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1

Stop comparing yourself to others. It's stay the course, you described some pretty typical scenarios that we all go through an learn from. Builds character. Be careful to not be bitter
/r/seduction10/09/15 03:20 PM
1

Maybe
/r/seduction10/09/15 03:17 PM
1

Don't get deterred by her friend comment. Own the fact you are attracted to her and don't be evasive. She should have no question about your intention
/r/seduction10/09/15 03:15 PM
3

Drugs
/r/seduction10/09/15 03:10 PM
1

Maybe she didn't open you up bc she was attracted to you...
/r/seduction10/09/15 03:10 PM
1

If in gossip girls call you cute, you're in good shape. The difference between cute and hot when it's a more direct interaction is based mostly on how accessible you seem. If you are easy to engage in conversation and they don't think twice about starting a convo with you, you're cute. If you are someone they have to stay on their toes around then you're in the hot category. Be a little more archetypically masculine in your demeanor and don't roll out your whole life for them to see if you want …
/r/seduction10/09/15 03:08 PM
4

How about you just be yourself, the best version of yourself
/r/seduction10/09/15 03:01 PM
1

Dude c'mon... that's like going to a baking sub and asking if you should use flour. This sub would be rendered obsolete if the whole thing was taken down and a few simple phrases were tattoo'd onto the front page, almost chief among them is "Be yourself"
/r/seduction11/08/15 05:06 PM
4

How old are you? We all have an ex who cheated on us, don't let that define years of your life.
/r/seduction11/08/15 05:04 PM
1

Also sorry to hear about your gf stabbing your chest and rubbing your (former) friends jizz in the wound. That is one of the most demoralizing, humiliating, and painful things we can experience here in our first world. Rise above those gremlins and just be a better person than them. Life will serve to correct that wrongdoing.
/r/seduction11/08/15 05:03 PM
2

Don't make the mistake of thinking the measure of a man lay in how many numbers and F-closes he can tally. That way lies douche
/r/seduction11/08/15 05:01 PM
1

You're very young and will figure all of this out the old fashioned way. Let your awkward teenage years be just that, it builds character. But for the sake of your gender, never put another smiley emoji on anything.
/r/seduction11/08/15 04:58 PM
1

Then you are getting played on a certain level.
/r/seduction20/07/15 04:02 PM
1

No one said you had to. If you are happy in life then just be happy
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:42 AM
1

Wow dude the encyclopedia entry was not necessary, nine out of 10 guys here are afraid of girls, and two of those nine don't admit it and get off on giving people girl advice despite not having real success of their own. This is something every man deals with at some point in his life, you will find a way to grow up
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:41 AM
3

That'll happen... Just learn from this one and be ready for it when it happens again in like eight months #guyprobs
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:39 AM
1

When she turns 27
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:38 AM
4

You're only 20 this isn't very rare. Just be genuine and positive, talk to girls when you can If in 8 years nothing's changed then comeback
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:37 AM
1

Never go all in.
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:35 AM
3

Carry yourself with good posture, and if you already know the girl then just simply say "hey lets get together tomorrow", if she's a random girl then get her number first and hit her with some text game
/r/seduction31/05/15 04:57 AM
0

If she is super hot then wrap it up and go for it, if she is anything less than breathtaking then onto the next one
/r/seduction28/05/15 10:32 PM
0

Lol... U got herped
/r/seduction28/05/15 10:31 PM
2

If someone else is in the bathroom, can you just piss or do you have to wait for them to leave. I suppose it's like being self-conscious about anything else, don't be so focused on yourself and any guys who would judge you probably just wish they had the balls to open up girls like you are
/r/seduction13/05/15 11:50 AM
1

You need to do a lot of work on yourself first, by the sound of it. Chill out, stop taking yourself so seriously. In general: just take a breath. Sexual Frustration can concentrate into some very ugly things in men, so lets nip it in the bud before it gets there. Learn how to be more sociable in general, leave people feeling better after they talked to you. Believe it or not the rest kinda sorts itself out. (With thousands of embarrassing and humiliating situations, don't forget that - its gon' …
/r/seduction07/04/15 06:50 PM
1

Well that'll happen.
/r/seduction07/04/15 06:47 PM
1

Well I wouldn't feel too broken up over having a girl like that swooped. Either she wasn't that into you as you think, or shes a floozy. Either way, don't validate yourself with success in those women.
/r/seduction07/04/15 06:47 PM
4

Get to a point where you don't need the gimmicky crutches of PUA culture. The Game and PUA culture in general are good for showing you that it can be done, but that is IT. Just be comfortable in your own skin, if you like a girl, tell her but be cool about it. So many people here will write ESSAYS over specific little social dynamics, those guys get their jollies from typing those longwinded analysis' and enjoying their status as being one notch better than a total spaz rookie. People who do wel…
/r/seduction07/04/15 06:45 PM
1

True grace in not GAF comes from success. It is earned by those worthy, and imitated by those struggling.
/r/seduction07/04/15 03:49 PM
1

Lol well said. Really boils down to just having a life.
/r/seduction05/04/15 03:19 AM
1

Neediness is the same as insecurity. You really fleshed out the idea up there man, breathe buddy lol
/r/seduction05/04/15 03:17 AM
2

If you are naturally a needy person then to not be needy would be to go against your natural instincts, which is never an attractive path. You either need to find a girl who appreciates you for who you are, or pretend like you're not needy and just ball it all up inside while you date the ones that have a skewed view of who you really are. Long story short: find a girl you quick with butter or pretend like you aren't needy
/r/seduction02/04/15 11:41 AM
1

