartedly agree with - your last point about women giving signals. I remember reading research literature showing that women in the 50s game 3x as many signals to the men they liked than women in 2010 did. This is a thing that aught to change - I'm generally a fan of most of Hussey's work. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?So Morals are all in the eyes of the beholder.. To me they're moral because a) if every woman did it, would the world be worse? Most women do it and there's no obvious problem as a result... We can argue that over long term it hurts womens egos, tells them they aren't enough, and I could sort of get behind it. and b) Everyone knows women do this, this act doesn't make men feel unsafe or in danger. So yes I see these things as moral. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?So forget guys I've coached, here are some things that are very common wiht new guys who haven't had professional coaching... staring at a woman for a long time from a distance away...no smiling, just deadpan awkward no knowing when to walk away when she's trying to extricate herself standing way too close stopping her walking during the day by literally jumping in front of her and giving her a mild shock That's not to speak of awkward forced smiles and poor eye contact... most women I know who … | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 07:12 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls keep going to the toxic guy who ruins their mental health but not the one who is willing to take care of them?Lots of good answers here… one other thing What You See Is All There Is - “every guy I’ve ever dated behaves like this, so evidently this is how most men are” once you assume that, you stop looking for better and accept the garbage. I coach both men and women, and men consistently date bad women Unknowingly too… I see the women most guys go after in clubs - those women would be nightmares to date mostly. And sure you say these men mostly just want sex from them - but they still want to date a wo… | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 10:41 PM |
| 2 | How to hit on black women as an non-black manJust a thought - consider skin colour less and culture more. I have a Nigerian friend and a Kenyan friend and those are different cultures from each other as much as they are different from typical Australian culture (where I’m from). They have slightly different dating expectations. I have a friend from the states who is black, and she had a privileged upbringing, going to a good university etc. she’s culturally typical American and she just happens to be black. But then I know there is a large… | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 11:08 PM |
| 0 | Rant: I don't see the point of doing night gameIt’s interesting so many guys see night game only as the strategy for one night stands…. I mean, yes that has been a source of the majority of my own one night stands. But it’s also been the source of two long term relationships. I’ve also met some truly amazing women I would have dated had I been in the right head space. I don’t drink at all myself - I’m 38 now and quit drinking when I was 21. I also would just night game from 8pm to 12am (unless I was shooting hard for ONS), so it wouldn’t mes… | /r/seduction | 12/02/22 09:33 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]My first Arabic girl was an Iraqi in a threesome. She had been here 3 months, her father shipped her to Australia to protect her due to “bad behaviour “ | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 05:39 AM |
| 0 | Has anyone here actually gotten laid at a club or bar?If I’d go out Friday and Saturday night , there’s a 50 percent change I’d take a girl home. Id certainly find options whether I liked those options or not is a different story. It’s sort of a knack…. Of just a skill… So part of the knack is spotting and screening quickly who is a likely candidate. I think that’s 70 percent of the battle right there. I know more guys with flirting and escalation skills who don’t get club take homes than I know guys who do. For some, it’s luck… we attract people w… | /r/seduction | 30/01/22 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Does the calibre of women that you attract show what level of attractiveness you are?Actually only slightly true, we tend to aim 25 percent higher - https://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-45114692 | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Any practical books on inner game?I run mens work events and have a dating coaching company. | /r/seduction | 24/01/22 09:49 AM |
| 12 | Any practical books on inner game?Other than models by mark Manson listed above, I’d recommend “no more mr nice guy “ it’s one of the books I recommend most frequently to clients | /r/seduction | 23/01/22 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Any practical books on inner game?Yep this is about the only book on inner game I’d recommend that’s written by a guy in the pickup community. I’m saying this as a coach in the pickup community myself. | /r/seduction | 23/01/22 12:05 PM |
| 0 | Pick Up Coaches are BastardsAs somebody who has been a dating coach for 12 years I’m not surprised this has been your experience after all any Yahoo off the street can wake up one morning and decide he or she wants to teach men to be more successful with women. Over the years I’ve met many other dating coaches and I’ll tell you that 80% of them are scared little boys who really just needed to be hugged more as children. However there are also a few really amazing guys out there doing incredible work I’ve befriended some of… | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 08:04 AM |
| 2 | What are your fastest hook up stories?My fastest ever was in a bar in Sydney - I passed a cute girl who said to her friend I'm French ("he's cute") assuming reasonably that I wouldn't speak French. To which I said in French, "thank you, you're pretty hot too". She looked shy and embarassedz then started making out with me. 5 minutes later we were in a cubicle I'm in the women's bathrooms having awkward sex. 0 skill involved. Sometimes these things just happen | /r/seduction | 21/08/21 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Want Beautiful Women? Start Walking Away!The idea is that you won't have 5 hot girls a day UNTIL you're willing to walk away from hot girls... That's why so many guys struggle with this idea. | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Want Beautiful Women? Start Walking Away!YES! | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 10:08 PM |
| 33 | Want Beautiful Women? Start Walking Away!This is actually something I hadn't thought of before, but makes very good sense | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 12:30 AM |
| 16 | Want Beautiful Women? Start Walking Away!Out of curiosity - why wouldn't admins like this post? | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 10:15 PM |
| 50 | Want Beautiful Women? Start Walking Away!It's oddly empowering right? | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 10:14 PM |
| 0 | Reminder not to rely too much on dating advice from the opposite sex...heh - yeah I can see that, but it's not freudian at all - It holds up well compared to our modern psychological understanding of the formation of kinks in humans. It just takes it to a new level which is interesting. | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 02:01 AM |
| 0 | Reminder not to rely too much on dating advice from the opposite sex...So since a lot of our sexual kink actually forms around the age of 7 (this is something I already knew prior to speaking with her) - that means that a lot of our internal emotional dynamics tends to get included into our kinks. So if you had an overbearing mother, or a violent father, or you never felt loved, or you never felt you had any control at the age of 7 -it's likely to express in your kinks and sexual preferences. Then you recognise that when men are aroused, their disgust response drop… | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 11:48 PM |
| 0 | Reminder not to rely too much on dating advice from the opposite sex...Care to share why you disagree? I'm happy to discuss if you'd like to put on your big boy pants and talk about it :) You have to remember there's a very good chance I have considerably more experience in this area than you - any time you just swear at people is an opportunity to ask yourself why you had to lash out rather than try to talk about it. | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Reminder not to rely too much on dating advice from the opposite sex...I'd like to add in here by throwing in my not inconsiderable experience - I'll agree and disagree with the OP. (I've had a coaching company for over 12 years and saught after female coaches in the past many times). I did a LOT of hunting for good female coaches. I interviewed psychologists, Women who had worked with dating coaches professionally before. I've interviewed women who have their own dating coaching companies, and other various forms of 'coaches' for men who are female. This is what I… | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 09:53 PM |
| 388 | “Do women like muscles?”I've been working out since I was 14 until I had to stop at 32 for health reasons for 6 years when I was slim (not skinny) with no muscle. Now I have muscle back. I can tell you, the difference isn't so huge as guys like the poster are making out. There's a difference of maybe 20 percent improvement with muscles. And I'm a well muscled guy when I work out. Lucky genes. I say this as a guy with plenty of experience (slept with well over 100 women) Muscle helps but there are way more important thi… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 02:56 AM |
| 2 | How to handle this shit test feel like I don't have a good comeback?No, but any time a woman says something and I'm not sure how to respond, I'm sure to always have some options next time I hear it 😈 | /r/seduction | 07/02/21 01:02 AM |
| 4 | Visualization and/or Lists for an Ideal WomanI get all my clients to write out what they want - it's not MAGIC - it's just the power of knowing and being acutely conscious of what you want because when you are, then you suddenly start spotting veiled opportunity that you never would have before. You also will start subtly vocalising what you want with women - and women much prefer it when they feel a man knows what he wants. I wrote a 3 page document about what I wanted, and I ended up meeting her about a month later - we dated for 11 year… | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 09:37 PM |
| 5 | Self confidenceHere is my advice for you - it's the advice I always give men. STOP TRYING TO FAKE CONFIDENCE - it's totally overrated, especially during daygame. If I get a set of twins, and they're both insecure with women - I get one of them to fake confidence - and the other to be more humble and vocalise the fact he's nervous as he doesn't approach often - The latter almost ALWAYS gets a better opportunity to get to know the woman because she gives him more o fa chance, AND trusts him WAY MORE than the fak… | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Self confidenceHere is my advice for you - it's the advice I always give men. STOP TRYING TO FAKE CONFIDENCE - it's totally overrated, especially during daygame. If I get a set of twins, and they're both insecure with women - I get one of them to fake confidence - and the other to be more humble and vocalise the fact he's nervous as he doesn't approach often - The latter almost ALWAYS gets a better opportunity to get to know the woman because she gives him more o fa chance, AND trusts him WAY MORE than the fak… | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 09:33 PM |
| 13 | How to handle this shit test feel like I don't have a good comeback?Good answers already, I like the two above me. Other ideas. "For starters, I'm willing to be that I'm the only guy this week to randomly approach you on the street - I reckon that makes me a little intriguing" "Because i Know the best coffee in the area, and if you don't come with me, you'll never know where it is" "Because I chose to approach you, which means that clearly, I must have extraordinary taste" I'd just any of the above with a cheeky smile. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 09:28 PM |
| 11 | What's with this double standard of hot girls wanting to be treated as normal people while acting like dating less attractive guys is below them?Firstly - plenty of attractive women date less attractive men - unless you are focused on the kind of women who are obsessed with how they look, women who are slightly narcissistic and superficial. because then yes those particular women will focus on superficial traits in their partners as well but that certainly is not the majority of attractive women. Secondly, try re writing this in another way.... "What's up with all these Intelligent girls wanting to be treated like anyone else but not wan… | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 01:20 PM |
| 2 | How Much Does Muscle Matter To Attracting Women?u/BensonInFL - your point isn't about women being gold diggers, it's about women wanting to date men who can take care of themselves - there's a HUGE difference. Sure, men DO date women with no job and no career path.... Not me though - I wouldn't' date a woman who can't take care of herself either. That doesn't make me a gold digger. For that matter, I know plenty of women who have dated flat broke dudes - some of them were pretty hot too. But that's not the norm, I agree -most women want men w… | /r/seduction | 25/11/20 11:44 AM |
