might be a long post. TL;DR in the bottom. Firstly, let me inroduce my self (you can skip this and go straight to the field report if you wish) Hello, Everyone. My name is Max, someone who has very recently picked up seddit and the pickup community. I found out about this whole pickup thing through Elliott Hulse (If you're not familiar with him, he has a popular YouTube channel about self improvement and Fitness its pretty neat) whom I consider to he one of my idols. He featured RSD Tyler in one of his videos, and as I saw Elliot's reaction to Tyler's abilities because he witnessed it himself, I was dumbfounded and concluded that Tyler is a guy worth checking, and the Journey started there. My past experiences with girls have either been me having a crush on a girl and not taking action even when I thought she liked me back, or asking girls out and have horrible follow up. The last option being that a girl would have a crush on me, but i wouldnt be attracted to her. I am 18 years old, fairly attractive, and quite into bodybuilding so I have an excellent physique (planning to get into competitions at some point). In terms of social skills, I am a good public speaker, (my proof of that is I was asked to represent an organization on TV and I did it sucessfully). I am quite humurous energetic etc. However, recently I had the case of oneitis with a girl and after getting rejected by her my confidence simply shattered (this was before I got into the pickup thing)

Now for the field report:

I was reading a lot of material about pickup, so I read the game and Models which was suggested by seddit and finally decided to come out of my shell and apply what I read (Models was much better then the game, I only read the game because it was mentioned Ina YouTube comment and I thought to check it Out) I will refer to the girl simply as HB, because I don't like rating women. I was studying for physics with one of my friends at the library of my college, when hefound out the girl sitting next to us (HB) was also studying for the same class so we started talking to her and I find out that her brother went to my highschool. I was in the process of printing something when I turned back and saw her leave. I wasn't too upset because she was just a 'potential girl' and shes in my class. I told my friend who was good friends with the brother (not expecting my friend to tell the brother about the situation) (BTW the brother is Gay). The brother knew it was me somehow without even my friend mentioning my name. My friend told me that the brother said he 'Approved' of me. I took that as a good thing. Anyways, three weeks passed by after that without seeing HB in class or anything. Then we had a quiz, and I said to my self I would take this opportunity no matter what. When she got the quiz shefinished it way before I did and left. And I finished the quiz as fast as possible and rushed out of the class. To my relief I saw her outside, and without hesitation I went up to her and said "Hey, HB listen this might be a bit straight forward, but I think you're kinda cute and I wanna take you out on a date." I said this with perfect posture and eye contact throughout. She did not expect this and looked very nervous, while I was still very calm and confident. So I told her humourosly 'there's only two answers, yes and no and im fine with either' and after hesitating again the girl said 'can we just be friends' to which I replied yes. As I walked away, with a genuine smile on my face and I was very happy I had to refrain my self for screaming 'I fucking did it' now you might think 'well she said no' and you would be right. But this was me asking a girl out with full confidence and no regards of rejection. After a long time of being passive, i finally put the matter in my hands, and took action! If any of you are familiar with bodybuilding, after you had a good workout you feel like you're on top of the fucking world, and that's exactly how I felt. Even after she said no.

TL;DR: this is what I learned from this experience, firstly it is only hard to ask girls out because of the process of thinking about it. If you do it without thinking it would be very easy. Secondly, every rejection is a step closer to acception. And thirdly, I would like to quote my idol Elliot hulse "Expression is the opposite of Depression" so if you express yourself, and your intention towards a girl or girls in general, whatever the result maybe, you should simply be proud of yourself for doing what you did, even if the execution was poor. Because not only are you being true to the girl, you are being true to yourself as a person.

If you read all of it, I hope you enjoyed and I would appreciate any feedback :)

Update: asked out another girl today in front of two guys that were talking to her. Was even more proud. (She had a boyfriend though) but thanked me for doing so and I was very happy because this time it was with two guys.