As a society we are reliant on having that time to soak in with somebody says, formulate a response and deliver it just how you want it. Believe it or not there used to be a time when people were expected to be witty in person, on the spot... You can be just as witty in person but you're going to have to work at it and retrain your brain
/r/seduction02/04/15 11:39 AM
1

Don't confront her. How on earth do you picture that working out favorably for you? As with anything else in this game, play at fucking cool
/r/seduction02/04/15 11:37 AM
1

It's not that you need to be more sexual necessarily, it's that a woman wants to see a man go after what he wants in life. To these girls you were just some shy nice dorky guy who secretly wanted them for months but instead beat around the bush and played the friend card too hard
/r/seduction02/04/15 11:35 AM
0

Tons.
/r/seduction02/04/15 11:33 AM
1

Chipotle is a bad place for a 'date'. If it was framed as more of a get-together/ hangout then nvm. The answer to your question is the answer to many questions here: play it cool
/r/seduction01/04/15 09:10 PM
2

Not always man.... Anyway, why are you limiting yourself to JUST this one type of gal? Because they are the only ones that talk to you? Get out there and fill your life with people who bring you up.
/r/seduction27/03/15 09:22 PM
1

I used to have this big time, as you get more comfortable with the new lady-pulling version of yourself it will happen less and less.
/r/seduction27/03/15 09:10 PM
1

Don't ask her, just pick up your toys and move to the next one. Learn your lesson and dial it back a bit on the next one. It could have been something else that made her lose interest besides you being needy - just leave all that crap in the past. Head up, and move on with dignity now with another lesson learned
/r/seduction27/03/15 08:52 PM
7

Stop taking yourself so seriously, no one else is I promise.
/r/seduction27/03/15 08:49 PM
2

Only if you don't like seeing them through a jail cell
/r/seduction27/03/15 07:14 PM
1

Whatever is going on, be sure to smile when you find yourself making eyes. Otherwise you're just a creep. No matter what, smile.
/r/seduction27/03/15 07:13 PM
5

Not a good sign. Women usually don't go out on a date with plans for after the date, if she does then you need to step you game up
/r/seduction27/03/15 07:03 PM
1

It's rare to meet a woman that isn't up for a nightcap bowl of weed back at your place. It's easy, don't over-think it. "Let's get outta here" is all you gotta say to her in a confidant tone. She's probably been waiting on you to find the balls to invite her back for some time.
/r/seduction27/03/15 07:01 PM
1

A long, drawn out blurb that can be reduced to: "Have conviction" - good thing to internalize for sure.
/r/seduction27/03/15 06:54 PM
1

lol if you are going to try to have a meaningful relationship with those kinds of women... you're gonna have a bad time.
/r/seduction27/03/15 06:50 PM
1

Im sorry you have to deal with this nonsense... truly I guarantee that because it weighs so heavily on your mind, that you are perceiving it to be 100x more significant than it is. Don't forget that just about everyone else in the world only has enough fucks to give for one person - themselves. Don't let a fleeting acknowledgement that you have a Rocky Balboa nose shake down your whole fort. Your best bet is to aknowledge that you have a jacked up beak, and ROCK IT. It sounds stupid, but that's …
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:55 PM
1

Well you seem to invite that kind of girl into your life a lot, you should probably get better at conducting their shit. I used to deal with gals like that a lot in my young 20's but I just don't have the patience to humor that anymore. Oddly enough, not biting on their BS makes them just come at me harder
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:50 PM
1

Saved me the time of typing. - im a little different but the gist is the same.
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:47 PM
2

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, realize you are in a funk that only you can dig yourself out of, and work to become a better person. The easiest way to get women in your life is to improve your life without thinking its for women, the gals are a side effect
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:45 PM
5

Maybe you're kind of a douche? You have money and go to the gym, that's 2/3rds of the pie - what about not being a douche....
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:44 PM
4

Maybe you don't have what the people refer to as "character"
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:43 PM
5

Deep breaths buddy...
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:42 PM
4

They like the crakkas over there. Have fun
/r/seduction26/03/15 09:37 PM
-1

It's not wrong. in about 99% of cases here, the answer is: Go to the gym Wear clothes that fit Carry yourself with some decency and confidence. (Grow Some) Everyone on here seems to think their case is special...
/r/seduction23/03/15 08:44 PM
1

YOU don't really have to do much except go along with the guys bullshit if you think he's attractive. Getting him to serve up that bullshit though is a whole nother game. Short answer: be attractive and approachable
/r/seduction23/03/15 08:42 PM
6

So wait, are you not getting laid/girlfriend/dates/whateveryourlookingfor? Your description up there makes it sound like everything is fine and you just want to know how to flirt as like, a hobby. If you aren't having success and want to know about flirting, then that's something you will have to learn for yourself. No one can teach you how to be witty, charming or engaging. Just put yourself out there as visibly as you can, and try to make em smile in the process.
/r/seduction23/03/15 08:40 PM
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Well if the man is worth his salt, then you wont have to worry about keeping things moving - that's his job. Just be nice and genuine, true to yourself no matter what that means.
/r/seduction23/03/15 08:38 PM
3

All you need to know: 'Say Hi' Don't let this sub's 'sociology hacks' bullshit let you overthink things. If your a decent looking dude who takes care of himself - just say hi. The rest takes care of itself.
/r/seduction23/03/15 08:35 PM
1

Do less. There is no formula (or at least you shouldn't strive to be employing one) for how to hold engaging conversation. Be an agent of a conversation YOU would find engaging if you were in her shoes.
/r/seduction09/03/15 03:51 PM
3

