A couple of months ago I had a night in a bar. It's a bar I frequent, and not much was different than all the other times I have been there. However, on this night I experienced something amazing with a few friends, but I've been confused about how to make use of my findings.

Basically, we got into the bar like any other night. This time, however, we had a bet going around. The last person to make out with somebody had to buy everyone drinks. I was kind of nervous because I really did not have much experience with being so aggressive, and have generally been the sort of guy that waits for opportunities rather than pursuing them due to a timeframe. Well, on this night I just really did not want to buy everybody drinks. But more than that, I just really did not want to be the guy who couldn't make out with a girl that night (a position I had definitely found myself in before amongst other friends).

A person we were with that was not part of the bet pointed out a table of two girls and urged us to approach. Without hesitating I went up with my friend to this table and did the simplest and possibly most effective approach I had ever done. My friend and I sat down at their table without invitation and I just said a simple: "what's up?". It wasn't awkward in the least and we introduced ourselves. All of the sudden, we were surrounded by about five more girls. I found myself talking to this girl (cute, but not incredibly attractive). At a certain point early in the interaction I decided that this was the girl I was going to make out with for the bet. I amped up the charm and kino a bit, and the next thing I know this girl invites me out to the dance floor. Within the next two minutes we are making out. I had been talking to this girl for less than five minutes in total and didn't even remember her name.

This was sort of an eye opening experience for me. I never knew how easy it could be as long as you take action and act deliberately. However, nothing changed for me after that. I've been back to that bar many times and never made out with another girl there. This really has made me believe that one of the only things between me and pulling girls far more often is deliberate action. When I'm in the bar normally, I never feel that urgency of the situation. It's as if the prospect of getting with a girl is not enough to pull me through the anxiety and toward action. Has anybody else dealt with this? How can I repeatably get myself in that frame of mind?