Need assistance. 34 year old beginner.

jankyalias · 2010-01-28T15:55:35+00:00

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archerk · 2010-01-29T00:35:53+00:00

Here's my two bits for jump-starting your progress (from personal experience!):

1. Go to your nearest Borders and buy:

a. A mole-skin notebook (about $10) to record stuff you're learning, routines, and especially record each month in a little chart: number of approaches, numbers, Day 2s, kiss-closes, f-closes.

b. 'The Rules of The Game' by Neil Strauss (about $20). Don't read the black stories book until after you complete the white book (save it as a reward). Do the 30 day challenge. It works.

c. 'The Game' by Neil Strauss (about $20) for motivation and fun.

d. (Optional) Magic Bullets - by Savoy (purchase online) -corresponds with Straus and Mystery.

Seriously, those books have helped me tremendously, and are by far the best I've come across and I've read many, many. 'The Mystery Method' is also excellent, but may be too advanced for now, and you'll learn the same stuff in an more coherent fashion from The Rules of the Game. Beware overburdening yourself with more books, ebooks, etc.

2. Obey the Golden Rule (Seriously) - For every hour of study you do you owe two hours in field of practice. Don't be a keyboard jockey endlessly surfing seduction forums looking for that 'perfect routine'. There's tonnes of good stuff out there, but the reason you suck at this is lack of social experience.

3. Do at least 1 approach every single day. Try to do as many approaches as you can in a month, don't worry if the numbers are low at first (my first month was a dismal 2 approaches (!) before I learned to do 1 a day) but try to improve your numbers every month!

4. Worship the 3-Second Rule. It's the best way to overcome AA

5. Find guys better than yourself. Look for a local lair, look on meetup.com to start. If you can't find a local lair, start one.

6. Watch 'The Pickup Artist' series Season 1 & 2 (available from Amazon Online) - Excellent for understanding what's possible, for motivation, and for 'getting' the techniques.

Well, that's the basics for now - hope that helps!

archerk · 2010-01-28T16:00:18+00:00

Thanks. I will look into both books.

I never learned how to approach a woman at all. The idea fills me with anxiety. What is funny is that I've had my share of beautiful women in the past but I was always friends with them first. While this approach does work I would NEVER recommend it to anyone unless you are immortal because it just takes way to long to play the friend game. :)

shredGNAR · 2010-01-28T17:43:51+00:00

Life is too short and we are too old to be scared to talk to women. You just gotta suck it up and get yourself out there. Cant be afraid of rejection or else you will never get anywhere. If all else fails, alcohol always worked for me.

hometownhero · 2010-01-28T19:09:07+00:00

Personally, i'm not a fan of scripted shit, and a lot of the stuff that you see "PUA", or wanna-be "PUA's" attempting... Stay away from this, it isn't natural, your essensially just acting, and if the chick doesn't give you the response you're expecting, you're fucked.

But, for some advice, i'd recommend David DeAngelo's Videos- especially for someone who is a beginner. I haven't watched any others, and his stuff only briefly, but his concepts make sense, and are generally, what I find the best way to grab women. Cocky & funny.

Title	Need assistance. 34 year old beginner.
Author	archerk
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Date	January 28, 2010 3:40 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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