The video from Zan (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E626MownYoU&feature=youtu.be) has really had a strong effect of me.

I posted before some questions.

As a follow up to (http://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/1gzixt/two_inquiries_from_an_afc/) I have pretty much dropped contact with the 'far away' HB 9.5 as she was being snotty and putting me through shit tests that were jsut annoying.

I also posted that my visit with HB8 was successful (actually too successful in that it went from LongTermFriendzone -> ReallyGreatFWB -> She confessed her love to me. -- maybe I am in love with her too, hard to say at this point???)

In any case, I 'won the okcupid lottery' and met an HB8+ with a strong geeky/introverted side like 2 days after moving to a new city. Throughout our courting/relationship there has been a lot of comments from her like "I like how straight forward you are", "You aren't like the other guys I have dated who are really passive" "It kinda makes me nervous but I like that you know what you want".

My previous self likely would not have kissed her on the first date, would probably have paid for everything and probably would not have F-closed on the 2nd date.

But that all happened, and it happened because I was (and continue to) continually escalate toward what I want. Sometimes she is not wanting the same thing, and that's fine; but it's never like I have done something 'wrong' when I attempt to escalate tos omething she might not be into.

At the same time, I am watching my friends and others peripherally interact with women and SEE both the beta tendencies and the girl's reactions. I talk about it with my new GF; and again and again I see that the ultimate truth to seduction/dating/being a player/etc/etc/etc is simple TURNING DESIRE INTO INTENTION AND SHOWING IT.

Not every girl will fall in love with you; but you will NOT be an AFC if you are acting on your desire.

As I write this I feel like I am not offering much here; no field report (went on okcupid date, didn't offer to pay, kissed her when we parted ways and she swooned); but it's mostly because I am a crap writer. I have this chunk of experience I want to give to all you awesome dudes out there

  • The average interest level girls have in you is almost certainly significantly higher than your perception
  • Simply going for what you want puts you above like 80% of dudes.
  • IT IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE SURE SHE IS COMFORTABLE, only to respect her clearly articulated boundaries