What’s up everyone, I wanted to share a quick story that maybe you can relate to...

So on a Friday night not so long ago I was running late for a date.

We were supposed to meet at 9 pm but I was running way behind.

What’s more - I was taking care of some urgent work and so I couldn’t even text her.

So 9 pm rolls around and I’m still nowhere near ready… in fact, I ended up arriving an hour late while she waited at the meeting location.

As you can see from the texts (https://imgur.com/a/cZ2y33a), she was considering leaving - or at least that what she said.

Now what I want you to notice - is that I don’t freak out.

In fact, outside of showing her basic empathy, I’m joking around with her… I’m not serious at all. And I do NOT buy into her frame.

But what do most guys do? Exactly the opposite!

In fact, I saw someone’s post today in a Facebook group where some girl texted him that she’s done with him all because he couldn’t guess what she wanted.

She told him that he doesn’t know how to take care of her and I quote, “A man must guess what his woman needs.”

I shit you not.

That’s word for word what she said to him, and he was prepared to take all her shit and much more.

A man is supposed to jump through hoops for his woman?

Fuck that.

But let me go back to my story…

Anyway, notice how instead of feeding into her being upset, I’m talking about “motorboating her” and “making love to her face” and how well she responds.

And the moment I arrived, I walked right up to her and before even hugging her or anything I said:

“Heyyy! Alright alright my bad, come here” and then I motorboat her in front of everyone next to us in the square.

How do you think she responded?

Well, she laughed and blushed like crazy and said, “OMG how are you so good with girls?!”

Fast forward to an hour later and we are back at my place having an amazing time as if nothing upsetting happened. (Yes, we hooked up).

Anyway, the lesson here this:

Do not let women suck you into their bad moods.

Yeah I was late and it was a dick move, but letting it ruin the mood wouldn’t help whatsoever.

The unfortunate reality is that you have to learn to not be bothered by 90% of the shit they say and continue with your own agenda.

And that last 10% is reserved for when they cross your boundaries and need to be told, “Look, you pull that shit again and I’m leaving.”

Call it the 90/10 rule if you like. You can use it or ignore it...literally but just know that girls do this to you literally all the time.

What, you think she doesn’t know that buying an iced latte 10 minutes before the date will make her late?

Or that her being on her phone during the date will annoy you?

Or that her flirting with the barman or some other dude right in front of you (on your actual date) will make you feel shit?

Of course she does.

And yet they do it… ALL THE TIME.

This is exactly why you’re always falling into their frame, so wouldn’t it make sense to flip the script?

Anyhow, hope you took value from the post.

PS. If you want to join my free Facebook Group where I share more stories and lessons like this - or just want to connect, click the link here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/EliteColdApproach/

Until next time,

Chris “I’m the captain now” Parker