Holy shit this text has gotten way longer than I planned. I wanted to do a really short strategy write up for myself but then I couldn’t stop writing. I tried to structure it as good as I can.

Introduction:

This is my Apporach on Picking Up Girls. It is basically one strategy write-up, filled with some background information. I am by no means a pro or a natural, but I just like to develop my own take on strategies rather than blindly following somebody else. This is really not very advanced stuff. There are a lot of open questions. I hope for good feedback. Maybe my perspective can help other people, hopefully it is a somewhat entertaining read.

My apporach:

This is basic understanding of seduction combined with the Day[9] School of improvement. For those of you who don’t know: [Day[9]](www.day9.tv) is a former Professional Starcraft Player turned Caster and teacher. He has a daily webshow where he talks about strategy in starcraft2. Most of the stuff he talks about is not only applicable to starcraft but are really universal strategy skills that make sense in all sorts of contexts.

The Videogame analogy might sound über-nerd but it really boils down to robust strategies and problem solving principles that are applicable to so many situations

Strategy Aspects:

Should one try to learn all aspects of seduction at the same time? IMO absolutely not. Your brain can only handle so much shit at once, especially when under stress because you talk to a girl. Once you feel comfortable with the few strategies and ideas and you can execute them well without much thinking then you can start to include more advanced stuff. Improve as fast as you can but never try to improve faster than that. My write up is basically one strategy I’m going to use in the club context. Is it the perfect strategy? probably not! It is a strategy and I hope to be successful with it, otherwise I will have to adapt it accordingly.

My background:

I discovered seduction 5 years ago, when reading Neil Strauss. I have never really hardcore gamed. I moved to Berlin 3 years ago and had a lot of success (compared to No success at all before). Berlin girls can be very arrogant at times but they are extremely relaxed about casual sex and one night stands. It’s quite amazing. My roommate right now is 6 years younger and a natural who banged 40-50 girls last year. Unfortunately he isn’t worth shit as a wingman .

Clubs I usually go to:

(For those of you who know Berlin) Ritte Butzke, Kater Holzig, Sysiphos, Basically your run of the mill alternative Techno clubs for white kids between 20-35 with higher education.

Approach Anxiety:

I still have it. It is way better than it used to be but it is still there. There is no real strategy to overcome AA. You just have to push yourself into the cold water and realize nothing bad happens even if you fuck it up. Worst case Scenario one girl that you will never see again might perhaps think you are a loser, nobody else give a flying. The few people who might happen to watch you will respect you for having the guts to even talk to the girl no matter the result.

State:

I think state is really my biggest problem. My State is often really bad. I’m bored at parties. People there are boring and piss me of, I can’t stand all that shit. If I’m bored I am boring, if I’m frustrated I’m frustrating. No amount of material prevents you from getting somebody else into a bad mood. There is only so much I can do for getting into state. At the moment I only go out if I’m in a good mood. Everything else is wasted time. Even if that means going out 2 times per week instead of 4. My biggest help right now is this quote from batman begins: „…who knows, Master Wayne? You start pretending to have fun, you might even have a little by accident.“ . A „fake it until you make it“ approach essentially. If there are really good resources on how to get into a good state I haven’t heard of please let me know.

Timetable:

I plan on going out 2-4 times per week. this is actually not that often in Berlin. It’s pretty much what I do anyways. Berlin is a fucking party metropolis where you can party from thursday till monday without ever going home. At least Once a week I am absolutely not concentrating on Gaming but only on having fun. If game happens on such a night it’s Ok but I am not trying anything. I need to have one party night just for fun without pressure even if it means going home alone.

So thats my Situation, now let’s talk strategy:

First Rule: Formulate your goal in 1 easy sentence.

My goal: Make a ONS happen preferably with a day 2 Option.

What do I mean with „day 2 option“. I mean I want meet a girl that is actually nice and not an idiot, a girl I would want to spend time with even after I fucked her. This is not only good for day 2 but it also makes the seduction way more fun. It’s so much easier with a girl that can hold her part of a real conversation even if you don’t game her. Rather than plowing through shit tests and forcing gametalk on some stupid bitch. The ideal mindset would be to find that genuinely interesting part in any person you meet and expand on it, because everybody has something uniquely interesting about them. But in the real world I’m far away from that idea. Some bitches are just bitches.

What I don’t want to happen:

*Kiss closes without anything else

*number-closes

*(Pro)tip:

ALWAYS exchange numbers anyways just in case you forget your fucking wallet at her place (happened to me. Wallet with id, credit card, debit card, drivers license and all my cash, did not exchange numbers, stood in front of her house for fucking hours waiting for her, worst ONS experience ever)

How much alcohol in my blood?:

Some claim You should always be sober while gaming. I don’t believe that. While sobriety might help with reflect on your performance the next day, being drunk is just part of any nightlife experience.

I want to experiment with different dosages. Amazingly I seam to be better and more entertaining when really drunk. This is not my subjective impression but something friends and girls tell me. I generally want to reduce the amount of alcohol. I will try out 2 beers, 4 beers, 6 beers or ALL the Beers! and just see what works best. 6 Beers is generally the point of no return when I can make a conscious decision to stop drinking.

*Opening: standard or original? *

No final decision about that. I will work with this premise: If warm approach (eye contact/smile) use standard (hi, my name is…) If cold approach, use „original“. important: don’t make opener too elaborate, a unique compliment or maybe a neg“

Things to avoid on all costs:

  • dancefloor approach, eg ass-grinding and loser moves like that. gets you k-closes but literally nothing else

  • generic question openers,(what time is it? who’s the DJ?)

Transitions in conversations:

I do not know, lot of field work necessary to see where it gets me. I have to admit that by that stage I was usually too drunk to remember much of the conversation.

general leading ideas:

Kiss-closes are appreciated but keep it short and simple. Absolute no go: 30min long make out sessions, you are not fucking 15 years old.

share something personal. That’s the point when most guys I know just start lying. I prefer to keep it honest all the time.

Kino escalation? try to keep it classy. no tickling! No reading palms! No bullshit! Rather honest shit like „your hands smell so nice“. or just fucking put your arm around her and see where it takes you.

dancing:

Needs improvement. My question: How touchy should I get? How much distance is awkward, how much grinding is creepy? Luckily nobody in Berlin is a good dancer so girls really don’t expect you to be able to dance at all.

Everything after that:

Big question mark. guiding principles are: keeping it honest, and talking about sex before the fucking. Most Berlin girls are open about sugeesting to „go to my place“ when they want to. I think something along the lines of „the things I would do to you if we where alone“ might work, I don’t think it really matters that much.

SO this was may „short“ write up. I am curious about your feedback. I hope it was an interesting read.