Eye contact

Churchx · 2014-07-11T19:18:54+00:00

Start looking at people in the face.

beardedwarrior85 · 2014-07-11T21:55:11+00:00

It takes a while...I still have trouble with it sometimes. I was like you, almost scared to look people in the eyes for fear that they may say, "What the hell are you staring at?", or something of the sort. After a while I realized that: #1 - No one will say that to you, as long as you're in a solid conversation with them and, #2 - Your conversations will become stronger and more confident.

A good way to start is with bartenders and servers. Your conversation is typically short and fairly basic. My first realization of the power of eye-contact came from bartenders. I would hold eye contact and a smile then, almost immediately, I could see their service levels towards me dramatically increase...same with servers.

From there, try holding longer eye contact with your coworkers and friends. It's almost as if you can feel your respect level increase which, in turn, is a huge boost to self confidence.

Good luck man!

senneca · 2014-07-11T19:54:21+00:00

Practice whilst walking past random people at the street. Try and maintain contact until they break away.

Be conscious of it every time you're talking with others. It's ok not to have constant eye contact, but force yourself to maintain it longer than usual. Build it up slowly and eventually you'll be comfortable with it.

I'm still learning myself, and as with most things, practice is the only way to improve.

phantomixie · 2014-07-11T19:32:42+00:00

i usually look directly at the point between the persons eyes. It's kinda like faking eye contact :)

noisycicada · 2014-07-11T20:14:07+00:00

Eyes are the window to the soul. If you are breaking eye contact it is almost always a confidence issue so working on increasing your confidence will help.

One trick that worked for me is to challenge your friends or family to staring contests like when you were a kid. Except don't really stare, look. Go back and forth between both eyes and smile.

SpeedCola · 2014-07-11T20:56:20+00:00

I have a bad habit of staring at peoples mouths when they speak. Idk what that says about me.

Rx_Love · 2014-07-11T21:00:05+00:00

Stare at the small of their forehead instead, slightly above right between their eyes.

Or blur your vision a little bit and just point your face at their face.

Title	Eye contact
Author	trowavo
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	July 11, 2014 6:58 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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