DISCLAIMER: BEFORE I BEGIN WITH THIS POST I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THE FOLLOWING: I am not an expert on pickup (I've just had a good amount of experience, and I'm trying to express ideas that I think would've solved a lot of questions. Secondly, I accept all criticism of my ideas, as I realize they are not fully complete yet. Thirdly, I apologize for all the formatting mistakes i am a REDDIT NOOB. BRACE FOR A FUCKING WALL OF TEXT PEEPS. JSUT A BIG ASS FUCKING WELL OF TEXT. I'D ADD A POTATO TO AGAIN, APOLOGIZE BUT I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO ADD A FUCKING PICTURE TO THIS POST.

P.S. I also curse a lot because cursing can emphasize different points and hell, it's fun. PREVIOUS POSTS:

First infield: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/30dfo0/fr_beginner_asking_a_girl_out_for_the_first_time/ Second Infield "College Daygame": https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3197xs/fr_day_game_at_college_for_an_18_year_old/ College Daygame 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3197xs/fr_day_game_at_college_for_an_18_year_old/ College Daygame 3 (by far my most popular): https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/31w0hn/fr_two_weeks_ago_i_was_afraid_to_approach_any/ College Daygame 4: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3phjj8/fr_college_daygame_4_a_new_semester_lessons/

TABLE OF CONTENTS: SECTION I : MY STORY

SECTION II: THE PRESENT STATE OF MEN (AND WOMEN IN TODAY'S MODERN SOCIETY)

SECTION III: THE PROCESS OF MEETING GIRLS AND PICKUP IN GENERAL

SECTION IV: SETTING BOUNDARIES AND REALIZING ONE'S WORTH

SECTION V: SELF IMPROVEMENT

SECTION VI: USEFUL RESOURCES/GREAT READS.

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SECTION I: INTRODUCTION: I am a 19 year old originally from the Middle East and i was raised by a single mother. I moved to the United States at age 12, losing a lot of friends in the process and entering a new culture. The experience of moving away from a place I considered home ended up in rebirth. I was bullied through middle school, and had a lack of friends at that time period. I was attracted to girls ever since I can remember, honestly. I've always had an extremely strong Libido. Enter high-school... well, what can I say about High school. It was an extremely weird aspect of my life. I picked up bodybuilding sophmore year and that was the best thing that happened to me in high school. By senior year I was the most "muscular" guy within my school, and a trip to the beach at the end of the year. Now, all these pesky details aside, Let's get to the meat of this introduction. Like I stated before, my Libido was very strong but I ended up a virgin throughout high school after having a myriad of shitty experiences with women I always felt incompetent compared to other guys. As if they had a special "gene" in their bodies that I didn't. While this situation is over simplified, I've simply had TERRIBLE experiences with girls. Most memorable example includes me being accused by school staff of stalking a girl in a school dance. The nuisances of high school being over, college finally came. During which I met this really cute Christian Dominican girl who I worked out with. After asking her out she said that as a Christian girl she doesn't exactly date... and I was heart broken... I thought... "well, who else! where am i gonna get another girl?" and I'm sure a lot of guys have this experience where they feel like when they have met a girl that she's the only possibility (Although there's billions of women out there) explaining the huge crushes we have on females that we "befriend" in order to be socially-politically-correct. Anyway, after she left I had a crush on my peermentor who was a couple of years older than me and she shown extreme signs of interest until a girl tells me she had a crush on my roommate (who I thought to have had a girlfriend who he apparently broke up with two weeks after we moved in together). I was absolutely destroyed. I recall laying on my bed next to his in my dorm room and feeling absolutely cold and dreadful. "Why?" I thought to my self. "Why Couldn't It work out for ONCE?". I had (and still very much have) an extreme sex drive, ever since I could remember. To the point where I've literally tried to tame it by masturbating about 4 times a day, while still not being able to maintain it. So I was simply being tortured. And I honestly kept asking the same question i've had before! "What did THE OTHER GUYS have that I Didn't?". I tried to rationalize, "I'm fairly attractive, I'm the most muscular guy in the dorm by far, I'm smart, I'm funny What exactly is it that I'm missing?". I decided, it was time to Change. I would not settle. I stumbled across RSDTyler on a Elliott Hulse video (Fitness YouTube personality if you're not familiar, I would strongly recommend checking him out). And It talked about being able to meet girls everywhere. Yes, everywhere! Meaning I didn't have to wait to be introduced to men through other girls or social circles. I decided, that this might be the solution to my problems..

Now for actual implementation: This required me, a little boy scared of his own sexuality to approach women and state my desires (no matter how passively at the time) to date them, or have sex with them.