JK, no you dolt. Why the hell would it be too late? What kind of validation are you seeking from that question?
/r/seduction09/03/15 03:48 PM
1

Yup. Just give up.
/r/seduction09/03/15 03:48 PM
8

Be sure to send no less than 5 texts back to back, be sure to display extreme neediness. On the 4th or 5th whiney text start to accuse her of having character flaws.
/r/seduction09/03/15 03:48 PM
1

Good post
/r/seduction05/03/15 11:34 PM
1

just start the conversation anyway you can. You will get shut down a lot, some may even call you a creep, but fight on
/r/seduction24/02/15 12:30 PM
2

You don't always have to fuck her hard, in fact sometimes that's not nice...to do.
/r/seduction30/01/15 08:35 PM
2

It is a novel concept that's fun when you're a young idiot having fun. What peacocking should eventually settle into is a radiance of your personal style, just being the best version of yourself with a liitle stank on it. Peacocking is that little stank u put on top of your A game
/r/seduction30/01/15 08:33 PM
1

Now do that 500 more times
/r/seduction26/01/15 04:42 PM
1

Now do that 500 more times
/r/seduction26/01/15 04:42 PM
5

Dude just chill out a little bit, you're overthinking things like crazy. Oh and dude, good Lord asking about her period like that is painful to hear about don't ever ever ever, under the current circumstances, ever opened up but data log with some shit like that. I'll see you thought this was a troll post
/r/seduction11/01/15 11:07 AM
3

Guys guys, pump the breaks... talking to you too ZiRALiX. It sounds like you are doing just fine and are in good shape with this gal. So many people on this sub treat every single social metric as a chess game. The guys who adopt the PUA mindset but don't get a lot of success love to immerse themselves in the psychological (and at times sociopathic) aspects of pickup/game/social interaction in general. Think about it, you never hear guys who are getting steady ass talking about this kind of crap
/r/seduction11/01/15 10:11 AM
1

I don't think it was anything man. She was just trying to reinforce the rapport you two had developed. You will drive yourself crazy and not enjoy as much success with women as you are able if you disect every little possible thing. In my experience the best thing to do is be a little bit intentionally thick skulled. Just be you, be fun to be around and let all that lady's BS slide right off you. Don't even skip a beat
/r/seduction11/01/15 10:07 AM
1

Moreno the type of woman who is into it isn't the one you want to end up with, good for the night though
/r/seduction23/12/14 06:12 PM
5

A reputation for being a lady's man will help you more than it hurts you, but some girls really don't like it. Most do though-they want to see for themselves. The gal you put a ring on won't like it but the gal you pickup at a bar will. Also don't say it yourself for fucks sake let them know it from other people saying it
/r/seduction23/12/14 08:04 AM
3

Because you're human and probably young. Shut up you'll be fine. Or you'll make an ass of yourself. Either way you'll be better for it
/r/seduction19/12/14 10:31 PM
1

No one is hyper-confidant all the time. That doesn't sound like a healthy person. You're probably just introspective, take the confidence when you get it and use it as best you can.
/r/seduction19/12/14 10:23 PM
1

Drop em from your life. Aint nobody got time for that energy coming your way.
/r/seduction29/11/14 11:27 PM
1

Use it as a challenge to conquer your own insecurities. Look at it as an opportunity for you both to have an awesome night and find a gal yourself.
/r/seduction29/11/14 11:25 PM
1

Don't go so hard at first, the slow roast is a much much MUCH better and more sustainable way. She will either be scared off by you seemingly falling for her or take you for granted - both are just the shittiest month of your life after they blow up.
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:36 AM
1

Hard work is the best medicine for heartache. WuTang says it cooler than that but thats what they mean.
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:34 AM
1

ha! fuck yea dude
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:31 AM
1

everyone who reads the title of this post is going to immediately assume you have a small dick. Guys that bang lots of girls once... small dicks. pull on that thing a lot or something
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:30 AM
1

Im not even gonna watch this video, the answer is simple: earth shattering orgasms
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:29 AM
2

cocaine
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:26 AM
1

No, its great if you aren't dirty with it
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:22 AM
2

Don't text her, ever until she hits you up out of the blue at a later date. Just take the sting and move on.
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:21 AM
1

It was never my best scene either, I just dont go to those places to get chicks, i do that in environments im more suited to
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:20 AM
1

Stop trying so hard. All the times i've gone out like "im gettin puss tonight for sure" it rarely happens, when I truly don't give a fuck, it always happens
/r/seduction01/11/14 12:17 AM
1

Anywhere you can catch a womans eye. Could be the train to work, could be starbucks, anywhere
/r/seduction26/10/14 11:28 PM
2

Nah man, enjoy her company. It sounds like you have a good thing going, just dont fall for her. Don't think so much, stay out of your head about it.
/r/seduction26/10/14 11:27 PM
1

Gotta love when life sees fit to give you this experience, it may only happen a few times in your life, or it may happen a lot. In anycase don't take it for granted. Congrats
/r/seduction26/10/14 11:14 PM
1

I didnt get the impression she was flirting really, ive been in your position a few times and the best course of action is to keep everything super uninvolved on your end. Hang out with her all day if you want, even bang if the opportunity presents itself, but just dont fall for her. You are her guy friend, girls have those sometimes for various reasons but most of them are not sexual, much different than the view us guys have behind these male eyes
/r/seduction26/10/14 11:09 PM
5

Your brain will adapt to convince you that you actually have feelings for this girl because she's 'special' but the reality is that she is the woman you have the most interaction with in your life. Change that.
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:29 PM
13

