I told my self I was going to start doing these to make sure I don't forget what I am doing right.

Background: I had a mini epiphany while I was on my flight back home from vacation. On the plane I saw a cute girl that was sitting alone during the plane change and decided to just sit down next to her and strike up a conversation. Was just a random fun conversation that ended up lasting for like two hours before we both just ended up on our iphones. Yet when I go to try and talk to a girl in a bar I freeze up and can't think of anything to say, and I could never figure out why. I realized on the plane I had no problems talking to her because I was not looking to get any or I was not "trying" with her. I just talked to her like a person and really did not care about what she thought and we just talked. So last night I tried out my new strategy of "not trying" and just being social.

[FR] I went out to a club with a friend for NYE, we walked in and were just drinking by the bar as the club started filling up. Normally this is the prat where I just hang around and talk to my friends and wait to see girls to talk to. But not last night, I looked at my friend and told him it was time to go make friends. First set I opened was just a couple of dude, just random chit chat and such having a good time. Then their friends that they were with showed up, group of three girls. Talked with them for a bit and then they all decided to head to another room in the club. Said bye to them and then told my friend that we needed to go make more friends.

From that point on I was bouncing from set to set just having fun and talking to everyone. I will say that I was not really trying to escalate to many of the sets as I did not feel the IoI's were strong enough. (I usually under estimate this but that is another story)

Overall it was a good night and I am now looking forward to going out and just making friends and taking it from there.

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