How do I deal with a confusing girl. Back story. I started working last September and during that time I was dating a a girl. It was your third year. At work I met this girl. From the first time I thought she was a cutie but that is all. During that time, we wouldn’t talk a lot and we would just chat when we all had lunch in a group. In March of this year, I finally broke up with my now ex. It was a toxic relationship, it was really destroying my life. A couple weeks after the break up, me and this work girl started to talk more and go on a daily coffee to the cafeteria. At the beginning I only saw her as a friend, I knew I wasn’t ready for a relationship. I knew I didn’t wanna do anything with anyone. So this coffee, talking situation continued for months. I started to know her better: shy, talks less and likes to listen, she seems like a really close person but with me she would be way less close. She actually talked and I started to get to know her. I realize she was just a really vanilla girl. I would get nervous around her too cause it was sometimes hard to have a meaningful convo. I think this is why it was so easy to just see her as friends. I was always curious about how she really was inside cause I know some people take time to open up. After a while of just being friends, my friends at work started to tell me how they notice she was flirty with me and how we could look cute togther. I am really oblivious so I guess I never noticed and I kinda was friendzoning her. She knew tho I broke up with my ex, not long ago. I didn’t listen to my friends so I just kept being myself and talking to her. However, that curiosity of really get to know her more than anyone led me to really see her as a potential girlfriend/friends with benefits or whatever happened. After a lot of encouragement from my friends, I decided to ask her out and she said YES. But she looked shocked and then she said yes. I planned this really elaborate date(dinner, Dave and buster games and walk near the bay with a bottle of wine). After she said yea, now I realized that I was acting a little bit to exited so she might have gotten scared and the day after I asked her she said: about the date, I have to confess I just got out of a relationship and I am not looking for anything rn. I asked her if she was still down to go to the date and she said yea. Now I think that was a code for me to choose something more chill cause she was looking for more of a friends with benefits or hook up situation. Anyways, we went to the date and it was so awkward. I was so nervous and I was acting dumb and couldn’t be myself. I have anxiety problems btw. I felt so bad and the week after we went out, she kinda acted awkward around me. She stopped asking me for coffee. I went to talk to her and it was awkward. I confronted her about what happened and explain her that I was nervous cause I haven’t gone out with a girl for a while, 3 years actually. And I said that we didn’t finish the bottle of wine and that when we go back to school we could chill at my place, watch a movie and finish the wine which she said yea. The next day, she said thank me for the cake I got for her bd with my coworkers and was acting way more normal. More like before. Her bd was the next day and she was going away with the girls. I messaged her at one point but she never got back to me. I thought she was probably busy cause of her going away for the weekend but she never replied. But before never replying we were talking and she seem cool. I am confused af.