Need a mentor

misterluca99 · 2019-11-13T02:08:40+00:00

you don't need a mentor. you need to approach. watch the blueprint decoded or the flawless natural or something very easy to implement.

mrmoorer32 · 2019-11-13T04:26:04+00:00

Here’s my take. I am a natural extrovert, and have had success with the opposite sex well enough, that I feel like my method can (possibly) help almost anyone regardless of sex. First off, you can’t approach someone who is giving you indicators that they don’t want to be bothered, sometimes this can be overcome, but usually not worth wasting the time.

Be friendly and approachable, but better yet, be able to start conversation with anyone, anywhere, and be able to hold a conversation about anything. Of course this is very difficult if you are a natural introvert, or your self confidence is low. It takes time, practice with people on the bus, at the grocery store, pretty much everywhere you go. I have a history of sales related work that forced me to practice this every day, even off the clock. But the important part to this, is to make it feel natural, and unrehearsed. Again, easier said than done, but practice makes perfect. If you try this it will help conversations form organically, and you won’t struggle so hard over your words, when you finally are ready to approach someone you’re attracted to.

Part two. This part will take time, and isn’t very straightforward, unless you put yourself out there. Gain life experience. Go to a concert, try a strange food, weird things like that, little things can cause the most natural form of dialogue. I also have had a very hard life, so I don’t recommend gaining my life experience, but everyone has a unique story, try to relate to other people’s life experience. I’ve come out of a divorce, bankruptcy, repossession, drug/alcohol addiction, I used to keep unfavorable company, totaled cars, been arrested, dui, etc.etc. I’m a different person now, these things are behind me, but they also add a little “grit” . Try not to get hung up on the messy parts of your life in conversation, make it seem like a triumph, or that you can overcome, and bounce back.

Part 3 Start looking at the opposite, or same sex as equals, this took time with me, but honestly, once you relate to another persons experiences, the facade goes down with the pressure to make a good impression. I can’t stress this enough, literally more than anything else, once you see yourself on the same playing field as everyone, not putting anything on a pedestal, your chances will increase.

I’m not an expert, and not do I claim to be, but these things have seriously increased my success with women, but mostly with people in general. I was with the girl I’m involved with at a local bar, and noticed the guy next to me was wearing a Patek Phillipe nautilus, (FYI it retails for..look it up) and I casually tapped him on the shoulder and said “Nice Patek” he stopped eating and then looked at me and said that he has had it for over 5 years, and only two other people ever knew the type of watch it was, he ended up buying our meal and our drinks without telling us.

Little bits of knowledge go a long way, and a simple compliment can affect people, not just sexually, but in everyday success with anyone and everyone. Start noticing small details, understand how things work, educate yourself on the finer things, but stay humble, and keep true to yourself. Sorry about the rant, but people are my “business” and I literally have trained myself to talk to almost anyone I can, even if you’re not sure, that person can seriously surprise you.

Good luck.

For good measure: we were at a nice bar, and the guy was traveling for business, just so that’s clear, most people don’t wear 5 digit watches.

SmokingOnTheBombHay · 2019-11-13T17:10:18+00:00

Lol I see crypto posts but this is pure incel gold

Title	Need a mentor
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Date	November 13, 2019 1:44 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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