Don't be that guy. Don't just fall for whatever is most available. Also it sounds like youre more her emotional tampon then anything, only future cringing moments lay down this path. You're in college, get out there and talk to some girls, you're never going to be surrounded by beautiful, available women again in your life. Get out there
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:28 PM
1

You're a tall black guy? Wear one of those vests with no shirt underneath and have some sort of puka shell necklace. Make sure you look all sinew-y and muscular. Louis CK will bang you
/r/seduction29/08/14 04:24 PM
2

I first read this as "make them feel like shit" and was surprised at how many people DIDNT call you a fuckhead. This one's easy, just do a good job. The whole 'make them feel like a woman' thing. As to how to do a good job, thats something you gotta learn the hard way.
/r/seduction29/08/14 04:22 PM
-5

A lot of guys would have no problem with this, it'd be their fantasy even. For me there's just too much of a difference, she's still a kid dude.
/r/seduction29/08/14 04:19 PM
1

Wait 5 years or so. I used to have the same problem, so I smoked, drank and lived hard to try to age myself - it worked and now I wish I didn't.
/r/seduction13/08/14 09:03 PM
1

They aren't all like that, those are just the ones you are attracting
/r/seduction13/08/14 08:59 PM
1

Let the number closes give you a little confidence to reinforce the idea that you can be successful. Learning the hard way is the best way in this game I feel.
/r/seduction12/08/14 05:12 PM
1

Just own it. The worst thing you can do with raunchy humor is say something then backtrack and feel weird about it. If you're gonna lay that kind of thing down you have to have the confidance to back it up otherwise you'll just come off like a prick
/r/seduction11/08/14 10:00 PM
5

lol
/r/seduction11/08/14 09:59 PM
1

You're 14. Being awkward, bashful and afraid of talking to girls is a necessary part of growing up. You'll figure it out over the natural course of things. Don't let it get you too down when you embarass yourself - its gonna happen and believe it or not you will be a better man because of it.
/r/seduction11/08/14 09:58 PM
2

You bastard im so jealous. I would give one of my fingers to take a trip to BA.
/r/seduction11/08/14 09:56 PM
1

Be yourself, learning about seduction has apparently given you enough knowledge to spread your wings and fly by enjoying a relationship. If a relationship with the girl is what you want then go ahead and enjoy the whirlwind romance.
/r/seduction11/08/14 09:55 PM
1

Be a cool customer, try not to be visibly nervous. You both know what you are there for so just show up, be charming and don't be afraid to initiate.
/r/seduction11/08/14 09:39 PM
3

Direct is best with older women, theyve seen it all and know what they want if they want it at all.
/r/seduction29/07/14 03:54 PM
2

Well you know more people than I did going into college, and I ended up doing more than fine. I did a big social turnaround in college as compared to high school as well. All you have to do is keep an open, adventurous, and friendly attitude. Don't think you are better than anyone and be nice and cool to everyone you meet. Don't be afraid to tag along with people you normally wouldn't. Basically go outside your comfort zone all the time. Some people might tell you to exert tons of 'alpha male' b…
/r/seduction28/07/14 05:06 PM
1

After reading more I see that you are a bit older. That kinda makes the pre-negotiation of FWB less strange. I'm sure if you keep your body language comfortable then you will do fine. I've found that the hand on the lower back briefly when you are saying something lighthearted or entertaining can work miracles
/r/seduction15/07/14 09:17 PM
0

Ok here's another answer - don't be a dickhead.
/r/seduction15/07/14 08:09 PM
2

Ignore and on to the next one. Don't be a creep if you were touching her ass
/r/seduction15/07/14 08:02 PM
1

How is it "in the bag FWB" if you don't know how to escalate? I assume escalation would have already occurred for her to be labelled with such a status
/r/seduction15/07/14 07:58 PM
0

Just talk to the guy and seem friendly and socially available. If he's worth his salt then he will know what to do.
/r/seduction15/07/14 07:49 PM
1

Step 1: stop being such a wuss and talk to girls fin
/r/seduction11/07/14 10:02 PM
1

At the end of one of your chats just say "hey we should grab a drink when you're done, what time are you off?". Sounds like you've already taken care of what most people would call the "hard" part
/r/seduction11/07/14 10:00 PM
1

Wait so you moved to Northern California from somewhere else in CA? I thought you moved to like Little Rock, Arkansas or something by the way you described it. Go to Tahoe or something. Chico is fun as hell too.
/r/seduction11/07/14 09:43 PM
1

Wait was it really SF you moved from? I was just guessing bc the kind of person you described yourself as is pretty stereotypical there.
/r/seduction11/07/14 09:33 PM
2

Stop taking yourself so seriously, no one else is trust me.
/r/seduction11/07/14 09:02 PM
1

Stare at the small of their forehead instead, slightly above right between their eyes. Or blur your vision a little bit and just point your face at their face.
/r/seduction11/07/14 09:00 PM
1

The trials of leaving San Francisco...
/r/seduction11/07/14 08:57 PM
1

Yea totally, I learned that 3rd bullet point of yours up there through studying business.
/r/seduction10/07/14 06:10 PM
1

Lol...
/r/seduction10/07/14 06:03 PM
2

Only in the PUA world would someone break down so thoroughly/have a diverse portfolio of techniques for remembering a persons name Not criticizing or anything, don't take this negatively. Just got a chuckle out of it
/r/seduction10/07/14 06:01 PM
2

Repeat their name immediately upon their introduction. This is good for life in general not just pickup. "Hi i'm Val" -"Hi Val, i'm Jessica" "Jessica! good to meet you" works surprisingly well
/r/seduction10/07/14 05:59 PM
3

Don't beat around the bush, own the fact that you want to spend time with HER.
/r/seduction10/07/14 05:25 PM
0

