hello sedditors! been lurking this forum for a while and really love the quality material here.

quick background:

I got out of a serious 4 year relationship a couple months ago. It's taken a bit of healing, but I'm okay - it was mutual and really, i'm not looking for anything serious right now.

I'm just now starting to get back into the game and have two girls that I've been "talking to" / seeing since 2 weeks ago. My issue currently is that I think I'm generating too much flirtation / attraction with both and I'm afraid that they'll think it'll lead to something longer term.

To make things clear, I enjoy their company but am not looking to be serious, and want to pursue a FWB / mLTR situation. What would be the best way to be upfront about this without being a dick / asshole? I don't care to play with any girl's feelings by lying to get some.

I just want to be clear that:

  1. I am not going to be exclusive
  2. I really want to have fun / enjoy their company

From what I've read, the general concensus seems to be that you need to be clear up front, which I have no problem doing. What have you all found to be the most successful way of managing these expectations with multiple women?