Left feeling defeated

lntoTheSky · 2015-04-07T18:42:55+00:00

Well first of all there's nothing weird about escalating with a girl you like, so the fastest way for you to be successful is to make that part of your reality. Obviously, you're getting there because you said yourself that people actually think you're weird for NOT escalating.

Secondly, you were bad and you should feel bad. You could have escalated things further, but you didn't. Trust me, that's a feeling far worse than any rejection you can possibly get. Also, it's highly irresponsible not to escalate with a girl who likes you, because she's expecting you to lead and not doing so makes you less of a man.

Harsh but true. Just remember what you feel like right now and keep in mind that this is how you'll feel everytime you fail to approach and escalate with a woman. It feels WAY worse than getting turned down, so just go for it next time if for no other reason than to avoid this feeling.

rangamatchstick · 2015-04-07T16:52:27+00:00

Them feels bro, try to look for IOI's and going by the rule "if you think you could of, you probably could of", or if you are completely unsure crack a joke about it IE "wouldnt showering together be weird!".

Xan44 · 2015-04-23T23:18:07+00:00

One of my favourite sayings is "Never apologise for going after what you want". More often then not, its only YOU who thinks you're being creepy, i used to be the same, i didnt want to be the awkward guy hitting on the girl and have the girls staring at her friends thinking "get me out of here". I get that, but the more i thought about it and took action, i soon realised the fear is all in my head and i take every encounter differently. If you feel like you're a real novice, just think about every encounter as just conversation and your out to meet people, once you get comfortable just chatting to all sorts of women, then you can start to bring some of the seduction in etc and see whats different. It's damn hard, but like most hard things it becomes so rewarding and you'll look back at this thread and laugh :)

Rx_Love · 2015-04-07T18:47:27+00:00

Well I wouldn't feel too broken up over having a girl like that swooped. Either she wasn't that into you as you think, or shes a floozy.

Either way, don't validate yourself with success in those women.

Title	Left feeling defeated
Author	whisperkid
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	April 7, 2015 4:33 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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