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[–]john18809 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
You are a bad person and you will end up hurting your current boyfriend and this other guys current girlfriend.
[–]alilpuppy 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Totally agree with this, from the perspective of the story. This is not going to work, it will end up hurting everyone.
[–]reverse_excalibur[S] -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link
Fair assessment but not down with the ad hominem.
[–]john18809 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Listen, I know you said you won't cheat, but the action you proposed would likely lead to that. It is perfectly fine for you two to pursue a relationship, but you both must break up with your current SO first. It wouldn't be fair to them. I was harsh in calling you a bad person, but please reconsider this.
[–]reverse_excalibur[S] -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
You’re totally right with that. I’m being light in the post because I’m skirting this part of the issue entirely. Of course it puts me directly in the position of doing something shitty to two people.
But also from the perspective of defending myself, I’m trying to make this into a fun thing as opposed to something serious and life-wrecking. I’m looking for a particular style of flirting that’s more toned down and less about sex and more about enjoying the other person. If that makes sense? But of course it’s dangerous no matter how you slice it. :(
[–]john18809 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
From your post it sounds like the only reason you're doing this is because you are not getting enough attention from your bf. You should talk to him about this.
[–]reverse_excalibur[S] -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’ve thought about this too and it’s at this point a very chicken-or-the-egg problem. I’m not drawn to other men like this.
But then again I guess I don’t have to be drawn to all men to blame it on a lack of attention from BF. This is fairly confusing for me.
[–]john18809 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know what to tell you anymore as I have never been in a relationship, but whatever you do, please do not cheat. It will hurt your boyfriend so much if you do.
[–]Prince-Otter 6 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
don't forget karma will come
[–]reverse_excalibur[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s a risk I’m here for. Now, do you have a sick flirt technique or what?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well you're the one who chose to show us that your ethics are out the window the moment you decide that you want something. Don't want to be treated like an asshole, don't act like one.
Having said that, I'm sure you've seen The Office and know what you have to do. Have a chat with your Jim, tell him how you feel and he might fuck that Karen right off.
Cool. Must have missed the memo when seduction went prude.
And, dear apologist, I am an asshole. Wouldn’t post this if I weren’t. You’re not hurting me here. If you could cut my soul with your argument, I would be thankful, but this is toast at best.
[–]codewizbambam 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh dear, that sounds like rationally you have a mindjob, but deep down you feel something. I can flirt well, but I just do it from the guts. But maybe there's some books on the topic that can help you...
Arden Leighs Pickup Guide for females maybe Link or maybe just a good communication training with NLP. Also, believe it or not, I found Flirting for Dummies :D Besides that, you should ask the females in here for support more, like from my experience, the crazy stuff is that the whole equasion looks totally different from the other side.
i like this thread, op is clearly the bad guy
Living my best life.
(Kind of being sarcastic and kind of not.)
[–]LarryT14 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't listen to these guys. I love flirting with married women, nothing wrong with it. Regarding flirting, just use eye contact, smile, and look away every now and then in the most feminine way you can (don't be afraid of overdoing it - you can't, men are that dense). Do a lot of feminine fidgeting. Laugh often. If you do it and he doesn't try anything he's probably not attracted to you.
Okay—this is more my speed, thank you.
Can I point out: despite being a fairly easygoing and flirty female, I do have a pretty high “friend zone” rate. I think I put out more of a friendly energy subconsciously than anything. Any ideas on how to tweak this?
(e.g. Direct pull from my life but not this situation. The other party says “You know, if they hired you without experience, it means they find you very attractive” as a flirty joke to which I manage a GIGGLE and and ROLL MY EYES, god help me. Can it get worse? It has. I’ll spare you the details.)
[–]quinnmcd[M] [score hidden] 6 years ago stickied comment (1 child) | Copy Link
This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:
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Oops! My bad. Didn’t read thread rules well enough.
[–]Chatter_ -2 points-1 points0 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Go for it girl. Guys take physical touching & leaning in when talking or laughing as clues. Good luck! Use it while you still have it.
Okay. I've done that before with him, and then backed off to try to be more platonic. I'll try to re-initiate this again.
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