Well here's the kicker: most of the chicks don't know I love drugs. They do know I can last hours in the sack for some reason though (opiates let you have marathon sex, its pretty awesome). 2 of the best feelings this world has to offer at the same time.
/r/seduction10/07/14 03:39 PM
-1

True story... i'm flattered both of you were so struck by my comment that you needed to investigate its source so thoroughly. I like drugs, but drugs and women aren't mutually exclusive- they actually go quite nicely together. I guess I misinterpreted your intent here, some of the aspects of this sub i don't agree with as you can see.
/r/seduction10/07/14 03:07 PM
1

Im just too lazy to type a lot. I get what you are saying, its a question of fundamental ambition. PUA material can be handy in that it introduces and allows those who would otherwise never tackle the subject of social success on their own, like it gives folks a way to start to pursue their development - but as far as actual literal enactment of a lot of what it teaches is pretty pathetic. What you should take away from it is that by working o yourself, being confidant in who you are, and taking…
/r/seduction09/07/14 11:14 PM
1

George is submissive and accepting of that role, Marty although naturally small in stature stands up for himself
/r/seduction09/07/14 11:08 PM
1

It's equally important to know and understand yourself in this life
/r/seduction09/07/14 11:01 PM
2

No you're right, it is a contradiction. It shouldn't be the case that social validation is gratifying but id be lying if I denied it
/r/seduction09/07/14 10:55 PM
1

Its a sexual thing for some guys. Luckily thats not the case for you and you just gotta work on the age old male struggle of standing up for yourself. If Marty McFly can stand up to Biff Tannon in Back to the Future, you can too. (Whatever your metaphorical Biff's are in life)
/r/seduction09/07/14 09:14 PM
1

This is a truth that many, including myself, don't like to acknowledge. I'd like to think im improving myself for myself, but it really is awesome getting validation.
/r/seduction09/07/14 08:37 PM
2

You have never had guy friends? People on this sub may try to tell you that you need to learn to be something you are not, do not listen. What people here should strive to encourage is for someone to simply be the best version of themselves - whatever that self may be. If you just aren't a social butterfly then you can try the 'fake it till you make it' approach but really I would start asking questions like how have you made it 28 years without developing these skills. How do you not have frien…
/r/seduction09/07/14 08:33 PM
1

Don't like... make it your 'thing'... but if it makes you feel better about the way things are going then why not.
/r/seduction09/07/14 07:06 PM
1

Are you submissive by choice? or is that just how you are naturally? I know some guys have a thing for being submissive and its a lifestyle choice. If you're just shy and kind of a pushover, then you can either try to find a gal out there who finds that attractive (needle in a haystack but there is a gal out there for every kind of man) or you can play the "fake it till you make it" card
/r/seduction09/07/14 07:03 PM
1

Generally people wear their headphones as a cue to strangers not to talk to them. If you must... be willing to back up the interruption with a direct message: you think they are attractive and you two should explore that because, hey, you're pretty cool too.
/r/seduction09/07/14 07:00 PM
1

Follow-through would be the defining characteristic of either interesting or creepy in the scenario you just described. If you cowered away and took a bashful/self conscious attitude then: creepy. If you owned the fact that you find her attractive then its all gravy. 99% of all posts here seem to have the same answer(s): Be sure of yourself and/or be someone you would want to get to know. You sir, fall subject to number 1 right there.
/r/seduction09/07/14 06:53 PM
1

Placing such a strong emphasis on what other people think of you will not do you any favors in this world. If its something that you yourself aren't really comfortable with then that's just something you need to come to terms with. It could be something as simple as not categorizing it as such a defined activity, maybe you are just a guy who likes to go out and be social...
/r/seduction09/07/14 06:43 PM
1

Im gonna ignore the point of this post just to tell you how jealous I am that you get to have such a grand new adventure in such a cool part of the world.
/r/seduction09/07/14 06:39 PM
3

Awww don't be butthurt bro... so not alpha
/r/seduction09/07/14 06:35 PM
-4

For starters ignore this guy. If you are sure enough in yourself then a woman you would want to date will appreciate that about you.
/r/seduction09/07/14 06:23 PM
5

Well you are definitely overthinking it, because thats what men on this sub do. That is what this sub is.
/r/seduction09/07/14 06:21 PM
1

Knowing what you want and being sure of what you feel is right.
/r/seduction09/07/14 05:31 PM
0

Church... but also beware of Captain Save A Ho
/r/seduction09/07/14 04:06 PM
10

Something that not every other chump is doing. Women love to be surprised by a man being more spontaneous and adventurous than average. Also I hate to say it but women are kinda shallow sometimes, so something that she would be happy to post on her facebook... If you are gonna do a more traditional thing like grab drinks, then make it memorable. For example if you both like a specific drink, go to a few places that you know make them well to try to find your city's best... etc.
/r/seduction09/07/14 04:05 PM
1

I just turned 27 and was dating a smoking hot 35 year old. If you've gotten this far you shouldn't worry. 27 and 22 isnt that big of a deal. If it really comes down to it you can just give her a confidant little smile as you say 'you're an old soul' - also it owuld be a good idea to immediately kiss her upon saying that
/r/seduction01/07/14 05:27 PM
1

Maybe be happy shes into you too? Thats more than most around here can say for themselves. If you are under 21 years old or so then this is just part of growing up. You live and you learn.
/r/seduction10/06/14 05:49 PM
1

Stop taking yourself so seriously, no one else is. This goes for everyone not just the OP.
/r/seduction28/05/14 09:45 PM
1

