Looking for an older text on Jealousy, Insecure People

Kitt_55 · 2017-02-28T13:06:00+00:00

There will be many barriers to overcome on your journey of self-improvement. You may be surprised to find that lifelong friends may ridicule you and try to hold you back. There are multiple reasons why they may try to do this. Firstly, they may care about you and are afraid to see you get hurt if you fail, or may even fear your success because it means that they might lose you from their lives. Another reason is that they may not want their comfortable reality challenged, and your actions make them reflect on their own lives. If you can succeed, then they must consider what this means for them. Rather than serving as an inspiration, you can serve as a reminder of what they too could have achieved if they had chosen to put in the effort.

Sadly, some people will actually hate you for your new success and confidence because it reminds them of their own low self-esteem, which now in comparison to yours seems even lower. Try to identify the reasons behind people’s actions before you judge them. In addition, be aware of becoming resentful of your complacent friends who may serve as constant reminders of what you are fighting so hard to escape. As stated by Robert Pirsig:

“We always condemn most in others, that which we most fear in ourselves.”

The greatest success barriers will likely come from within you. It is common to commit self-sabotage because success leads to change and change can be scary. This often takes place on a subconscious level, where your brain will rationalize a decision before you can even consciously question it. It is more comfortable to remain in a known space than venture into the unknown. Your fear of change may cause you to rationalize your limiting beliefs in order to protect yourself and justify inaction.

You may believe that if you were to try and fail, then you would only prove to yourself without a doubt that you are not good enough. Thus you put off trying in order to preserve hope and protect the belief that you will succeed in the future. You must remind yourself that failing does not equate to failure. As long as you keep honestly trying and learning from your mistakes, then you have no other option but to improve. The only true failure is outright choosing inaction.

Excerpt form the book: Fundamentals of Female Dynamics

Title	Looking for an older text on Jealousy, Insecure People
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Date	February 27, 2017 10:35 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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