Sometimes men see getting logistics as a separate and distinct part of the process, one where they can now lean on their almighty logic and logic alone to "make things solid." But in reality, when navigating logistics, the emotional component still rules.

Jumping to logistics too soon without the emotional component being there is just shooting yourself in the foot. It explains why asking a woman where they live or what they're doing later too early on might be met with complete silence or a total blowout. It's not that she wouldn't tell you. It's just that she's not comfortable yet so save it for later once there's more investment. The flip side to this is that when a woman starts getting YOUR logistics, it gives insight into her interest levels and emotional state. Time to make moves.

Logistics being emotional also helps explain the difference between setting up a hang with your boys vs. a date with a woman. With your boys, you could probably just say: "Hey guys, let's meet at the game on September 30th!" But especially with a new woman, this is not reliable and is often the reason why many women flake on first dates. Yes, set a plan. But also stay moderately in touch to continue to mine that emotional connection. That's what gets women on dates. Not just raw logistics many days out before a date. In a subsequent post I hope to challenge the "only text for logistics" refrain, which is an important starting place for beginners who often over text and aren't giving value in their texts, but shouldn't be as much of a concern once you become more experienced. More experienced guys would also be making more of an emotional impact in that initial interaction, which should inspire women to do some of this initiation over text as well. But I digress.

Emotions also come in to play when it comes to hearing "no" to a logistical question or move. We all know interactions aren't as straightforward as going from A to Z, both in terms of texting and in the flesh. Sometimes guys hear a "no" or a "not yet" and continue to ask more questions or push for more, stuck in a hyper rational logistical framework. This is often read as needy and pushy. It usually doesn't work to boot. Instead, you need to take a step back, often by playing to emotions ("you're not around tonight huh...I forgot it's almost past your bedtime haha"), and leave space with other kinds of conversation before escalating again.