Hello,

Throwaway account and first time post here. I have been recently going through a positive momentum in my life however there are sometimes i feel like something or me myself am holding myself back.

Context: I am 27 years old and had been a very shy person overall during the 24 years. During Uni i would spend most of my time playing video games and smoking weed, occasionally going to school for a bit of a socialisation then back to my cave. I quit Uni in the end and went back to my home town where i grew up. This was a low blow for me but i had a good opportunity to reinvent myself, started the gym and got a new job that makes me socialize alot. I am working in tourism and thus i get alot of good looking girls around aswell, I generally can converse in one on one situations and can tease get few laughs giggles etc but when in a group environment i generally observe rather than add some conversation. Most of the time people are on their phone going through their own little world which makes me feel left out, i dont do social media as much as most people do either. My dilemma is what do i do when im out with girls and do to converse, connect or have intimacy rather than just platonic conversations. How do i push the boundaries far enough to make the ladies want to invest. I got the body language, eye contact, tones all the other stuff down and do it well imo.