Being comfortable with being sexual is the best indicator of experience and talent. Really though the time tested hallmark of a stud in the sack is the gossip of the women he has been with.
/r/seduction28/05/14 09:41 PM
2

Act like the awkward phone thing never happened, just be fun and engaging. Flirt with her a little bit and show her a good time. Things will become clear once you two realize how much you enjoy eachothers company.
/r/seduction21/05/14 05:42 PM
1

Eat lots of cheese before seeing anybody, make sure to sweat profusely. Try to say you are a philanthropist but instead say you are a 'full on rapist'
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:30 PM
1

Yea def don't do that. What if you were sitting there and you saw some guy pull that. Watching that situation unfold would just be all kinds of uncomfortable
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:27 PM
1

Plus, even if things go bad its a fantastic piece of experience. No ones first date ever is supposed to be magically smooth. Its kinda supposed to be a bit weird for the sake of normal development.
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:25 PM
1

Don't go to a movie for a first date, if your plan is set than stick to it but try to do something fun outside the traditional sit across from each other at dinner. Be a gentleman - hold open doors and be classy. Other than that just relax, act natural and be an enjoyable person to be spending time with. If it goes really well and her body language suggests it maybe go for a kiss at the end
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:24 PM
1

With repeated success comes a hard earned confidence that allows you to not have to fret. Keep gaming, the road is long but the rewards great. You will have many failures and a few great successes but with each success the ratio of fail to success gets better.
/r/seduction27/03/14 05:07 PM
2

This is a great opportunity for you to learn one of life's harsher lessons.
/r/seduction26/03/14 08:21 PM
1

"The Game" is just a damn entertaining book to read. Not a whole lot should be taken from it outside of the fact that ANYBODY can become good with women. If nothing else it will inspire you to seek out social adventures where you will learn the old fashioned way(best way)
/r/seduction26/03/14 07:31 PM
1

No need to get fancy "what are you up to later? She answers Oh cool, im gonna do something interesting, want to join? Here whats your number"
/r/seduction26/03/14 07:22 PM
2

People have a hard time seeing the world past their own issues. If a girl not having the patience to teach you the ways of love because you are a virgin is the "big monster lurking in your past that haunts you" then pat yourself on the back as thats a symptom of a very charmed life. You are going to med school, you have a bright future ahead of you. I'm guessing you just get too much into your own head about things like this. It sounds like you need to get yourself to a level where the prospect …
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:52 PM
2

A good buddy of mine has a full on lazy eye, like never points the way it should and he consistently dates top shelf babes. Why? Because he's good looking and one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet. The eye is a non-factor and even adds to his charisma in a way.
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:43 PM
3

If you are a tall handsome fella and girls are into you, this wandering eye can easily be made 'cute'. Women like to see that people are human enough to have their emotions be vulnerable sometimes. Just make a lighthearted joke about it, smile and be confidant that she's going to like you better as a result of it.
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:41 PM
1

Do it like you would any other gal on any other date, if you are having an awesome time something like "you should just spend the night" works. Lines aren't as important as the experiences you create leading up to them.
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:37 PM
1

I've seen some really awesome Tinder trolls, im a big fan.
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:34 PM
5

Total numbers game, and an awesome one at that. I've had a handful of girls spend the night/weekend with me as a result of it. Def a fun thing to do when you're taking a dump. It doesn't follow the same laws of attraction that real world interactions do, at least in my experience. My usual SOP is: -say something engaging (response rate of about 30%) -Continue a conversation with witty little things that distinguish you from the hordes of douchebags on Tinder aka let them know you are normal enou…
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:23 PM
1

Like that one fuzzy-hat wearing weird magician of a PUA once said: "beauty is common"
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:15 PM
1

It's just generally not in good taste. That and for the masses of depressed lonely folks it just rubs it in.
/r/seduction26/03/14 02:56 PM
1

Because i'm a hypocritical asshole I guess
/r/seduction25/03/14 11:47 PM
1

Hate it when its not me doing it, when it is me doing it: "go fuck yourself" to haters. Hypocritical but hey...
/r/seduction25/03/14 11:35 PM
2

You'd be surprised at how often it does "fall into your lap" once you truly command a level of confidence. Shows are great places to meet girls. You can say anything as an opener so long as you smile when you say it.
/r/seduction25/03/14 11:29 PM
1

Just don't smother women is the long and short of whatever anyone here will tell you regarding this post.
/r/seduction25/03/14 09:49 PM
1

Many lessons of attracting women are learned one way and one way only: the hard way. You can ask for all the advice in the world but until you go out there and live it, it wont matter all that much. Your a better man because of it.
/r/seduction25/03/14 09:49 PM
3

Like, if you know she is receptive to a kiss. Don't necessarily jump on it and kiss her. Let her attraction for you simmer for a bit so that by the time you do kiss her she is aching for it. I feel as though i'm speaking Chinese here sometimes...
/r/seduction25/03/14 09:40 PM
1

Be there having a good time, don't be there as a PUA on a solo mission to score chicks. Enjoy yourself genuinely and the rest will follow suit.
/r/seduction25/03/14 08:51 PM
1

Sometimes its worth stringing along the desire. Getting a kiss close in short order might get respect from PUA folk but there is something to be said about having a woman be attracted to you for hours, anticipating the moment when you will make her feel like a lady.
/r/seduction25/03/14 08:49 PM
2

Yea that - i know it was a bad metaphor but c'mon man.
/r/seduction24/03/14 07:02 PM
2

Find a different way to get what you want out of life. If the world is telling you to fish in one lake, but you fucking hate that lake. Go find a nice river or something. Bad analogy but you know what I mean.
/r/seduction24/03/14 05:08 PM
2