| 27 | How do you respond when she says "your too young for me"I used to say " oooh that's true, you wouldn't be able to keep up with me.... " Now that I'm 37 and they say I'm too old I say "ooooh that's true, you'd have no idea what you're doing would you?" | /r/seduction | 15/07/20 07:35 AM |
| 2 | SEA for black girlsProbably Dominican Republic - saw the exact same older man with hot young black woman down there that you see in SE Asia with Asian women | /r/seduction | 15/12/19 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Should I think about dating a TR (trans woman) person?I really hate when people say "If you have sex with a woman who has penis, then you're secretly gay" Human sexuality just doesn't work like that - Also, if you can see the amount of pornhub searches for transgender porn, you'd be truly amazed how many straight guys get off on the idea in real life. The Truth is that human sexuality is super-duper complicated and messy - and if we stopped trying to label men (and women for that matter)for playing with their sexual tastes, the world would be a hap… | /r/seduction | 15/12/19 05:59 AM |
| 74 | Guys who got fit/muscular, how did that help your game?I went the other way I’ve been muscular since I was 15, worked out 5 days a week for 17 years. - then I got really sick and lost it all and became quite slim. The end result? Maybe 15 percent harder. And that’s generous. The long story? Don’t work out and get ripped for women. It’s not worth the effort. Do it for yourself, do it for your health, do it if it makes you feel good about yourself. | /r/seduction | 08/12/19 08:31 AM |
| 1 | How Introverts Should Flirt - The Introvert's Super PowerSo, it's because as a general rule, we get good at what we focus on and enjoy. So Introverts, generally enjoy Deep and meaningful conversations with one or two other people MUCH MORE than extroverts do. So over a lifetime, they invest much more time in these kinds of conversations. Extroverts generally enjoy being around large groups of people and bouncing from group to group etc. So they tend to spend much more time getting practice there, and end up better at it. That's just a generality of co… | /r/seduction | 10/11/19 08:55 PM |
| 3 | How Introverts Should Flirt - The Introvert's Super PowerHAHAHHA my favourite answer to a TLDR in a long time! | /r/seduction | 10/11/19 03:31 AM |
| 2 | How Introverts Should Flirt - The Introvert's Super PowerCheers Stinky, We're actually working hard not to make it look nicer, and provide more detail on the responses if people want to learn more (especially on how to interpret the graph at the end) | /r/seduction | 10/11/19 02:25 AM |
| 8 | How Introverts Should Flirt - The Introvert's Super PowerAhh so, you're interpreting the term wrongly - An introvert isn't shy by definition - or scared of people. That's just a common misconception of the term. So you could have been wrongly thinking of yourself your whole life. You can easily be a shy extrovert, or an extroveret with social anxiety. Introversion/extroversion is about your preferences - I'm a mild introvert - I talk to 100s of men on a stage, I'm social and pick up women at bars/clubs... BUT I DEFINITELY prefer 1:1 conversations in a… | /r/seduction | 10/11/19 12:53 AM |
| 5 | How Introverts Should Flirt - The Introvert's Super PowerWait, what science is this based on? Do a bit of research on human personality profiling - It's a pretty well-documented science - It's based on different brain wiring/ hormone levels etc. Especially tests like BIG 5 - OCEAN which is the result of extremely rigorous and well understood channels. | /r/seduction | 10/11/19 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Is She Out Of Your League? She Just Might Be - Why this is GOOD NEWSApparently there's no such thing as watching my video before posting either :P | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Tinder or bumbleThere's a solid guide on most of those skillsets here: https://schoolofattraction.com/ultimate-seduction-guide/ | /r/seduction | 15/03/19 11:06 PM |
| 3 | Question about abundance.Hey mate, I think this sounds like a sensible question from a sensible guy. Try not thinking about 'abundance' right now - I mean the idea of an abundance mentality is a powerful one, and I don't want to dismiss it, but I think it can't serve you right now. Like telling a poor person 'it takes money to make money' - Which, while true, isn't the only path to success (spoken as a guy who was once poor and still started a thriving company with a total startup fund of $1000). Instead, think abou… | /r/seduction | 15/03/19 09:16 PM |
| 3 | Tinder or bumbleHey bud, I'm going to give you some feedback you may/may not like, but it's the feedback you need. Your question suggests a lack of underlying understanding of the sexual escalation process, along with a lack of understanding of general social calibration. Online dating is rarely just a 'hey wanna F@#$' process, it's a pickup like any other at a bar or during the day. As a guy who's had a very large number of sexual encounters through tinder/bumble I can honestly tell you there's no 'simpl… | /r/seduction | 15/03/19 09:10 PM |
| 8 | How much does having a dog help with women?Haha yep, dogs are almost CHEATING when it comes to picking women up - Take your cute puppy for a walk anywhere teeming with women, and you'll have them approaching you. I have a client right now who doesn't need a dog to pick up girls, but every time he takes his dog for a walk on the beach he comes home with a number. So yeah as has been said, the dog shows you have empathy and care for animals - it's a sexy set of traits. | /r/seduction | 15/03/19 09:04 PM |
| 32 | Is it ok to just want casual sex?Well, where should I Start here.. This is a good question with so much I Want to say to it, I'll put it in bullet points ot make it easier to consume. 1) It's very normal to want casual sex - It's 100% healthy and part of a regular sex drive for BOTH men and women. Almost everyone will want casual sex at least for periods of their lives. I'm in a 10 year relationship and every now and again we open it up so we can both enjoy casual sex. 2) I think it's more healthy emotionally, not to just f… | /r/seduction | 14/03/19 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Good first interaction, but no date (Need advices)Well it doesnt' hurt to try again really - a bit of ego loss, but honestly who cares, and you gain nothing at all by giving up - if you try and fail, you learn something new about reading women, if you try and succeed you learn to trust your gut. | /r/seduction | 11/03/19 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Good first interaction, but no date (Need advices)So, it doesn't sound like a great outcome for you here. There are lots of women who are flirtatious by nature - one of my close friends is like this - She never does anything inappropriate, but she always gives men (myself included) this lingering eye contact that feels like it's screaming 'i like you'. And she has no clue she does it (some flirt with guys on purpose just for attention of course) - it's a habit she picked up that makes guys treat her better and she's trying to break it but doi… | /r/seduction | 11/03/19 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Crippling Social Anxiety- help?So this might not be a popular response, but it's what I believe MANY guys with crippling anxiety miss out on. How is your regular social skill set? Can you walk into a room of men and women you don't know and make platonic friendships? Or are you struggling on an entire social level? I ask becasue most guys plain out need to work on their social skills - women be damned - And what they try to do is force themselves into the most high stakes situations imaginable - approaching a hot woman IN… | /r/seduction | 11/03/19 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Can I still get good results on Tinder? Or is it a waste of time now?Yes actually that's a good idea, I might just do that! | /r/seduction | 10/03/19 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Can I still get good results on Tinder? Or is it a waste of time now?HEY! There aren't many of us :) | /r/seduction | 09/03/19 10:07 PM |
| 3 | Just a bad night.Hey mate, I have a couple of bits of advice for you. 1) Stop measuring your nights by how well you picked up, and start measuring them by how hard you pushed yourself and how much you learned from the night. Focus on those things and you'll realise your night was highly productive and you should be patting yoiurself on the back. 2) Stop relying on alcohol to boost your ego - It quickly become a crutch to lean on - I don't have to say too much here, this has all be said before. 3) Avoid the… | /r/seduction | 09/03/19 09:55 PM |
| 1 | 11 Brutal Truths About Approach AnxietyWell that's never any fun - but it's a part of being anxious - The more extreme fear responses will go down with familiarity - So it's unlikely you'll forever be sweating every time you talk to a girl ;) | /r/seduction | 08/03/19 03:09 AM |
| 3 | Contractions from Dating CoachesOkay - Fair pre-warning I'm a dating coach too - But I'll tell you what I'd tell a friend looking for a datin coach ( I wouldn't coach a friend so I'd help him find someone else to help him). When deciding whose advice to follow, you have to step back first and ask yourself 'how emotionally healthy does their overall outlook on women and life FEEL to you?'. MANY pick up coaches walk though life with a narcissistic philosophy - Now I'm using that term as the actual psychological condition - A Nar… | /r/seduction | 07/03/19 09:49 PM |
| 11 | 11 Brutal Truths About Approach AnxietyI'd honestly say that the truth about approach anxiety is that it will never go away completely - It will get less with experience, and somtimes you'll be in such a good state it will be completely gone in that moment - But have a bad week, or a bad day, and approach anxiety will be there again. Stop trying to make it disappear, instead, learn to feel the fear and take action in spite of it. Look it in the eyes and say 'hello' then go do your approaches. If you become dependent on not feeling … | /r/seduction | 06/03/19 10:16 PM |
| 14 | Don't Take Dating Advice from WomenI think you're sort of right here... But I think there's more to be added in here. If you have a choice between a) A guy who started out crap with women, who is now great with women OR b) A woman - You should choose a) because again it's the fisherman vs fish eater analogy - the guy will have teh better quality feedback for you. a) A mate who has shagged a few girls in his life OR b) A Woman - This is MUCH LESS CLEAR - Really you should take advice from both and balance things out - For many guy… | /r/seduction | 04/03/19 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Guys I’ve never seriously talked to a girl ever, and I just asked a girl out on a date in 2 days. I need helpHey mate - I think the important thing to do is stop treating this like a date - You're putting a very large amount of pressure on youself. At this point, the best way to look at this, is catching up with a friend. You don't have to kiss her, you don' thave to hold her hand, you just have to hang out together alone, with the knowledge that you're both into each other. YES eventually you'll need to start pushing things and flirting more, but to start, just take the 'date' pressure off - This do… | /r/seduction | 03/03/19 10:06 PM |
| 21 | Go out and talk to peopleI think the work that you're doing on yourself is what more guys need to do! Learning to pick up women shouldn't be like playing the piano - i.e. a thing you do now and again when there's a piano around. It should become integrated with a regular lifestyle. Like your food diet - A successful diet is one that's just a part of your life now so you're a healthier person. Becoming a man who lives a life that puts him in front of lots of new women, and he takes initiative to flirt with them and learn… | /r/seduction | 27/02/19 09:41 PM |
| 1 | How to be mean and sexy at the same time?I think there's some great advice here already, but i want to expand on it a bit. I think the biggest difficulty is your question - How to be mean and sexy at the same time. There's a better kind of question or questions you should be asking - how do I come across more edgy and less eager to please, how to I tease her playfully in a way that's charming and not making me look like an asshat. How do I set clear boundaries and become comfortable saying 'no that's not okay' to a woman without lookin… | /r/seduction | 27/02/19 09:37 PM |
| 6 | Seducing girls can be confusingYes this is a super-common experience, we got into the habit of being excited when girls would tell us we weren't going to have sex becasue we knew we WERE going to have sex. I find there are 2 main reasons women say this. 1) They are actually saying it to themselves - They feel themselves getting weak, and are trying to remind themselves not to have sex with this guy they barely know. 2) They want to hold onto the option of not having sex with you - A lot of women have the experience of sud… | /r/seduction | 24/02/19 09:46 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop feeling shitty the next day after having no successThis might sound counter-intutitve - But one of the worst things to become obsessed with it being successsful with women. Too many guys focus all their energy one being successful, and it makes any kind of failure a gruesome experience. Imagine if you regularly went out and your focus was. 1) How much can I learn in one pickup session? 2) How can I have fun? So instead of wanting to be successful you're focussed on learning and having fun. If you aren't consistently failing, then you aren't … | /r/seduction | 24/02/19 09:42 PM |