I decided, I will get used to rejection by making it a goal. So I went up to this girl in my physics class who I thought was cute, and finally asked her out. My heart was beating so fast I could almsot feel it fall. The adrenaline rushing through my body. It was finally time for action. It was finally time to grow a little from my boyhood. I asked her out. She said... "no!".... yes, she said no... yet I felt nothing but ecstasy --- to the point where I smiled at her!! --- where was this confidence coming from? what is this happiness? I was just rejected... yet I feel like I'm invincible. Honestly, if I can recall that moment properly, I felt like i was god himself, as if i had a super power. AFTER BEING REJECTED?

On the drive home for that day I contemplated. I was smiling the whole time! I was unwavering! A GIRL I LIKE JUST FUCKING REJECTED ME WHY AM I SMILING?! The answer was there though, I WAS SMILING BECAUSE I ACTUALLY FUCKING DID IT. I MANNED UP, GREW SOME GOD DAMN BALLS AND TALKED TO A FUCKING FEMALE OF MY SPECIES!!! OH MY GOD it was like I discovered fire for the first time or some shit.

Moving On -- I asked out every single girl I thought was cute (in my immediate social circle) -- and was rejected by all of them. I decided to go out and get rejected 5 times in order to "lessen" the impact of rejection. The first girl. She was sitting with a group of friends. I approached. "Hey, Mind if I sit here?" I grabbed a chair and sat in and smiled. I put my focus on her, and I said " I just thought you were really cute and i wanted to ask you out..." ... "Can I have your phone number?" .... she Said yes! SHE GAVE ME HER PHONE NUMBER!! WOW... I JUST GOT A PHONE NUMBER (Don't worry guys i'm not a god I got flaked on but)... still at the moment... there was hope.. there was a huge potential for success.. And I knew... I just knew I was onto something. I finished my 5 rejections within a single day. I was absolutely happy -- I was having so much fun -- simply getting rejected? I wondered with all my soul how it was possible? But... Happiness needs no explanation.

*THIS IS STILL UNDER CONSTRUCTION AS I AM ATTEMPTING TO SEE WHETHER I WANT TO ADD MORE HERE OR NOT **

SECTION II: THE STATE OF MEN (AND WOMEN IN TODAY'S CURRENT SOCIETY):

I've struggled so much, with what does it mean to be a man. As I miss a father figure in my life and a lot of times I blame my father for all my misfortunes simply for the lack of his being there. However, that aside, in Today's society (and this is going to be a simplification of a multi faceted issue that needs books to be explained. some quick book suggestions before i go further Fire In the Belly and The Way Of Men). Men have become passive. We went from being warriors, hunters. Into couch potatoes that spend their time working like robots, watching TV to catch the latest football games, and numbing ourselves with alcohol and masturbation in order to suppress the pains of our sexuality. It does not help that society condemns Men's sexuality as something perverted. We have been stripped of our masculinity and left to rot in our couches and computers as we play video games to fill the void. My Life's purpose currently is to create a company in order to combat such unnecessary suffering. Women are also in the same shoes as they are also struggling with their sexuality. The problem is, for both sexes that we are becoming neutralized. Women are becoming less feminine (and not necessarily more masculine, just neutralized) while men are becoming less masculine. Anyway, You might wonder why this would matter: Well, just how many men do you think are out there actively approaching women, embracing their sexuality? how many times do you think women get approached on a daily basis? What is the most exciting thing that happens to the hot women on the streets? well, the answers my dear sir, is ALMOST. FUCKING. NONE. Yes, less than 1% of men. MOST OF the women I've approached have never been approached by another man (If we only count the ones I asked: THEYVE NEVER EVER BEEN FUCKING APPROACHED, EVER!) And those attractive females who we praise so highly as godesses. They sometimes seem like goddesses to us, right? Now go approach one of them, and ask them "WHAT IS THE MOST EXCITING THING YOU'VE EVER DONE?" and the answer would be most likely something like "I got drunk in my friend's birthday party this one time?" Yup. That's it. THATS. FUCKING. IT.

SECTION 3: THE PROCESS OF MEETING GIRLS AND PICKUP IN GENERAL:

Ahh, you might say, the meat of this post! Yes, how wonderful! Tell me, How do you approach the cute girl sitting down across you seemingly teasing you with her presence. Yes, you hesitate. Your palms are shaking. Your heart is pounding. Should I go talk to her? What if I get rejected? WHAT SHOULD I SAY?... So far, what I've learned in pick up, is that DON'T EVEN FUCKING WORRY ABOUT WHAT YOU SAY. ALL THE ADVICE AND TECHNIQUES OUT THERE DON'T MEAN SHIT COMPARED TO ACTUAL TANGIBLE Experience. So, Let me tell you the first step is getting rid of the fear anxiety and actually approaching.

However, I will still include a (purely suggestive) example of how you would approach girls (taken from one of my field reports):

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-Pre-Framing: "don't worry I'm not a hobo asking for money or anything" or any statement that applies to your specific situation that informs the girl that she has nothing to worry about.

