Making Interactions Sexual

bemore_ · 2018-10-12T03:39:26+00:00

We'll start by looking at your personality. How good are you at asserting yourself with others, that is, getting them to do things for you ? That's usually the root of the weakness. Indecisiveness. In sexual relations there is a polarity, for this duality to exist, one person needs to take responsibility of the direction of the interaction. I'll simplify. Since you do the fucking, you do the leading. An interaction with a man and a woman is already sexual, you cannot make it sexual, you can only make it asexual, this is a consequence of conditioning. Nature makes us so that when we are alone with each other and vulnerable (naked, intimate etc.), we merge. During conditioning we fuck up gender identity and their roles and responsibilities, which leads to asexual, often unbalanced relations. For you to ask how to make an interaction sexual is an abdication of your responsibilities. That's how I want you to see it. Picture yourself talking to a woman one on one, looking into her eye's and both of you telling each other what you like about each other. It will always lead to sex, on any timeline. The real challenge is creating and maintaining intimacy, navigating both your fears.

All you have to do is lead, now it's a skill - getting people to follow you. There's good leaders and poor leaders. As you grow as a man, you develop this skill .. or not. That is, taking responsibility, going first - initiating, making calls. As any good leader knows, we don't just make decisions for ourselves, we make them for the benefit of others. So we'll look at it in terms of a sexual interaction. Do you believe her kissing you, sucking your dick, having sex with you is a good thing ? Do you think she will enjoy it ? You said you're a caring guy, you can trust yourself with this call, you can make decisions for both of you. It sounds heavy at first, it's as simple as holding her hand and taking her somewhere you know you two can be alone

So in practice what you need to do is recognize when a girl likes you. It's pretty simple, it's when they talk to you. Once you are aware that they like you, become attentive for opportunities to take the lead. They are pretty much everywhere. Maybe at first you will be rough around the edges, slightly forced. Maybe you will try to kiss at the wrong moment, she turns her cheek. It's okay, you'll come to a point where it's natural. Maybe at first you are lunging into the kiss, then you realize you can just come closer and closer to her as you speak, or even pull her closer to you and then kiss her and that's all it is

Oh yeah just a heads up, don't shit where you eat, be discerning

rustythesmith · 2018-10-12T00:17:40+00:00

It sounds like you aren't particular about which girl you hook up with. I will leave it to your judgement whether or not this applies to your situation, but here's something I've learned about myself and about people in general. We don't like to define success too specifically. As soon as we define success in specific terms, we simultaneously define failure in specific terms.

When surrounded by a variety of desirable women, you may need to aim yourself at one specific woman. The most attractive quality is genuine attention, and that only exists at the exclusion of everyone and everything else.

With regard to strategy, it sounds like you have no problem getting yourself into positions to make a move but you do not know what specific move to make. Women are generally waiting for the man to take the lead, create opportunities and start things off. Women on average are more indirect communicators while men are more direct communicators. You can think of indirect speech as a display of femininity that men find arousing in women (and weak/comical in other men). And you can think of direct speech as a display of masculinity that women find arousing in men.

So, try telling her exactly what you're going to do and then slowly begin to do it. I'm going to kiss you. I'm going to take your clothes off. Something like that. You do not want to ask for permission to do it because by asking for permission you are not making a move, you are transferring the move-making to her.

By moving slowly you leave her plenty of time to object physically or verbally. It is important to leave her a way out, and the most comfortable way out for her is nonverbal. So alternatively or in addition to moving slowly, you could direct her to signal her approval by inaction. I'm going to kiss you in three seconds if you don't turn away. If she wants to be kissed it will be the longest three seconds of her life, but she will not turn away. This also diminishes her fear of objecting, if she wants to object, because even if she turns away, it was only in accord with your plan.

We often think that our inaction ought to be a clear indicator of our uncertainty. Why isn't she making the first move yet, we wonder. But she is uncertain too, and uncertainty to the uncertain indicates disinterest, which fuels uncertainty.

temerity18 · 2018-10-12T05:35:50+00:00

Just allow yourself to do what you want. Sex is hard wired in us. You will be amazed that when you just let yourself go your body will do fine. Watch some Real Social Dynamics stuff on Youtube. Those guys are pretty extreme in letting themselves go but you can pick up that vibe there. Watch the infields. And remember: women love to be touched by men. Go give it to them tiger.

Aethlingo · 2018-10-13T05:55:06+00:00

I've been trying to crack this same nut for a long time, and I gotta say it's not easy. Trying to bone acquaintances in your social groups is risky and tricky if your already friendly with each other. What I try and do is flirt constantly and if the flirting is reciprocated at all, find a cool activity and invite her to it. This still doesn't always mean she wants you but it's a start. During that event, flirt hard and kino escalate. You should be able to tell if she is into it at that point. Then ask her out to a drink or something (at night) that is definitely a date. If she says yes it's on.

With that girl that lingered with you after class, I probably would have asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime. Very non comital but low risk. Then actually do something with her that is fun/interesting but short (less time investment in case it doesn't work out). If she's actually meets up with you and seems to be enjoying herself ask her out on date and don't hide your dick (metaphorically).

At parties I'd run game a lot harder and use classic seduction shit.

dailymanup · 2018-10-12T06:17:53+00:00

Build a sexual frame. That' should do the trick.

Title	Making Interactions Sexual
Author	1CRK
Upvotes	19
Comments	13
Date	October 11, 2018 7:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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