| 1 | How should I make a honest friendship?Hey mate, This feels like a case of her honouring her own needs. What I mean is - She's probaly a jealous/insecure type - She would want/expect any guy she dates to drop all contact with girls he may have potentially dated because in her mind, that's the right thing to do (hint: It's NOT the right thing to drop friends for a potential date). But for her this is a relationship rule. Honestly - You don't want people like this in your life, they'll cause more trouble than they're worth. Male or fem… | /r/seduction | 20/02/19 09:13 PM |
| 2 | When out clubbing, don't follow a woman around (even if you are helping her looking for her phone), ultimately, this will be your downfall. Lesson learned, week 11 of my seduction journey.I feel like this is deadly oversimplified.... e.g. if I've been talking to a woman who has invested a lot in the conversation, and she needs to find her friend who is leaving the club to say goodbye to her - I'll walk with her and still go home with her. To let her go alone is to invite future complication needlessly. I think too many guys get obsessed with the 'alpha' mindset - Yes you should generally be leading - but a leader isnt' the one who is always calling every shot - That's how low… | /r/seduction | 20/02/19 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Guys I have been interviewing and talking to women about the problems they face while dating. I wish I hadn't (vent)First of all mate, I LOVE your approach to this - reminds me of myself - Not to assume, but to go out and ask questions and try to learn from both sides of the fence. So first of all, YES, in dating most men put ALL THE BLAME on women and most women put ALL THE BLAME on men - It's like having an argument with a girlfriend, from your standpoint it's CLEARLY her fault - But she swears up and down it's all your fault. The truth in my experience is that it almost always is that it takes two to tango… | /r/seduction | 18/02/19 09:20 PM |
| 6 | Need advice on holding her attention when another guy joins the conversation.I'd actually argue I see myself as the prize and not the woman - I don't NEED any one particular woman to want me, and most of the time she's never proven herself worth fighting for. It's only a defining feature of being a 'real man' if you tell yourself that. I've been in this game for 15 years now, I've never seen 2 guys compete over a woman where they don't lose self-respect. It's petty and childish, and entirely driven by ego games. I don't need to beat other men for my ego to be happy. Th… | /r/seduction | 18/02/19 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Need advice on holding her attention when another guy joins the conversation.Well here's the thing - If his open was better than yours and he proves to be more engaging than you right off the bat, then I'd just learn from my experiecne - watch what he does that you didn't do - And find another woman. Trying to get caught up with games with a guy who has better game than you will rarely end in your favor. | /r/seduction | 18/02/19 12:08 AM |
| 15 | Need advice on holding her attention when another guy joins the conversation.I always had a rule in Pickup - never fight with another man for a woman - it's served me incredibly well. When another man tries to jump into my set, what do I do? I step back for a while and watch how she handles it. I also watch how he's handling it. WAtching tells me everything I need to know. If I did a good enough job engaging her, then she will be friendly to him but a bit standoffish, if she definitely didn't like me then she'll become super engaged with him as a way of escaping from me.… | /r/seduction | 17/02/19 09:25 PM |
| 5 | Anyone else tired of picking up/gaming chicks?Yep - Totally normal and healthy! I've been in this game 15 years, and there are 2 kinds of guys. 1) Guys who use pickup as an emotional crutch or drug to deal with unresolved emotional issues - They constantly and forever chase the chemical hit that picking up and shagging strange women gives them. They're quite unhappy in spite of their success and can never work out why. 2) Guys who use pickup as part of their emotional and personal development as men - They jump into shagging lots of w… | /r/seduction | 17/02/19 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Every time I try approaching a girl, it doesn't get any easier.So the HUGE key here is to create habits - you need to build the habit of approaching women, not make it a thing you do from time to time whenever you work up the nerve to do it. So set yourself a goal - Make iti really easy and slowly work your way up. See if you can appraoch a girl every day for 30 days, but just ask her for directions somewhere. The key is that you're starting a habit of walking up to and talking to a cute girl EVERY DAY. After that first month, you start doing more than just… | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 09:25 PM |
| 12 | I attract a certain typeHey man, this is completely normal - EVEREYONE ends up with this situation. The truth is, that we all attract reflections of what we have going on internally. It's like a red rag to a bull. So, have you ever wondered how some girls keep managing to find men who beat on them? While others seem to keep managing to find sweet guys to date? It's not actually the way they choose women, it's the way women choose them. For example, I'm like a beacon to sassy outspoken south american women. BUT 3 years … | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 09:22 PM |
| 7 | Every girl I find hot, I think is out of my league.She MAY be out of your league, she may not - BUT Stop measuring 'league' by attractiveness. You need to measure it by what you're brining to the table as a complete man. Will her life be better or worse for having you in it. If your life is a bit of a mess, you're unhealthy, you drink too much etc. And she has all her shit going on, getting somewhere in life etc. Then yeah she may be out of your league because she's working hard on herself, why would she want a guy around who's going to drag… | /r/seduction | 13/02/19 09:28 PM |
| 7 | Been ghosted for over 10 timesHey bud, I'm guesing the girls doing this are under 25 - why? just that thing kind of thing is how young girls deal with rejection because they're generally insecure. So what's happening? Imagine that you're at a house party - You meet a guy there (you're a guy too), and he is a nice dude, friendly to chat to, you chat for 30 mins about random stuff then the conversation dies out and you decide to go chat to some other friends. Before you leave, the guy says 'why don't we catch up for a beer… | /r/seduction | 13/02/19 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Is There An Alternative To Learning PUA - No More Cold Approaching?I run the biggest dating coaching company in Australia - been running it for over a decade now. I was writing my field reports 15 years ago on alt.seduction.fast when I was first learning this stuff... My entire lifestyle depends on my ability to coach men to cold-approach. I'm theorizing there could be a different way forward for different men, yes before I create the course definitely because that's smart business :) | /r/seduction | 12/02/19 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Is There An Alternative To Learning PUA - No More Cold Approaching?I know a lot of guy swho have been cold approaching for 12 months and have barely any results to show for it... Obviously I know lots of guys who also made great progress - But im not convinced it's more work at all for many guys. Certainly less painful so some. | /r/seduction | 12/02/19 01:17 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with not getting closure?Hey bud, this is definitely one of those things you have to work on - the clingyness won't just impact your relationships wtih women either - Although it will come on most strongly with women - You'rue likely going to be sensitive to the motions and actions of friends as well. Things at work are going to get to you etc. Understand that at it's core is often a self-value problem - You're trying to get it from the people around you very strongly (we all do it to a small degree) - When those people… | /r/seduction | 11/02/19 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Do I still have a chance with her?So a lot depends on how much effort you really want to invest with this girl, but there are a number of ways you could have handled it (waiting a long time to ask the question always makes things harder). I'm not sure why it should be obvious that she didn't respond to the friends with benefits sentiment. There are enough women who would have been open to that. BUT The fact she didn't' even respond tells me that in all likelihood you made it feel like you were looking for a relationship, then yo… | /r/seduction | 11/02/19 09:56 PM |
| 1 | I think cold approaching is (mostly) a waste of timeThe answer to that depends a lot on what your current skill and experience level is, if the answer to both is low, then maybe not because it's quite a long journey... | /r/seduction | 11/02/19 05:34 AM |
| 3 | Are You A Shy Guy? Here's How To Make Girls Approach YOUI'll have to be honest here and say that there are only 3 reliable ways that I've seen the 'get women to approach you' strategy to work - and I've been in this industry for 15 years. 1) Be really attractive - well dressed - in a great state. This is the obvious one that someone else has already pointed out in this thread, but it's true. 2) Be demonstrating massive social proof - So you could be famous - OR you could be a host of an event out for after-party drinks (where everyone is crowded … | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 10:03 PM |
| 1 | I think cold approaching is (mostly) a waste of timeHey mate, I think your assumption about it being a poor use of time would be correct if cold approaching gave a static result that never improves. BUT there are 2 HUGE reasons to stick with cold approaching. 1) As you master it, your results WILL get better - I don't know if the average here is one in 200 - But I and all the coaches at my company can go out for a night out and find 3 women we're going to sleep with over the next week and likely one of them that night. So it does become extre… | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 09:57 PM |
| 3 | My personal experience as an Asian man going out with friends who are all White, taller, and better looking than meHEy mate, looks do play a role - pickup is easier if you meet what society deems to be attractive yardsticks. But I've coached 1000s of guys and most of them not overly attractive - for them, the key is just developing personality, dressing well, making ai really positive first impression, making her laugh, and building rapport. The world is full of below average guys who seem to consistently attract hot women - look out for it next time you're at a night club. So if SOME unattractive guys can… | /r/seduction | 09/02/19 10:03 PM |
| 1 | AproachingHey mate, this is a HUGE question you're asking - like... 30% of pick up is knowing the long and complex answers to these questions. But the simple answer is, in a club I just walk up to random girl and say 'hey, I saw you guys over here and thought I'd come and say hello, I'm Damien' No need to overcomplicate it - But most guys want to overcomplicated it. I'd highly suggest watching some youtube videos on this topic (start with my channel 'schoolofattraction') but just watch a bunch of st… | /r/seduction | 09/02/19 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Lots of good signals of attraction in person and through text, then blows me off as soon as I ask her outHey bud, these kind of situations are super-common and that doesn't stop them from also being super-frustrating! This is a more baffling situation than others because from what you've said she has been quite flirtatious, and also in her texts to you she has been relatively forward. So I can't infer anything done 'wrongly' or wrongly enough to warrant the blowoff - But I think it's important to realise that this isn't necessarily a full on blowoff - Perhaps it is, but it's hard to say. So r… | /r/seduction | 09/02/19 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Can Any Guy REALLY Learn To Attract Women? - An Honest ResponseI Love that book! | /r/seduction | 26/09/18 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Why Is Tinder So Frustrating? - A Dive Into The Mathematics Of TinderIt's a feedback loop of sorts - Male behavior on Tinder filters the type and behavior of women who will be active on Tinder. You may think 'what makes you say it's the guys fault, and women aren't just bitches?' Well, because this is exactly how it works in bars and night clubs around the world. To control the quality and quantity of women in your venue, you must control the behavior of the men. That's why many clubs are so picky about the guys they let inside to the point of being racist - if y… | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 10:18 PM |