To be classically friend-zoned goes against everything we strive for here. Unless you actually would just be friends with them than its better to own the fact that you think they are cute. Even if they rejected it.
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:54 PM
1

If you adopt the right attitude towards life everything can be a social hobby. Probably not the answer you were looking for though.
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:51 PM
1

Even Danny DeVito found a gal to marry him. Don't worry that you aren't attractive enough. You can work on that. You need to take steps to be a better man and have some self respect. There's probably a witty, charming and good looking dude lurking around in you. Feed him
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:50 PM
1

I don't know if thats the case, im just saying a lot of guys find trouble when they 'date' instead of 'get to know'.
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:47 PM
2

A common reason for this is often that you appear to be trying to hard. 'Dates' in the way most people mean them are reserved for your girlfriend or someone you have been seeing VERY refularly. If she is just a gal you want to get at just go for the casual hangout. "Hey i'm downtown exploring, wanna come grab a coffee or something and find something fun to do?" The lack of a pretense does wonders for a woman's consideration
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:46 PM
0

Maybe don't worry so much about not approaching girls and kill it in med school. You know who has no trouble getting hot women? - Men with job titles like "Doctor"
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:42 PM
1

You're 17 and doing pretty well socially. Fuck em, "haters gon' hate" as they say. Also you will be tickled to hear that a lot, and I mean A LOT of women say they don't like players only to wake up next to them all the time. Girls hear about it and want to experience what everyone is talking about. Great for where you are in life. Don't get anyone pregnant
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:41 PM
1

"If you are wittier than you are handsome, avoid loud clubs" In fact everyone here should read the article that came from. http://www.businessinsider.com/the-gselevator-guide-to-being-a-man-2013-9 I'm the same way man, if im just not feeling it I usually hang with my people are drink aggressively. The dance floor is a great asset - In a club you can't be afraid of the dance floor. Hardest part is, you have to dance like you don't give a flying fuck about what anyone thinks about you. Really get …
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:38 PM
5

But to answer your original question: "Hey its [YOUR NAME], so obviously the 'i wanted to ask you a question' REALLY mean't 'i think you're kinda cute and we should kick it sometime'" Don't be bashful or afraid, telling a gal you think she's cute is great if you own it and don't get shaken by it. If you get all bashful and weird then it kinda just reinforces any apprehensions she would have. lil hint: She knows you think shes cute
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:21 PM
1

Ah. Well you are definitely not framed right for a romantic endeavor. How old are you? How do you do generally with girls, like do you have a few that you holler at or is this currently the only thing you have going? No judgement btw everyone has been everywhere at one point or another
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:18 PM
2

A classic dilemma if there ever was one... How did you get her number?
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:06 PM
2

Lol she will probably figure it out sooner or later... One would hope she likes you for other reasons. Im seeing a woman who is substantially older than I at the moment, i'm definitely at a paycheck to paycheck point in life. Your dilemma is one I faced as well. Can't take her to all the fancy dinners that maybe she would like, but keep her trembling with pleasure and the topic rarely comes up
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:04 PM
2

AMOG with insults < AMOG who makes those around him better. The latter is a very potent force
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:02 PM
1

Well people will act in ways that garner their subconscious desires into reality... At a certain point you gotta just accept that you like what you like. Thats you - fine just be you and don't be ashamed of it. You don't need to apply the principles of PUA and being alpha and all that jazz to every aspect of women.
/r/seduction17/03/14 04:01 PM
1

Yea im 26, man 23 was a gooodddd year... enjoy it. Pickup is fun but eventually you will internalize a lot of it and just be a better man without the label of pick up. Yea I used to dislike a lot of myself too but life has a funny way of making you into who you will be(still do but i absolutely deserve the critique I give myself now lol)
/r/seduction14/03/14 10:50 PM
2

Aww shucks thanks man
/r/seduction14/03/14 10:47 PM
2

Yea man Irish accents slay here
/r/seduction14/03/14 09:00 PM
1

Yea I was thinking thats what you meant for ol number 3 up there. Good stuff man, where are you at? I'm in Chicago
/r/seduction14/03/14 08:12 PM
3

Don't let your perceived circumstances make you think you can't change them. Take action. Actively meet new people. So the fuck what if you didn't have women placed in your classes and so forth -GOOD now you get to learn to get what you want out of life instead of just settling for what happens to be around. So in short. Shave the neck beard, stop feeling sorry for yourself, go out there and invite the possibility of a better tomorrow. I know objects at rest tend to stay at rest but get the fuck…
/r/seduction14/03/14 08:11 PM
3

Digging #10. I do think that #1 discounts that women aren't just pets that only develop as far as their significant other lets them. They are just as capable of realizing they are in a stunting situation and leaving it than a man would be. 3 makes me think that if you are attracted to someone, it is totally natural that your interactions with them will be different. If our Dads treated our Moms like any other dame I doubt any of us would be here. To deny that is unnatural. I think I see what you…
/r/seduction14/03/14 06:49 PM
1

Going out and engaging a wide variety of folks in conversation and exposing yourself to new people and places achieves this much more effectively than watching documentaries and reading the papers. I understand what you are getting at,I don't want to sound critical sorry if that's the case.
/r/seduction14/03/14 06:33 PM
2

Been doing that dance for upwards of 8 years now. Months long flings are all my psyche seems to allow. Yup, it was initially a woman's fault(several actually) but now there is no justification other than I have problems with emotional intimacy that I need to work on. Brings up another valuable point - it's important to know yourself in this life.
/r/seduction14/03/14 06:29 PM
2

