Hi Seddit,

Long post incoming, TL;DR at the bottom

I've been lurking for quite some time and today I need some advice, some context :

I'm a 28yo guy, not really the poster boy for alphaness per se (I'm short and look nothing like johnny depp :p), but being very confident and witty I never had any problems with girls.

I've not been in a LTR for some years, not willing to commit I prefered some short relationships but this is changing now and I'm looking for someone.

So I met a girl at work, younger than me (23) quite pretty and smart she's on an internship in HR for a year we're both hard workers so we only had a few interactions and they were only work related.

This changed about 3 weeks ago at a company dinner, she asked me if I knew how to dance, I replied that I only knew how to waltz (as I knew she played classical music) and she seemed quite pleased as she said (loosely translated) that "it didn't reach a deaf ear", sadly we didn't get the occasion to dance because the restaurant/bar/club closed as we just finished eating and we went seperate ways.

Since then she's been more friendly with me at work, we still don't see each other a lot because of the work, and because she's only there two days per week, but when we do see each other she smiles a lot, kino here and there, maintained eye contact, asking questions about me, well multiple IOI's.

But (you were waiting for this "but" :p) two problems :

  • She seems to have a boyfriend, at least says her facebook page, not my style to background check her so I left it at that
  • She works in HR :|

So that's where I need your advice, let it be clear that I don't fear being rejected but I'm in a limbo :

I don't want to nick my reputation at work, I've heard many times that relationships are no good at work, never experienced it the hard way (nor in any way), her talking about it with her/my boss would be an obviously bad thing. I want it to be a LTR if possible, so her having a bf feels like i'm heading for the wall.

In any way I have to take a decision (giving up or getting frienzoned obviously not being options)

What should I do ? should I ask her out bluntly ? just asking for her number ? wait till her internship nearly finishes ? (10 f'ing monthes ...), This is a total unknown territory for me, I mean usually if I screw up, or be rejected or anything there are no consequences and I can instantly move on but that's not the case here and I was hoping someone would've had some advice about it, anything will be welcome

Thanks a lot for having read me

TL;DR : I want a LTR with an intern who works in HR in my company, getting multiple IOI's but she has a boyfriend and I don't want to screw my position up in the company, need some advice on what to do about it, thanks a lot