| 2 | How To Get A Specific Girl To Like You - And Why You Never Should!!I guess that's sort of my point though - How to get any girl to like you creates narcissistic unhappy people, because it should never be about getting 'any girl to like you' it should be about getting the RIGHT GIRLS to like you. | /r/seduction | 09/08/18 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Use This New Tinder Location Hack To Dramatically Boost Your Tinder Tanking (Matches)Very good question, I haven't researched bumble anywhere near as much as Tinder, so I can just say PROBABLY - But I have a bunch of bumble potential tricks I plan to try out in the near future. | /r/seduction | 03/08/18 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Use This New Tinder Location Hack To Dramatically Boost Your Tinder Tanking (Matches)Good question, NO - So this isn't just some arbitrary unfair number picked by the programmers - It's purely mathematical. 2 factors cause this skew - 1) There are fewer female Tinder users than male (so fewer women to go around. 2) Women swipe right far less frequently than males, further lowering that number. In fact women swipe less frequently in each sitting whether it's left or right. | /r/seduction | 03/08/18 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Use This New Tinder Location Hack To Dramatically Boost Your Tinder Tanking (Matches)Unfortunately it wouldn't' work to upgrade. See when you change you location with Tinder Plus/Gold, it still tells girls you are 3000miles or whatever away, which brutalises your potential match rate, if it looks like you are very close to them. You can do it on IOS, you just have to have your phone jailbroken. | /r/seduction | 03/08/18 12:17 PM |
| 16 | Use This New Tinder Location Hack To Dramatically Boost Your Tinder Tanking (Matches)My last 2 hack videos went up, both were completely unique hacks, and Tinder changed policy within 3 weeks of my videos going up - They only got about 200k views each which I agree is a very small number on Youtube. However, A number of youtube 'Tinder Hack' titled videos have uncovered exploitable holes in Tinder's offering, all with the same or fewer view counts than mine, and all were fixed within a month or 2 of the video going up. Personally, if I owned tinder or any other only software, I'… | /r/seduction | 03/08/18 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Why Pick Up Artists Must Evolve - For Their Own Good!I'd be very open to discussing why you disagree - It's easy to just lable it 'blue pill' - except I'm a men's rights activist here in Australia, so I feel you're likely mis-labeling. I also hosted some meetings here with Cassie Jaye when she was here in Australia. She and I are on the same side on these topics. | /r/seduction | 30/06/18 03:52 AM |
| 1 | 5 Keys To Be Amazing In Bed - More Guys Need To Know ThisI have a lot of female friends who will disagree with you that guys who have had lots of 'experience' are better in bed. Some guys remain a terrible lay because they simply don't understand some of the factors spoken about in this video and thread. | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 12:43 AM |
| 1 | 5 Keys To Be Amazing In Bed - More Guys Need To Know ThisI like what you've written here - Although I still feel it's a bit limiting and doesn't see the full picture. Yes hot guys will have an easier time getting laid. BUT as women get more savvy and become higher quality (more confident, better boundaries, have their lives in order), just being a hot guy isn't enough any more. I imagine our lady poster will agree here, hot guys woul dhave had a better chance with her 2 years ago than they would now, unless they have something else going for them. So … | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 12:41 AM |
| 7 | 5 Keys To Be Amazing In Bed - More Guys Need To Know ThisUm Peter, I MADE THIS VIDEO - So yeah, seriously :) | /r/seduction | 08/05/18 09:17 PM |
| 2 | 5 Keys To Be Amazing In Bed - More Guys Need To Know ThisDefinitely agree, and good insight for the guys! Thanks for sharing. | /r/seduction | 08/05/18 06:56 AM |
| 1 | What's More Important From A Coach - WATCHING you in set, or HEARING you in set?Of course I have, I love that show! They need to make more seasons more quickly.. But yeah best of both would be ideal - Something Ii've been playing with to get right, it's oddly fidgety trying to listen and watch and give feedback in coaching sessions. I'm guessing there must be a way to get it right though. | /r/seduction | 26/04/18 01:10 AM |
| 1 | What's More Important From A Coach - WATCHING you in set, or HEARING you in set?Okay cool so yes these things are important - But I'd argue they account for 30% of the picture. YES you'd lose them, but I'm wondering if hearing the audio makes up for that. Because you'd LOSE all the audio by only looking at the body. | /r/seduction | 26/04/18 01:00 AM |
| 2 | What's More Important From A Coach - WATCHING you in set, or HEARING you in set?Worth noting that the body language being majoritiy of communication is a myth that has long been debunked - Even the original researcher was never making the claims that popular psychology took as gospel. https://www.forbes.com/sites/carolkinseygoman/2012/07/24/busting-5-body-language-myths/#e5589743922e I'm not saying body languague isn't an important thing, but it's hardly anything close to 'most' of the communication between you and a woman. | /r/seduction | 25/04/18 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Why It's Your Fault Women Take Advantage Of You (And How To Stop It)No it wasn't taken personally at all - You've actually inspired me to make a video around this topic.. The whole 'overdoing theory' thing that so many guys do when they start out. Because yeah if you sit watching youtube videos all day rather than talking to real women, you'll get nowhere fast, and I know a lot of dudes are guilty of that. | /r/seduction | 23/04/18 02:36 AM |
| 2 | Why It's Your Fault Women Take Advantage Of You (And How To Stop It)Well in case that was an honest question - becase behind it is a fair question. With victims of sexual abuse - They already experience an unhealthy culture of self-blaming. Not an empowering self blame, but a critical and societally judgmental self-blame. Adding to that fire witha well intentioned notion of 'if you take the blame you take back the control', would get lost in the wave of abusive victim blaming. With guys who get taken advantage of by women - They consistently blame the world for … | /r/seduction | 23/04/18 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Why It's Your Fault Women Take Advantage Of You (And How To Stop It)I understand this line of logic - it's completely rational.. And I supsect for some guys it's true.. But on the broader scale, humans are meant to learn from stories and not a laundry list of facts. For example when facts and advice are provided in the form of a story or coherent context, the data within is retained far more effectively. This understanding of data retention has been researched quite extensively. It's true of children all the way to late adulthood. That's why ALL powerful educato… | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 09:55 PM |
| 6 | 3 Attraction Skills That Get 90% Of The Results (And Why Most Men Fail To Learn Them)That's a good question dude - One of the things I get my clients to do for the times I'm not around to coach them is to audio-record themselves and listen back later on. Just listening to your own interactions can teach you so much about what worked and what didn't work. Most of the time you can instantly hear that you weren't as funny as you thought you were or that the conversation wasn't really as deep as you thought it was. | /r/seduction | 19/04/18 12:48 AM |
| 26 | Most women want to be dominated by a man.I agree, but I feel there's one important point missing. The woman chooses to SUBMIT her power to the man, he doesn't take it from her. It's a critical difference. When guys get that fact wrong, is when problems happen. | /r/seduction | 03/04/18 09:43 AM |
| 1 | When She Doesn't Text Back - What To Do (And Why It Happens)I think it does play into that somewhat, but I've had a huge number of students get a second date, get much better rapport, make a better impression and go on to take things further with her. So regardless of the reason it works, it has proved to be quite a tidy way of getting antoher chance. | /r/seduction | 03/04/18 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Stop Approaching Women Out Of Your League - Improve Your Social Intelligence FirstIt would probably help if you watched and/or understood the video - I said leagues had nothing to do with looks... Actually listening to what people say is a vital pick up skill too btw | /r/seduction | 30/03/18 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Stop Approaching Women Out Of Your League - Improve Your Social Intelligence FirstI think perhaps you didn't watch the video? Every single coach knows, some guys come on board and have such low social skills, it will take quite a lot of time to learn the social skills to talk to highly socialised women without it being extremely awkward. Go talk to one some time. | /r/seduction | 30/03/18 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Stop Approaching Women Out Of Your League - Improve Your Social Intelligence FirstTrue... what would I know. I've only been coaching for over a decade... | /r/seduction | 30/03/18 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Stop Approaching Women Out Of Your League - Improve Your Social Intelligence FirstYeah man, Glue said it about right! The video is really mean to offer hope to guys who I know suffer a lot of frustration feeling like they can never mastre this stuff because they're still getting lots of rejections in spite of working hard to do everything right. | /r/seduction | 30/03/18 02:44 AM |
| 6 | You've Got To Get These 3 Things Sorted Before Trying To Attract WomenGathan, yeah totally - I never meant to imply it was THEIR problem, youre friends have no specifica obligation but to be who they are - More that you need to find friends who can support all aspects of who you are or you're always left not well support. | /r/seduction | 27/03/18 02:50 AM |
| 11 | You've Got To Get These 3 Things Sorted Before Trying To Attract WomenI'm not saying that your friends are't good people, or that they aren't loyal - BUT if you can't share your deeper emotional stuff wtih them or you have to hide whole sections of who you are, then they aren't serving their full roles as part of an emotional support network that everyone needs. | /r/seduction | 27/03/18 02:13 AM |
| 30 | Why Are Hot Girls Hard To Pick Up? It's Not What You Think..Well you don't have to compliment her in the first 10 seconds... Maybe she's a tourist who has decided to come accross the ocean all on her own and explore a new country - You could compliment her on being advenurous and brave... Or maybe she's studying something really difficult at uni and you could complement her on being ambitious or hard working. If you find a woman with nothing else good about her othr than her looks... run away :P | /r/seduction | 22/03/18 06:13 AM |
| 55 | Why Are Hot Girls Hard To Pick Up? It's Not What You Think..That's actually really well put Baller. The trick to complimenting any woman is to find something about her that 1) isn't her looks and 2) Genuinely deserves a compliment. That way she'll feel like she earned the compliment. Empty compliments are a huge turnoff at the best of times. | /r/seduction | 22/03/18 02:59 AM |
| 1 | The Serious Problem With Gender Equality That Needs AddressingYeah I agree - What I mean to say is... A lot of the big shot calling feminists are quite extremist and short sighted. But all the regular day to day feminists I meet are lovely sensible people who care very much about both sides of the debate. But god, the ones at the top ack... | /r/MensRights | 09/03/18 09:33 AM |
| 1 | The Serious Problem With Gender Equality That Needs AddressingI wouldnt' even know how to find that conversation back sadly.. But it's not a completely uncommon experience if you try to back something pro-woman occasionally. But yes you are right - The false allegation vs trauma of rape trials for victims is a serious issue. Again it's sort indicative of my video - You can't just look at the men's side because if you tweak that side wrongly then you make things WORSE for women, and vice versa. You need solutions that make life better for both genders at th… | /r/MensRights | 09/03/18 08:58 AM |
| 1 | The Serious Problem With Gender Equality That Needs AddressingYEah I know Warren Farrel's story and it's pretty sad and annoying all at the same time. It's the extreme feminists who are behind a lot of this though. I have femist female friends who are perfectly rational and still believe in men's rights at the same time. But nobody in the feminist circles dare to speak out because they'll be slandered and called names by the extremists on the top. It's pretty upsetting. To be fair though, any time I've taken a feminist issue like... How badly rape victims … | /r/MensRights | 09/03/18 08:28 AM |
| 3 | The Serious Problem With Gender Equality That Needs AddressingThat is honestly the single topic I'm most likely to argue about with a feminist.. It's like the logic collapses around them and they don't want to listen to the reason behind it. | /r/MensRights | 09/03/18 05:05 AM |
| 1 | There Are Some Truths That All Guys Learning Pickup Need To KnowWell, you need to be empowered. If you can't get a half-decent job AND you have no game plan to excel further in any way.. You need to deal with that first before you think about picking up women. If you were earning very little but working hard at a game plan for a better life - You'd do just fine with women. That was my situation when I first started. | /r/seduction | 16/02/18 10:47 AM |