Lol awesome dude! Success really validates a man's existence sometimes... Yea why'd you leave? There comes a point where you don't need to keep PUAing shit to death. I'm sure she would have liked you just the same if you stayed and saw where the experience took you. Most likely could have upgraded that kiss my friend!
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:26 PM
2

Well said
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:37 PM
1

Yea man say what you will about it but after I had adopted a repertoire of hitting the gym there was an undeniable increase in women approaching ME out in the world. Douchey as it sounds/is taking my shirt off at a key moment when a gal has came back home with me has settled the decision to stay for more than a few women in my life.
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:36 PM
2

It isn't a load of shit, its simply another component of self worth and confidence, a way to help acheive it. Also its important to aknowledge the actual psychological effects of increased serotonin and dopamine as a result of strenuous exercise however you go about it.
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:33 PM
2

Lol.. you said flabbergasted...
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:31 PM
2

Well, women DO actively try to attract guys. They worry about the way in which they converse, the body language they put out, all that kind of stuff. You could put it plainly in that they are concerned about the way they go about landing a man. Their 'game' is simply more in tune with the social constructs of being a woman in social scenarios.
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:29 PM
2

Maybe you should work on having the pretense of her visit me more clear. If you pitch her coming over to 'just chill and hang out' don't be surprised if that's what she expects to happen. There are ways to infer that she is coming over for sexytime in a socially graceful way - the go to for years has been "come over and watch a movie" - for the most part women know what that means.
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:26 PM
2

Good god man...
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:24 PM
2

It isn't formulaic like so much of pickup strives to be. It's less tangible than one might hope but it usually follows a period of successful charming, maybe some successful 'low level kino' to use PUA terms. Once she has obviously been enjoying your company and your charms, has seemed to embrace something small like a hand on the lower back... thats when you can make the moment. Where the conversation lulls after positive emotions were evoked. That's where you maybe pull the light hand on her c…
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:23 PM
6

"By investing heavily in cocaine"
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:18 PM
2

Yea but you have gotten to a point where you are doing it for you, as something that makes you happy. That's a healthy trait that is a symptom of a healthy outlook on life.
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:16 PM
1

Pick Up Artist
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:28 PM
3

Lol if you don't know you're probably doing justtt finneeee
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:27 PM
1

lol the vegan perspective on physical fitness? You don't need a gym to be active and in good physical form but its a nice way to go about it. It helps create a positive ritual in your life. My gym is 25 bucks a month only, less than most people spend on 2 days of work lunch. Granted its a ringworm factory but they have lots of sanitizing gel stations around...
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:25 PM
1

Word
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:22 PM
1

The goal should be that the pressure isn't such that it effects you negatively. I do agree though when starting out premeditated openers can be a very valuable tool.
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:22 PM
3

The process of reverting back to baseline is almost identical to the reprieve of a drug tolerance. The brain takes a long time to adjust back to what it was and even then, the channels are carved out to where its easy to get right back to the danger zone rather quickly.
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:21 PM
2

Lol I heard people were doing this kind of thing with staggeringly good results. It is becoming well documented the negative effects of repeated exposure to pornography and whacking it. The level of dopamine that your brain comes to expect out of sexual situations in real life struggles to match that available via porn and your real life physical relationships suffer as a result. Really wish this was more understood in my younger years as im pretty sure I could have started fires with the amount…
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:19 PM
3

Absolutely
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:17 PM
3

When it is all you have to rely on. And when people know that.
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:17 PM
6

If you want to be a slick, cheesy PUA then yes you should strive to make all that crap so second nature that it flows like kung fu... I would hope that by bettering yourself, your life and by being comfortable in your own skin you wouldn't need to rely on such a system of behaviors. For some that is simply not in the cards and those are the ones who really get taken by the PUA community. Hell it IS wildly interesting and The Game is a hell of a book but I feel people can lose their way.
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:16 PM
3

I can see where there might be some overlap in theory, but confidence the way I meant it is separate from what I was trying to illustrate with the whole 'don't take yourself too seriously' thing. People can become slaves to their own bullshit which is truly sad considering the insignificance of said bullshit in the grand scheme of things.
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:13 PM
3

Can't up vote that enough
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:11 PM
1

Not always. Its important to realize what can potentially happen to you in the world of women but you MUST give them the benefit of the doubt that they are going to be nice, normal folks. This can be especially hard for folks who have been burned hard by women during their life and it can sabotage future relationships
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:10 PM
17

They sure as shit can be, physical strength pales in comparison to the grip a woman can have over your entire being. I know tons of jack3d dudes who suck with women because they are either too self conscious or too shy.
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:09 PM
5

Then I would respectfully comment that you are misinformed.
/r/seduction14/03/14 02:07 PM
2

Lol no way, sleeper Chicago thread. I'm in Lakeshore/Roscoe
/r/seduction13/03/14 08:01 PM
2

Engineering school is a tough racket for social opportunity. Exercise and work on improving yourself. The women will come.
/r/seduction13/03/14 07:35 PM
2

So I guess what im saying is, have fun with some gimmicky crap but don't ever look at it as a serious way to achieve your goals.
/r/seduction13/03/14 07:34 PM
3

Scrap any of the novelty/gimmicky crap that Mystery has led you to believe works. Just be sure of yourself, stand behind your words and actions. Build an attractive lifestyle and be someone worth knowing. That said, a stupid thing I used to do to initiate a kiss in bars: After chatting with a gal for a bit, stop mid sentance while looking towards a group that just entered and say to her "uh oh... omg my ex just got here, quick help me make her jealous:) " for some reason that plays on some subco…
/r/seduction13/03/14 07:33 PM
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