Kinda need your help

pornodio · 2016-04-01T10:54:52+00:00

Im really good at giving advice but horrible at following it myself, but everytime i give advice somebody benefits from it. Do this today:

Put on clothes you dont feel comfortable wearing, but good clothes.

Go out of your house and walk 15 minutes

After 15 minutes, stop a girl you like and say hi while looking her in the eyes, present yourself and tell her you think she is cute and would like to drink something with her and talk a little. Ask her for her number and say you'll write her. Dont do anything else unless she asks you questions. Do not mentally masturbate about anything. Your goal isnt actually to do anything with her. Your goal today is to come back here and write the thoughts you had on the 15min walk back home

Bohr_from_Asgard · 2016-04-01T21:22:43+00:00

If you are just nervous and uncomfortable around women, Talking (with) and approaching more women will fix it, I guarantee it. I was way worse than anyone that I knew at this. In this post here there is a routine that I used to do to get over my "approaching anxiety"

""-Step one: Go outside, and ask the time to every girl that you see, at least, five girls. If they are hot, it's better, because it will trigger more anxiety on you. Do it every day.(just check if the last girl that you approached it's already gone, or otherwise, it will be weird :P)

-Step two: Initiate (at least) five small conversations with random girls a day. (they need to be complete strangers).

-Step three: Make a compliment or a "men to women" comment, with at least three girls a day.(Don't make it a "cat call", just approach her, and compliment her, say goodbye. Done)

(Go to the next step just when you are already good with the one you are in.)

If you are ready STEP FOUR: Start approaching(until you close), 5 girls at the day a week. 5 girls at the clubs at night.""

Look, there is no magic to it, you will just get better at it if you practice. Don't fear the process. Good luck!

eviiil · 2016-04-01T13:42:45+00:00

Well what's the worst case scenario if you approach a woman? Answering this can help one get toward the root of their own unique AA.

sykilik101 · 2016-04-01T23:45:19+00:00

It's like others have said, it just takes practice and experience. Every interaction is going to be different than the others, and you have no idea how each one will go, so worrying about the hypothetical outcome of being called creepy is just stopping you from acting.

Start with baby steps. If you're walking through a crowded area, start with just maintaining eye contact. If someone's gaze meets yours, hold it until they look away. If they don't look away, smile a bit at them and continue on with your day. Get used to this.

From there, build up. Maybe go to a public outing and just hang out. Get your body used to being in that environment. You don't have to talk to anyone unless you get the nerve, just try to get used to being somewhere new. Maybe ask a stranger for the time. Ask the cashier how their day is going. Little things. Eventually you'll get used to interacting with different people and it won't be as scary.

On a last note:

I even made a Tinder recently in hopes to find a way around that fear

Remember, a person isn't strong because they can find ways around their weaknesses; rather, a person is strong because they can face those weaknesses and find a way to overcome them. Be strong.

Title	Kinda need your help
Author	rocketboy1701
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	April 1, 2016 6:09 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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