| 1 | There Are Some Truths That All Guys Learning Pickup Need To KnowYeah it's such a huge topic actuallly - I truly believe if we give women the right 'payment' then we'll get what we want to. The payment isn't really that hard either. How hard is it to connect with another person and make them feel valued and liked and a bit romanced? It's really just a change in perspective. | /r/seduction | 15/02/18 11:39 PM |
| 7 | What Most Men Get Wrong About Self Confidence And AttractionSo yes I agree with you there 100% - The key here is that you aren't hiding the emotions. I feel a bit nervous after 12 years of approaching if I'm walking up to a super hot chick. But There's no need for me to tell her I'm nervous, but im not trying to put on a super-confident act either, I'm just being me and that's good enough for my long list of women I've been with in the past. My main argument is that if you are super-nervous, you are better off not hiding it, over time you'll get more con… | /r/seduction | 11/02/18 05:41 AM |
| 11 | What Most Men Get Wrong About Self Confidence And AttractionWell the courage can't end the moment you tell them you're nervous.. Tell them you're nervous, then still be brave enough to tease them or escalate or push the interaction forwards, tell one of the girls you can't stop looking at her boobs! Because yeah, if you tell her you're scared, then hide in a corner she WILL lose all interest in you. As for Ben from friday night, he got one of the girls' numbers and he's got a date with her this thursday so it has worked out okay for him this far :) | /r/seduction | 11/02/18 01:50 AM |
| -1 | I Think Who You Choose To Date Is More Important Than Your Career...I'd like to pitch in here. I NEVER said you should put women above your career, I think that would be a very terrible thing to do. The meaning of this video has gotten lost in the comments above - The quality of your romantic relationships are really frigging important - Just as important if not more so for your life happiness. AND YET people think its nuts to spend money to improve their dating abilities. I say this because I watch people day in and day out in bad relationships and it makes lif… | /r/seduction | 20/07/17 11:15 AM |
| -12 | I Think Who You Choose To Date Is More Important Than Your Career...So what's yoru advice for all my clients with millionis of dollars who can't find a decent partner? I have a client right now.. he has 2 ferraris, and a Lambo... The women he does meet and seem interested in him treat him like crap and just want his money. He is 40 and has worked his arse off following his career and dream, and the last 3 women he dates have been cheating on him constantly. To be honest, career isn't enough. You need to understand yourself as a man and grow as a man outside of y… | /r/seduction | 20/07/17 05:16 AM |
| 1 | I Think Who You Choose To Date Is More Important Than Your Career...Hey man, what gives you the impression I'm a scam? Happy to answer questions :) | /r/seduction | 19/07/17 11:57 PM |
| -1 | I Think Who You Choose To Date Is More Important Than Your Career...Yeah man, both are important, and if they were equally important, than we should be willing to invest equally in mastering both right? But we don't, most people invest nothing in relationships in their lives.. Maybe marriage councilling when things go really badly.. | /r/seduction | 19/07/17 11:56 PM |
| 1 | How Does Life Change When You Become Successful With Women?I think Heath - That being successful is... Knowing what you want, and being able to set about getting it. There is a time for sewing wild oats, and indulging in sexual freedom, and a time for settling down in a relationship - I've done both, and wouldn't exchange either (in an 8 year relationship myself). As for pain of breaking up - Breakups hurt when you have no clue WTF happened. I mean they hurt always, but the crazy intense anguish is worst when you just feel like you were powerless. I've … | /r/seduction | 02/07/17 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Why One Night Stands Are A Terrible Strategy Getting LaidYeah, you're better off getting her number and going for the lay on the first or second date. You'll get a much higher hit rate that way for sure. | /r/seduction | 29/06/17 12:02 PM |
| 14 | Why One Night Stands Are A Terrible Strategy Getting LaidI thought I'd add a few more reasons here as well (didn't want to make the video too long). 1) Quality of women - Very few women are out looking for random hookups, those who are, are often in a messy emotional space - So you'll be consistently meeting lower quality women (on the whole, there are always good exceptions). I meet much classier women by going the casual sex angle. 2) Time Wasted - Only really talented guys can accurately predict if a woman is likely to go home with him or not after… | /r/seduction | 28/06/17 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Fake Self Confidence VS Real Self ConfidenceYEah.. i mean here's where we come up against the reality that the word 'confidence' has vastly different contexts and meanings... I have a friend who is a brilliant engineer... When I come to him with a tech issue, he's on fire talking about thermal conductivity and laminar airflow etc... But he's very insecure and I wouldn't call him an overall confident man, just a man who's confident ONLY when he's competent. Myself on the other hand, There are lots of things that I'm incompetent at.. for ex… | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Fake Self Confidence VS Real Self ConfidenceWell see I'd say that's more 'competence/comfort comes from knowing what to do" Actual self-confidence comes from liking and believing in yourself. It's easy to learn to be confident hitting on women in a bar, but the second she pushes your buttons where do you end up? Or the second she makes you feel insecure, how do you handle yoruself? I see so many 'PUA' guys who thorw hissy fits like little girls every time a woman throws him a curve ball or makes his life difficult in some way he isn't pre… | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Why Women Have Casual Sex - Why You Are Missing OpportunitiesThanks for the feedback!!! yeah I think I agree wiht everything you've said... Location has proven hard as I've been digitally nomadic AND my camera stand has broken 3 months ago, and needed to get a new one, but even then, yes keeping audience furthre engaged definitely needs a bit more visual... action I guess. I could easily open the depth of field, but I actually didn't mind the effect myself when I watched it . | /r/seduction | 11/06/17 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Why Women Have Casual Sex - Why You Are Missing OpportunitiesFor those saying that you have to be good looking or powerful or none of this will work - I'll tell you after coaching men for almost 10 years now - Being good looking certainly helps, being powerful is nice but only really helps with some kinds of women - Being passionate and driven whether you have money or not is absolute catnip - But people who have money are almost always pasionate and driven, so don't confuse that with a woman's unsatiable crave for power, which I really don't witness to b… | /r/seduction | 10/06/17 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Why Women Have Casual Sex - Why You Are Missing OpportunitiesYes I made this video myself BlackBelt | /r/seduction | 10/06/17 11:43 PM |
| 4 | Why Women Have Casual Sex - Why You Are Missing OpportunitiesWell don't forget that there are always some women who buck the trend, but if not getting these needs met, I'm guessing these were women who already slept with a LOT of guys? Possibly with issues of their own they're trying to work through, seeking validation from sex which never solves the issue etc. This video is more aimed at the majority of women rather than the minority. | /r/seduction | 10/06/17 04:51 AM |
| 1 | This 1 Technique Will Drive Women Crazy In BedDefinitely tell us how it goes bud | /r/seduction | 05/06/17 11:15 PM |
| 5 | This Is Why Women Don't Reply To Your Message When She Gives You Her NumberI mean that definitely works, if there's enough tension to make out, then the number will likely be solid... BUT I don't agree the opposite, that if it would be weird/awkward to kiss her, that the number then won't be a solid one.... I've had lots of amazing interactions with girls, especially during the day but sometimes during the night as well where a makeout would just be badly calibrated, but the rapport and fun we had laughing together has built me more than enough value for her to want to… | /r/seduction | 30/05/17 07:01 AM |
| 3 | This Is Why Women Don't Reply To Your Message When She Gives You Her NumberI agree with RockLobster for the most part - I've found that whether a call is a good idea depends largely on age - If I pick up a 30 year old (I'm 34), then I'll call. If I pick up a 21 year old, then I'll text. Younger women find it all a bit intimidating to get a call from a guy they don't know that well. They're used to their whole social lives being on text. | /r/seduction | 30/05/17 06:59 AM |
| 2 | The Psychology Of Why Women Don't Approach MenI use a number of apps, it's a workflow and isn't too time consuming - it still takes a while but isn't too bad :) | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 12:00 PM |
| 4 | The Psychology Of Why Women Don't Approach MenYeah I agree with you - Men do get judged, but nobody cares - I mean it's like saying sometimes wealthy people get judged for being wealthy, but it hardly matters to them. But for women, being judged sexually runs so deeply into her very core, that for almost all women it's a very big deal. | /r/seduction | 19/05/17 11:56 PM |
| 3 | The Psychology Of Why Women Don't Approach MenCheers man, happy to see some people are still enjoying them | /r/seduction | 19/05/17 10:42 PM |
| 8 | We all know attraction works differently between women and men, meaning things that attract men to women are different than what attracts women to men...but after that attraction sparks why do men know definitively they like X, when women still seem so wish washy about XWell i think there are some erronious assumptions here... Even if you haven't had a lot of female friends to ask, simply pick up a few romance novels - Women are certainly capable of, and often do get head over heals for a guy, and start thinking about him all the time, and getting a tad obsessed... There is a whole world of women being hurt because they're all obsessed with a guy and he doesn't seem to notice she exists, or cant make up his mind if he likes her or not. However we get fixated if… | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 11:25 PM |
| 2 | 3 Most Common Reasons Guys Get Rejected When Approaching Womenhahaha | /r/seduction | 16/05/17 03:05 AM |
| 2 | Scientific Studies Suggest Having More Choices Of Women Could Make Us LESS Happy?Definitely agreed! most people just put up with crappy partners and wonder why life sucks... | /r/seduction | 14/05/17 09:53 PM |
| 3 | Scientific Studies Suggest Having More Choices Of Women Could Make Us LESS Happy?Hrm... I think you guys don't realise how similar what you are saying is to what a similar group of women would be saying in a group right now... It's so easy to see only the one perspective. I've coached both men and women over the years, and it's alarming how out of touch we are with the other side's true experience. I've been with my partner 8 years - She was a pivotal force in the early days of my company (which became the biggest of it's kind in the country). She's a shrewd business thinker… | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 09:24 PM |
| 1 | The 2 Forms Of Value You Should Provide Women In The First 10 Minutes To Create AttractionNo definitely not! Of course there are lots of ways we could have value to a woman - But if you just want to focus on two really powerful ways to bring value and create attraction then I'd vote for these as being the 2 most powerful and worth of effort. | /r/seduction | 01/05/17 08:52 PM |
| 5 | Did You Read About The Guy Who He'd Never Date Hot Women Again?Here's the link to the article in New York Post: http://nypost.com/2017/04/12/why-hot-people-arent-worth-dating/ | /r/seduction | 15/04/17 02:12 PM |
| 4 | Why Trying To Get Rid Of Your Fears Is Making Them Worse!Hey guys, I know a lot of you have watched other videos of mine, I'm trying out a different format to mix things up (other than my live workshop style, and my animation videos). Let me know if you like/dislike this compared to the others. Also if there are any topics you'd like me to cover in future videos, definitely let me know. I make 3 a week, so always on the look out for great content ideas. | /r/seduction | 13/04/17 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Why Trying To Get Rid Of Your Fears Is Making Them Worse!Hey guys, this is a new type of content delivery format for my YouTube videos, let me know if you like/dislike it compared to my others. Also, let me know if there are any topics you'd like me to cover in future videos :) | /r/seduction | 13/04/17 03:40 PM |
| 75 | [FR] Girl says: "I'm not gonna have sex", end up having sex...Yeah it's easy to get thrown off at first, but you don't need to say or do anything complicated. When a girl would say it to me, I'd just say something like "Sure that's fine, I have no expectations, I just want to enjoy the evening wherever it goes. " Then go through your evening as though she never said anything at all. Escalate as usual etc. | /r/seduction | 13/04/17 03:29 PM |
