i'm 40, obese, live with my parents, am unemployed, and live on social security disability awarded after a traumatic brain injury. i realize i can't date or have a loving sexual relationship like this...at least not with anyone i've encountered. but even though i have these issues unfortunately my sex drive and "love drive" doesn't just turn off. yesterday i bought a handjob at a massage parlor, but that cost $160, and i can't afford to do that too often, considering that i have a tiny income and am basically not self-supporting. i dunno. what do you suggest i do?