Hey guys, I have a mindset problem and I hope you can help me.

When I go out, every time when I see a girI I like (on the street, in the mall etc.) none of them ever shows interest in me, never even look at me, nothing. So if I want something to happen I have to work for it like do cold approach and seduce them, right?

Now the problem here is that I don't like the fact that I have to do this against their will, I mean they dindn't show the slightest interest in me and now I have to work for it to "get them into bed". I have to make them to want me. This process costs a lot if energy to act attractive, be confident, charismatic, witty, sexual, lead things to the next step etc. I don't like that I have to work for it to get them instead of that they like me from beginning by my appearance and show some interest. I always feel that they don't want me and it feels wrong to approach them and try to make it work.

I don't know how to deal with this so it makes me unable to seduce women.

Am I wrong, is this just the way things are going for men and I have to deal with it?

Need some opinions, advice, experiences.

Thanks