| 184 | [FR] Girl says: "I'm not gonna have sex", end up having sex...Hahaha, Oh man, this post take me back! When I was still going out 5 nights a week learning this stuff, my best wingmen and I had a big inside joke going on that ANY TIME a girl told me 'we're not going to have sex tonight' We would do a little homer simpson "woop woop woop" dance in our heads because we were DEFINITELY getting laid. I have plenty of theories about why this is the case, but yeah, we proved that WAY more often than not, a woman telling us she wouldn't have sex with us on a partic… | /r/seduction | 13/04/17 02:16 PM |
| 11 | 4 Conversations to have a on a first date that build massive rapportActually guys, it would be TERRIBLE to ask these as direct questions - it totally would sound like a job interview! I said so directly in the video, that you can't outright ask these questions, you have make it conversational. | /r/seduction | 12/04/17 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Proof That You're Racist And Sexist | The Science Of First ImpressionsSorry to anyone who saw the first post, it was accidentally linked to the wrong video :S | /r/seduction | 08/04/17 04:44 PM |
| 5 | How To Pick Which Girls To Approach - And Which To AvoidHey all, I notice that some of you have gotten a bit tired of my animations, so I thought I'd put up a piece of one of my training events instead so you don't cop too much animation drain :) | /r/seduction | 06/04/17 03:33 PM |
| 1 | 5 Self Confidence Destroying Dating Lies We Tell OurselvesHow would you prefer I deliver the Info? Talking head gets boring very quickly, and people lose attention. If you have other ideas, I'm totally all ears :) These animations take WAY longer to put together than just standing in front of a camera. | /r/seduction | 05/04/17 04:34 AM |
| 1 | This 7 Day Body Language Hack Radically Improved My Self ConfidenceWell, it's impossible to please everyone, and not everyone is ready to hear any particular message. I've turned down pieces of great advice ten years ago, then I hear it NOW and suddenly it sinks in. That's just the way we are. We have to hear things at the right time or they don't get through our barriers. | /r/seduction | 02/04/17 01:53 PM |
| 2 | This 7 Day Body Language Hack Radically Improved My Self ConfidenceWell I certainly can't have everyone be a fan, so I'm okay that you think that. I have quite a long list of people whose lives I've changed with my "make believe" though, so I'll still sleep at night :) | /r/seduction | 02/04/17 01:49 PM |
| 2 | This 7 Day Body Language Hack Radically Improved My Self ConfidenceHaha, if you think that's PUA marketing then you certainly haven't spent enough time in any kind of online digital marketing space :P In other news, yeah it could be argued the whole thing is oversimplification - I could talk for an hour on all of these, but that would be a horribly boring youtube video.. A lot of it has to to with pace of movement (speed), because slow movements promote more negative emotional experience, but also the body movement when we walk, when we are depressed, we tend t… | /r/seduction | 02/04/17 01:12 AM |
| 3 | This 7 Day Body Language Hack Radically Improved My Self ConfidenceYeah there are no miracle cures, especially with severe depression (Which I've had before in my life). Severe depression can have all kinds of biochemical causes many of which your body langauge is pretty powerless against. The same is said for meditation, anti-depressants, and exercise. But that being said there's some pretty amazing research showing this type of work competes favorably with anti-depressants or exercise. | /r/seduction | 01/04/17 08:21 PM |
| 1 | This 7 Day Body Language Hack Radically Improved My Self ConfidenceHey guys, there's a 7 day challenge in this video, I'd love to see some of the Seddit members getting involved! | /r/seduction | 01/04/17 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Tinder is now available to use on your desktop, here's my quick review to see if it's any goodI seem to be able to use VPN to access it from most countries including AUS where I'm from - I just login with this link: https://tinder.com/app/login | /r/seduction | 30/03/17 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Tinder is now available to use on your desktop, here's my quick review to see if it's any goodNo man, it's totally free :) | /r/seduction | 30/03/17 04:25 PM |
| 3 | Tinder is now available to use on your desktop, here's my quick review to see if it's any goodHey mate, you should definitely try Tinder - It started as a dating app for your phone that connects you with women close by. There are lots of dating apps online and on your phone that do something similar, but world wide, Tinder just exploded to become the biggest and most popular. It also definitely has the hottest women of any dating app I've used. You just sign in using your facebook account. | /r/seduction | 30/03/17 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Why Most Pick Up Artists Have Low Self EsteemOkay so perhaps it wasn't clear - I'm not saying that every man who sleeps with lots of women has self esteem issues - I'm saying most the guys I met who do, have self esteem issues. Heck, when I was single, I certainly enjoyed myself plenty and it wasn't driven by low self esteem. It's a pretty obvious biological drive, to sleep with a large variety of women. But women and sex can also form an unhealthy cycle of behaviour which a lot of 'players' fall into badly. Just like a drug addiction. | /r/seduction | 18/03/17 04:23 PM |
| 4 | Why Most Pick Up Artists Have Low Self EsteemYeah I made a point to say 'most' are like that, not all - It's not just the men teaching this stuff, but most guys working on their pickup skills. There are definitely a few good guys in the mix. | /r/seduction | 18/03/17 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Why Not Telling Your Crush How You Feel Means You'll Never Be Successful In LifeYeah I agree, it's the guy's fault. And That's why this video suggests being really up-front and clear. Teaching men to be unashamed of their desires and sexualty so much that it clearly expresses in their actions takes time (it's why I work with men personally over 3 month periods) and it's much harder to do in a video, than to just get them to be directly verbal. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Why Not Telling Your Crush How You Feel Means You'll Never Be Successful In LifeI love the advice in theory and for the right guy, it's the perfect advice, but in my experience over the last 10 years, most guys are WAY too soft on the 'showing' part. They are so detached from their sexuality and desires, that they end up showing her what an amazing friend they are instead. But I agree that it's great advice if you can pull it off.. If I approach a girl on the street, or meet her at a house party, i never have to literally say 'i want to date you' because I can easily show i… | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Why Not Telling Your Crush How You Feel Means You'll Never Be Successful In LifeOh also - You weren't able to get her on her own is a cop out.. It's like saying ' couldn't get my boss on his own to tell him I think I deserve a raise' - that's the answer someone gives who is willing not to put in the effort, you can always request someone's time alone. BUT honestly, good on you for making the change the rest of your life and making it clear how you feel as an adult. Most good men I know started by not making their needs clear, and everyone is capable of positive change. That… | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Why Not Telling Your Crush How You Feel Means You'll Never Be Successful In LifeI personally think you are WAY smarter than to think that's the message I'm imparting in that video - If you're unable to tell a girl how you feel, how would that impact your life? The message is that if if it your habit to not tell the world what you want then you can't succeed in life - And not telling women how you feel is a very obvious part of this bad life-habit. But if a woman already knows how you feel, then, how is it related to the point of the video? I'm not sure it is. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 01:29 PM |
| 1 | 5 Things you HAVE to do to get over your exWell, usually when you are on a break with a partner, it's to take some time to decide if the relationships is still what both of you really want. In my experience, to make an informed decision like that, you need to get far away from your partner's energy for a while to get centered enough to make a choice without feeling drawn to just get back with your partner even if she's completely wrong for you. If I was on a break with my partner (and we did this for six months last year), then I would h… | /r/seduction | 11/03/17 01:35 PM |
| 0 | Are Women Racist When Dating? - The Surprising Truth And SolutionThanks mate :) | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Yeah, I knew it would be controversial. I've worked with a lot of clients at 41-45 and it's frustrating that in real life 32 year olds are really attracted to them, but online they put an artificial cap in. It has been the only way we've found around that online limitation. As for what we say in response... "So hey, I have to confess something. I've found that women often judge me because of my age, if they met me they'd realise I'm more like the man they'd expect to meet who's late 30s, and I n… | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 07:16 AM |
| 1 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Hahaha, well I don't think thats a bad thing :) | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Nice work! Yeah, one of my best friends is 49 dating a 26 year old, and the other close friend is 42 with a 25 year old partner. Keep it up bud!! | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.It's not a contradiction, it's a quirk of online dating - You're asked to put a specific limit, women just place 30 or 40 as the artificial limit, whereas in real life that magical limit isn't there. they meet a guy who is 42 but has all the traits she wants, suddenly the age isn't such a big deal. Also if you actually watched it I said, only if that age is in 5 years of your real age, not to lie and say you are over 5 years younger. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 01:41 PM |
| 20 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Right! which is what every man has at 35 over 25 year olds! 10 more years of practice under their belts. 10 more years of being social, building social skills, becoming a more confident man.... That's kind of my whole point :) So yeah I don't think we disagree with each other... I'm saying it's not the age per se, but its everything that comes with the age like life experience that gives you all the benefits. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Haha then you're probably a bit out of luck :P | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Online dating can be great, but a lot depends on which apps you use. Some are VERY relationship focused.. Tinder is great for hooking up, but you have to be sure to have a good profile, otherwise you can just waste a lot of time there. The profile photos you have are key. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 05:36 AM |
| 43 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Yeah that makes sense - Younger women are around younger guys so they'll tend to date the guys around them. That doesn't mean there isn't interested in older guys. I coach men of a large range of age ranges, and have done for 10 years. I'm reporting what I clearly see. The guys 30-40 consistently pick up and sleep with the most women. They get the best results on average. I've talked to a bunch of other fellow dating coaches around the world who have experienced similar. Look, I'm hardly older a… | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Guys in their 30s find one night stands a LOT easier than guys under 30 by the way bud. But the women you meet will push their wants onto you if you don't make your own wants clear enough. Heck, I'm 33, and was single for 7 months when I was 32, I've seen a start contrast in how much easier it was to get laid now than it was when I was last single at 25 (and at the height of my pickup practice). | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 04:55 AM |
| 2 | If you compliment girls the right way you can build massive attraction and trustYou're right, it is their job. But like most stereotypes, most real world car sales people do a much better job at using compliments tactfully. But the stereotype remains of a used car salesman trying way too hard to be our friends - If you've ever had a man or woman shower you with compliments you'll see what I mean, it borders on repulsive. | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 12:47 AM |
| 1 | I don't know where to take the conversation after a successful tinder opener.Awesome, but are the conversations continuing to be fun? like if you read the first 10-15 posts both her and you write... Are they playful and fun? Or do they quikcly become boring QnA? | /r/seduction | 20/01/17 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Figuring Out My InnergameOkay dude the first important thing you have to consider is that 'life success' does not equal confidence.. Confidence can lead to life success and it certainly usually does, and so people assume when they see someone successful who is confident that the money/fame/success made them confident. Achieving things HELPS you feel confident in a superficial way... I'm supremely confident in my ability to build websites, create marketing strategies, approaching women, using tinder... BUT im pretty unco… | /r/seduction | 20/01/17 01:28 AM |
