I met this girl on Tinder on New Years day, we'll call her Brit. Things were going well during our conversations. Got her on snapchat and we talked for several days. At one point I told her I write poetry, she said she was intrigued so I came up with a few stanzas about her golden hair and baking muffins for us (it's her favorite food.) She loved it and afterwards she wanted to know when we'd meet up. Had to drive 2.5 hrs to Saskatoon last Friday but I made the first date possible. I knew in advance she was gonna bring two other couples who were friends with her along (I suppose safety reasons, but I didn't object).

We hung out at this Scottish pub for awhile before I suggested we hit the clubs together. She said in advance how she'd make sure we had some alone time together so I seized the opportunity by taking her in my car.

This is where I start to wonder if I was being clingy or a genuine romantic in her eyes, but I had told her earlier that week that I was gonna write an actual poem for her on our first date. Well, I read it to her in my car and she said she was not expecting anything like that, and that I was an amazing writer. We make out in the front seat for a bit before joining her friends at the club. She clearly enjoyed dancing with me, but our night was cut short when her parents demanded she go home. (curfew for a 19 year old? What gives?)

She went home with her friends, and I forgot to give her the poem to keep cause we were rushed. I text her about it the next day and she said she was really sorry about forgetting it. The rest of the weekend her texts are spaced out and we don't get to see each other again, but I tell her I'm coming back up on the 23rd for a wrestling tournament.

Next time I snap chat Britt, it's her friend answering and being seemingly coy about whether or not I made a good impression.

Her friend jokes about cutting my balls off with the Venus fly trap from SAW. I play along, but the next day it's her with Britt's phone yet again. The day after things get ugly when one of her guy friends from the pub pretends to be Britt and baits me into texting something sexual before revealing himself and calling me a sick fuck for molesting Britt in my car. He was also seemingly angry that I didn't pay attention to the others cause I apparently had an "intense stare" at Brittany.

That hit me like a sack of bricks. At this point I thought Britt was gonna file a lawsuit against me or something and she was just using her friends to get rid of me, because she had thought so lowly of me.

Yesterday I snap her a photo of the poem, saying that I'm so sorry if I made her feel unsafe. Then the truth comes out: the week leading up to our date, her ex had been harassing her through texts and she just decided to leave her phone with her friends while at school. She said they were just being protective of her, that I didn't make her feel unsafe on our date, and apologized for what was said by them.

I told her I was absolutely ravaged by the accusation of molesting her, and that I felt like I was truly the scum of the earth afterwards. I said I would never force her to do anything against her will, and that I also didn't wish to hold grudges against her friends. I told her they cared about her deeply, and so did I.

She thanked me and said that I was still both a gentleman and a great guy in her eyes, but that our date had reminded her that she hasn't given herself enough time to recover from her recent 2 year breakup, thus she wasn't ready for dating just yet. She also said she was struggling to keep up with her university assignments. I asked if we could be friends in the meantime and she said that would be best.

How should I go about handling this situation? I really like this girl and I don't want to come off as needy by continuing to snapchat her each night, but at the same time I don't want her to forget about me. How often should I text her? How do I continue to build rapport so that when she does feel ready to date again, I'll be the first choice on her mind?