-Specific Compliment: I like to start with a specific compliment only relevant to the girl in question, when I'm "out of state" or when I blank out, I would say something like "Hi I just thought you were cute and wanted to say hi". The more preferable opening would be "I love your shirt! I'm a fan of the Beatles too!" (Assuming she's wearing a Beatles shirt! you don't have to start with a compliment after the preframe if you want, but I'd do it in the beginning of the interaction so the girl knows what's up.

-Story time+ Guessing game: after you give a girl a compliment, never expect a response, keep providing value..and making statements. Don't go directly into interview mode where you are asking "where are you from" all the boring shit directly. Also, try to guess what her major is for example, or what her job is or whatever. And have her guess yours as well. It's a good ice breaker and can get the conversation going.

-Drop little hints that you are hitting on her: make funny jokes about how she's your type or whatever the case may be, the point is while the conversation goes on, it's good to drop low-key sexual jokes here and there to increase the sexual tension.

-Back off and let her chase you: when she starts asking you questions, this is where you can ask her questions too. Don't get too caught up in your stories, and conversation learn to back off and LISTEN to what she is saying because it will help you ALOT when you text her and I'm not one to talk about texting because I fucking suck at it, but I do know that it is VERY helpful to bring things back from the conversation

-CLOSE and Reinforce: ask if she's going to text you back when you text her, when you get her number, don't leave, keep talking as if nothing happened. While it is easy to leave when you get the number, don't make the number your goal, make your goal to give her a preview of what's to come in the date, making a connection. Also, I like to give a girl her own unique nick name on my phone and I make sure to show it to her.

-PRIMING: I am a student of psychology and I'm currently adding this to an experiment, and this means adding certain elements in the conversation that suggests open mindedness, acceptance, fun... Drop little hints that makes her more comfortable and open minded to the situation these in because most girls I know do not get approached during the day.

LASTLY: FOLLOW UP on every girl you talk to, no matter how bad you think the conversation went. And if the girl doesn't reply, shoot her another text a few days later. Make sure you squeeze the juice out of every number you get to the max. You never know when a girl who said no to you before, says yes, and believe me it is worth the effort of just sending a text. Trust me, if you take nothing else from this post, at least DO THIS. Get a wingman who you enjoy spending time with, so you're always having fun even when your approaches go bad.

Embrace Rejection! I am the guy who's been rejected more time than probably all my friends COMBINED. I take pride in how many times I get rejected. Because it means I'm going after what I want relentlessly Pick up makes you better AT LIFE: Remember, your conversation skills, confidence and everything will go up! Even if you're not getting laid by 10s Everyday. Take notes: Just take them. They will help you improve and find out your sticking points.

SECTION IV: SETTING BOUNDARIES AND REALIZING ONE'S WORTH:

Okay, now when it comes to confidence and realizing our own self worth as men. We've all been insecure about many things. I've been insecure! Hell, I'm still insecure! we tell our selves "I don't like the way I look"... "I would be able to approach girls like him if i was more attractive". We put pedestals on the women we like. Making them a divine being while we sulk in our own lack of action. HOWEVER. This mindset has to be changed. You have to realize how much you are worth. You ARE A PRIZE TO BE WON (To be quoting from my LORD and Savior POOK! *I highly recommend checking out book of pook it's one of the very few pick up sources I like to use). He hits the nail on the coffin. Also, when it comes to escalation (and if this currently irrelevant to you it will be soon given that you GET OUT THERE AND APPROACH) IF A GIRL'S ON A DATE WITH YOU, THAT MEANS SHE LIKES YOU. SHE WANTS TO BE KISSED IN THE END. (IF YOU GO IN FOR THE KISS AND SHE TURNS HER HEAD MAKE SURE YOU LET HER KNOW IF IT IS TO CONTINUE SHE WILL NEVER DO THAT WITH YOU IN PUBLIC AGAIN)

Set boundaries. Yes, set some fucking boundaries. NEVER take girl's abuses and bullshit. Be ready to leave them any time and let them know when they misbehave that the continuation of their misbehaving will cause you to leave. Especially when it comes to misbehaving that is disrespecting you, and therefore harming her because she would be missing out a good opportunity (YOU). Yup, i just called YOU a good opportunity for the girl. Know your worth. And make sure when you are with a girl that she respects your time. Having a girl who is grateful for you (as you should be for her) is a very great trait to consider.

WHENEVER YOU ARE DISRESPECTED. By the girl. Always show her the door. You don't need her. You choose to be with her not out of a need, but rather a choice you make yourself, and if she gives you reason to change said choice, you let her know very clearly. "If you keep doing X, I'm Gone!" If you have this mindset, or similar one you will be in a successful relationship. Disregarding all the gender politics that we have today, generally speaking if a relationship is to be a successful one, the Man must create the boundaries. Because in the end, women experience the world through us!

To be continued, especially if I get feedback and this was helpful.

Meanwhile, If you read this, and it benefited you. My goal has already been reached.