| 2 | I don't know where to take the conversation after a successful tinder opener.Okay dude, so there is one question you have to ask on Tinder - Why does she want to keep talking to me? There is only one answer - because the conversation is enjoyable for her. So just randomly talking about surface level crud in a boring series of questions isn't the way to go. She has 20 other guys vying for her attention. Our research clearly shows the average woman starts with 20 guys, and after 3-5 lines of text whittles that down to 2-4 conversations. So how will you get past that first … | /r/seduction | 20/01/17 01:18 AM |
| 1 | 4 Critical Steps To Getting Out Of The FriendzoneTellling someone you like them isn't at all the same as treating her like she's a god re-encarnate and you are her worshipper. What most guys do is they treat women like princesses, its bad when they just have a crush and horrendous when they're dating. I tell my girlfriend I love her all the time, but I don't destroy my own needs just to serve her every whim. There is a really important difference between being open about how you feel, and treating someone way better than they deserve to be tre… | /r/seduction | 19/01/17 01:07 AM |
| 3 | 4 Critical Steps To Getting Out Of The FriendzoneAmen to that! It only happens when guys hold back on making their wants and needs known. | /r/seduction | 18/01/17 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Masculine Vulnerability - Cut The Macho Bull And Get More WomenWell being emotionally open and being dependent are totally different issues. To be emotionally open does not mean we are dependent on anyone. Because yeah, we want to be self-sufficient at all times, even when we're married, we never want to NEED our partners. Just WANT them around. | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 07:30 AM |
| 3 | Masculine Vulnerability - Cut The Macho Bull And Get More WomenYeah exactly! It's one of the important lessons a lot of guys don't learn until they've been in a long term relationship. Sadly some don't learn it there either. | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Why you should never hire a female dating coachI see what you're saying.. I mean I agree that yes a lesbian with plenty experience picking up women would be great. I've never met a lesbian dating coach however ;) Yes a woman will do a better job than an average joe on the street because she's more socially savvy. But one thing all marketers know ALL too well, is that asking what your clients would buy, or asking them if they'd buy a product means nothing until you actually see them paying. Because while asking them gives you a general idea, … | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Why you should never hire a female dating coachI think this is a good argument. The difficulty is that we can get caught up with nitpicking an analogy. When it comes to sales the old addage is painfully true - Those who can't do TEACH. Because a good salesman makes WAY MORE MONEY selling than teaching. So for that reason, yes I agree that sales courses are largely not amazing. Why? Because those teaching sales couldn't possibly be good sales people themselves because it would be an insane career switch. But long ago I partnered in another bu… | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 02:37 AM |
| 2 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityI think I mentioned in a reply to someone else, but get your hands on a book called 'no more Mr nice guy' the psychotherapist who wrote it included a serious list of tasks and questions designed to help get you out of that space of not being able to tell people your needs and ensure they get met. One of the ways I really got a lot of help was doing a David Deida course, and joining a really strong men's group. They called me on my shit and kept me focused on actually verbalizing my needs more of… | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 09:21 AM |
| 1 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityYeah, James Marshall is a good bloke. One of the handful of men I've met in my years in the industry who seem to have a solid mindset when it comes to this stuff. | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 01:47 AM |
| 1 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityI had a fictional role model of my own creation in my head, not a real life one. But honestly, a made up character is as believable as really knowing what George Clooney would do in real life, the personality you assume he has is still a figment of your imagination. So to me I imagined a guy who was calm and laid back and didn't take things personally. A bit James Bond, but to better match my own personality I made him Funnier and warmer to women. I added in a bit of incouragable little boy. I g… | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 01:47 AM |
| 1 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityMate that surprises me, and makes me feel like you don't have the best female friends. There's nothing bad or particulalry unusual about being sexually submissive. The good news is there's an equal number of women out there who want to be sexually dominant as there are men who want to be submissive. Don't see women as not wanting that as rejection, look at it as a really great screening practice, you don't want a woman who you aren't compatible with in bed. If you want to screen women better, ge… | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 01:43 AM |
| 3 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityWell man, it starts with picking the people closest and most trusted, and start vocalising some wants. Maybe vocalise wants you have from other people first. Maybe start writing them down. The first and hardest step is just putting them into words verbally or in written form. Maybe write a letter (by hand works best) for only your eyes, and write down every singel things you want from the world. Be brutal, be profane, swear if you want, but jsut get it all out, nobody else has to see it. But jus… | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 01:40 AM |
| 3 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityI don't necessarily open VERY directly.. But I'm never trying to hide my intent.. I might walk over to a woman and say "Hey, I saw you guys over here and thought I'd come say hello", or I might say something playful like "wow you guys are tucked all the way in the corner here, are you hiding from someone? GHASP you aren't outlaws are you?" So that's not exactly direct, but it's not hiding anything, I'm clearly there to flirt. Women don't always want bluntness, so you don't want to mistake honest… | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 01:36 AM |
| 4 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityCheers buddy, I wasn't sure seddit was the place for this kind of post or not. Glad some guys are appreciating :) | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 07:47 AM |
| 0 | Facebook Group Chat for Melbourne PickupI made a good group in Sydney, you should be able to do the same in Melbourne. Just create the group, add anyone you know who might also want to be a member, and start organising outings. | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 07:01 AM |
| 5 | 3 BIG lesson's I've learned the last 12 years in the seduction communityNicely said! | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 04:54 AM |
| 1 | "No Hookups!" .....what?Yeah it's interesting because taken offline, my students and I always have an inside joke that if a woman says 'I'm not going to have sex with you tonight' it almost always means you're getting laid, so relax and laugh internally. I've spoken to quite a few women about it over the years, and the answer comes down to this. They're telling THEMSELVES and not you. They're saying it out loud to remind themselves not to do something they've been guilty of plenty times in the past. But the fact remain… | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 02:19 AM |
| 1 | How To Text A Girl So She Messages Back (3 Examples You Can Copy)What type of topics would you guys like to see me cover more? More inner game stuff? My background is in psychology, so I can go into the psychology of human behavior more. Or do you like simple step by step guides like above? | /r/seduction | 28/12/16 04:00 AM |
| 7 | How To Text A Girl So She Messages Back (3 Examples You Can Copy)Totally agree with you bud. But every dating 'rule' or 'lesson' out there is at best a 'this works well for most guys most of the time' kind of a rule. Ultimately we have to develop our own styles of everything. This video is designed to give men who are still writing 'hey whatsup' messages, a starting point to at least begin to begin getting more responses. | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 09:35 AM |
| 3 | How To Text A Girl So She Messages Back (3 Examples You Can Copy)That's solid advice, thanks for that. I can see what you mean by taking a while to get there. | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 09:26 AM |
| 2 | How To Text A Girl So She Messages Back (3 Examples You Can Copy)Special Thanks to Redneveren from Seddit who was the inspiration for my making this video! | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 02:36 AM |
| 1 | I want to make an educational Cartoon just for SEDDIT usersAhh makes sense, all good. I'm actually excited about getting started on this video now, just have to pick the topic. | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Seduction, Women, and Supply/DemandTaking that analogy (which is a decent one). I think there are some changes I would make... The way you increase your own demand isn't to increase your abilities necessarily... I think it's about increasing your overall value. Work on your self esteem, Introduce passions to your life, Get passionate about your career, Deal with your mum and dad issues. I don't think 'skills' maketh man. They're temporary, and really hard to fake, unless there's something real underneath. Just a thought :) | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 07:27 AM |
| 7 | Help pleaseHey bud, Let me be the first to lend a hand. First of all nope, you didn't do anything wrong by letting her pay. It's a very real thing these days that lots of women honestly don't want to feel like the guy is paying for them. I allow women to split the bill with me all the time to no ill effect. So when things get 'confusing' is when I like to take the direct approach. I don't accept ambiguity from the people around me, and I think no man who values himself highly should either. If I were in yo… | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 07:20 AM |
| 2 | I'm a socially awkward 8/10Yeah this is true, you need a woman you can trust to speak her mind if you ask her to. There are plenty of them out there. | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 02:20 AM |
| 2 | What are some of the best videos you know of that show kino escalation and emotional escalation in general?Yeah it really is hard in the beginning when you are struggling.. The first step is to practice being able to relate to what people say in the form of a story, so every conversation isn't just a series of questions and answers. So you don't do the whole where are you from? sweden cool, how long have you been here 6 months wow, not long at all. Why did you come here? I wanted to study english ahh that makes sense.. Have you made friends here?... etc. That's a boring conversation Instead you want … | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 07:29 AM |
| 1 | "shit test" or sign of non-interest...?Oh i thought you said you were telling her she was cute with the opener? That's not particularly platonic... But you still want it to sound genuine and not so canned. After that, yes definitely some playful teasing banter... Ideally tease her about something you see on her.. i.e. if she has a bottle of water on her make fun that it's really vodka in a water bottle to get through a tough day at work.. But if you can't think of something funny, you can use something canned (which i hate) but can b… | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 07:17 AM |
| 4 | I'm a socially awkward 8/10Okay so, the first thing to note is taht you don't need to be super confident to attract women, especially if you are already decent looking. BUT usually what happens is that guys who are a bit socially awkward have a few consistent mannerisms, habits that women mistake for creepy or highly uncomfortable rather than good old fashioned nervousness/shyness. Eliminating these won't change your confidence level, but suddenly women can find your shyness endearing and a bit cute. There are plenty of c… | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 05:50 AM |
| 1 | "shit test" or sign of non-interest...?You can THINK of it as a shit test, but it's not really a test she's giving you, she's just trying to walk away because you haven't engaged her enough. So you have to ask 'what could I do to bring more value in the first 30 seconds?' Firstly you have to think are you making her comfortabe? When you open her, is yoru line sounding relaxed, maybe a bit shy (cocky is rarely your friend in day game), and generally genuine? Or is it sounds a bit direct/cocky/like a pickup line? If its the latter, you… | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 05:45 AM |
| 1 | What are some of the best videos you know of that show kino escalation and emotional escalation in general?Hey bud, I'd like to throw a challenge out there.. Why exactly do you think KINO is what you need to work on? In my experience, it's highly overrated. You can successfully pick up a girl, AND take her home without barely touching her. SURE touching can smoothen things out a bit, but I so often hear guys saying they want to work on physical escalation when they still aren't playfully teasing much, or building much rapport.... I'd love to hear whats going on thats making you sure KINO is your next… | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Approach Anxiety. How did you overcome it and what can I do to do the same? (TL;DR) (Also posted in r/askseddit)Cheers dude, great to hear from you again too! | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 09:44 AM |
| 14 | No wonder most guys never do this shit...Well yeah, but you don't need super confidence for women to like you. (not most women anyway). Remember women hate hurting people's feelings too, so from their perspective it's an attempt not to make you feel rejected. Women may be lying, but they're doing it to be nice... What can you do differently next time to get a better result? Approach differently? Do something different with your body? Your tonality? A different location? Try a new strategy to get into a better frame of mind before you b… | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 04:06 AM |
| 1 | How important is hair?Simply put, the less you are offering in the looks department, the more you need to offer in the charm department. You have to bring some value to the table, that can be in looks, charm, wit, insight, intellectual conversation etc. So if women aren't seeing enough value within 5-10 minutes you'll lose out. Hair definitely matters.. I recently shaved all my hair because I've gone through a process of letting go of my obsession with material things. I definitely get looked at less by women. But on… | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 02:49 AM |
| 21 | No wonder most guys never do this shit...Hey bud, I feel your pain totally! As other guys have said, it's all a part of the learning process. BUT you have to make sure you learn from all your failures... Do you have any clue what you did wrongly that got you such a high rejection rate? You should be able to get your daytime rejection rate (rejection within 10 seconds) down to about 1 in 5. If you can isolate what you can do better next time, then you ensure you're always learning. there's no sense in failing the same way repeatedly, th… | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Approach Anxiety. How did you overcome it and what can I do to do the same? (TL;DR) (Also posted in r/askseddit)Hey bud, First of all, nobody makes Approach Anxiety disappear for good. I've been in this game for 12 years, and sure there are plenty of times I don't give approach a second thought, epecially when I'm all warmed up. But if I'm out, and not feeling very social yet and I see a woman who is EXACTLY my type then I still feel apprehensive about approaching her. Hoping The fear goes away is a typical mistake guys make. The key is instead to focus on being willing to feel fear and take action in spi… | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 02:40 AM |
| 1 | I want to make an educational Cartoon just for SEDDIT usersSorry for any confusion, I didn't write exclusive TO reddit, I wrote exclusive for Reddit, what's exclusive is my offer to you guys to pick something for me to make a video about. I wanted to give you guys a voice, and make you a part of the action. | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 01:51 AM |
| 1 | I want to make an educational Cartoon just for SEDDIT usersNot sure if that's sarcasm or a real question... I don't want to steal someone's title that isn't mine. I do run Australia's largest dating coaching company, and have done for 8 years coaching both men and women. So I'm not new to coaching or dating :) Personally, I enjoyed being single for many years, but I've been in a relationship for 7 years now. | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 01:49 AM |
| 3 | I want to make an educational Cartoon just for SEDDIT usersActually that makes me think about a video about why Kino is overrated.. But touch itself is important for building comfort, rapport too. I'll have a think on this. | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 01:24 PM |
| 4 | Cartoon - 5 Body Language Cues A Woman Likes youYou sound like a catch, all the best :) | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 06:42 AM |
| 8 | Cartoon - 5 Body Language Cues A Woman Likes youWow, hostility much? I'm actually sharing a part of my immature past that I'm not proud of. But in this context admitting to it an owning it helps to illustrate a point. I don't think there's one man on the whole of reddit who doesn't have past actions he's ashamed of. No sense trying to make people feel bad about it is there? | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 06:14 AM |
| 2 | I want to make an educational Cartoon just for SEDDIT usersThe flaking one is an easy one for me to do.. I recon a tonne of guys here are suffering with that. One I hadn't thought of yet was the 'why the girls you do like fall off, while the ones you don't stay around' - I have some really good insight around that one above the 'we want what we can't have' answer. I know there are a number of subtle things guys instantly change around girls they really like. | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 06:13 AM |
| 10 | I want to make an educational Cartoon just for SEDDIT usersOh, how to re-initiate a cold chat.. thats a good one.. Actually so is the 'why' when text messages randomly stop being replied to. I think that is my favourite. | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 05:43 AM |
| 4 | Cartoon - 5 Body Language Cues A Woman Likes youWell this is an important distinction... See back when I was younger and a lot less morally minded. I used to LOVE hitting on women who already had partners, because it meant sex without her getting attached. The one key I learned early on, was if I could get a woman to start complaining to be about her partner, then I had a REALLY good chance of getting laid. Things change if you are already 'friends' as I say in the video, then her complaining about her partner doesn't mean anything. But if yo… | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Are Women Racist When It Comes To Dating?The trick is though.. if there's a guy with a lot of money. Odds are that he already has the attributes that women find appealing.. HE can take charge, he's driven, he's intelligent, probably charming, confident in himself. People forget that when they see women with wealthy guys... Often he has a LOT of appealing qualities that got him the money. | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Are Women Racist When It Comes To Dating?I totally agree - It's not racist to want the comfort of your own culture. But a lot of guys think that women ONLY want to date their own culture, and many many people want to date someone that's culturally different to themselves. But they don't know how to break out of the mold. | /r/seduction | 09/12/16 07:33 AM |
| 2 | This Foreplay Technique Completely Changes The Way Women See You In BedWell I agree to an extent.. The argument in this article is that if you excite them mentally, the ACT itself is a LOT more rewarding for them, so they see you as an amazing lover. The act itself only accounts for about 20% in a woman's mind. I've run a number of webinars with sex coaches who say similar. | /r/seduction | 07/12/16 04:33 AM |
| 3 | Nice Guys Vs Bad Boys - Why they're both screwing you upAnd yet here you are, joining the subreddit and wasting your precious time posting :P | /r/seduction | 06/12/16 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Nice Guys Vs Bad Boys - Why they're both screwing you upHey bud, I'm really sorry to read the above experiences you've had.. RSD is definitely not a healthy mindset to go to in all honesty. It's narcissism training, and not a good idea. But there is being yourself and improving yourself. If you are depressed, boring, don't get much zest out of life, that's not who YOU are, that's what you've allowed your life to become. Of course the above is probably not who you are at all either, but when I work with guys coaching them, it's about identifying what … | /r/seduction | 06/12/16 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Nice Guys Vs Bad Boys - Why they're both screwing you upYep I totally agree! You just attract to yourself whatever is going on internally. | /r/seduction | 06/12/16 02:01 AM |
| 7 | Nice Guys Vs Bad Boys - Why they're both screwing you upI actually agree with you completely... But I think you're saying the above because you take a different message away from the video than was intended. Being a nice guy or a bad boy is akin to being depressed or anxious. It's an unhealthy state of mind for yourself (let alone for relationships) so it's in your best interest with or without having women in mind to get over it. Or another way of putting it, being an emotionally healthy version of yourself is the best way to attract a great partner… | /r/seduction | 05/12/16 03:02 PM |
| 1 | The best Psychology resources for getting better with womenOh wow, thanks for spotting keen eye! I took a book out because I felt it didn't quite match up to the level of the others and must not have spotted the numbering. | /r/seduction | 03/12/16 03:10 AM |
| 3 | The best Psychology resources for getting better with womenSee, I disagree here... I have very wealthy friends and they find it harder to trust women if they meet them after they have money because they don't know if the woman really likes them, or is just wowed by the cash. Some even pretend to be very ordinary income earners, don't let women see their car or their apartment for a few weeks/months so that they know she really likes him for him. If you use money to attract women, I think you'll end up with the wrong kind of women. | /r/seduction | 03/12/16 03:05 AM |
| 1 | The best Psychology resources for getting better with womenWow buddy, thanks for the recommendation! I haven't read that one yet, but from the description it sounds like it's right up my alley! | /r/seduction | 03/12/16 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Addicted to Friend-Zoning GirlsSo it's hard to give a perfect answer in just a few paragraphs on an internet blog. But the cliff notes version is that it can have a few root causes. Often I see it as a safety mechanism "If I go for what I can't have, then I can't be too hurt when I don't get it" But therapists will generally help you deal with it in one of 2 ways: 1) They'll work to change the thought pattern that occurs when a girl says she likes you - The trick is to first become conscious of what your thinking because righ… | /r/seduction | 30/07/16 12:46 AM |
| 10 | Addicted to Friend-Zoning GirlsHey bud, it seems like you have one of two potential problems. 1) What you're struggling with in un-dealt with issues around only wanting what's unavailable. We all have it to some degree and that's really normal, but sometimes men (and women) get it to extreme degrees where their whole sense of attraction comes from being denied. In much the same way someone who likes sado-masochism equates pain with pleasure, you've learned to equate unavailability with intense desire. So once a girl's availab… | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 06:43 AM |
| 5 | what are some tips on being vulnerable / less needy?I think IDGAF attitude is a terrible way to go, and goes ahead and plays right into the PUA psychology of mimicking the behaviour of clinically narcissistic men. I say this as a dating coach, who helps guys get laid perfectly well without pretending like they don't have feelings. For the OP - There's a truth in the world - "LIKE attracts LIKE" Act like an asshole with no emotions, and you'll get the appropriately corresponding woman in return. I have no doubt that IDGAF attitude can get you laid… | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 06:25 AM |
| 2 | For those who have read "Daring Greatly" by Brene BrownOh man, I'm a dating coach (and a guy of course), and her work rocks my socks! BUT, I didn't enjoy 'Daring Greatly' nearly as much as a multi day workshop she has on Audible.com called "The Power of Vulnerability". I listened to it after a horrific breakup, so I was open to something that sounded so fluffy and womanly. But honestly, it gave me this massive new insight into the power of 'shame' and how strongly it pervades our lives and shapes our actions. | /r/seduction | 28/07/16 03:00 AM |
| 3 | Is it me, or do most girls not show much outward interest on first approaches? or in other words, don't count on IOIsHey bud, I'll weight in here as a guy who has been doing this for over 10 years and teaches it for a living. It sounds like your buddy has learned to play the numbers game, he has persistence on his side which is an incredibly important trait to develop. You'll get laid if you're persistent or if you're charming, if you can be both then you'll be unstoppable. As for your question about the IOI's, women rarely give them prior to you approaching them. Once in an interaction, I think you need to ge… | /r/seduction | 28/07/16 02:35 AM |
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