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[–]Brawny_Ginger 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just my .02, but it seems like you're trying to set up 2 dates at once over text, which I'd personally try to avoid. To me, it seems needy, and her having to turn you down because she's with her family gives her the feeling that she's upsetting you. She's busy with her family (no reason to believe this isn't legit) and was flexible with times. The takeaway: She is interested in hanging out with you. Wouldn't reschedule otherwise. And as a matter of personal opinion, I only set up one hangout/date at a time, because I see it as needy. So no worries. I'm giving the girl I'm gaming a bit of a break until after new years (YMMV here, I'm in college so it's convenient).
[–]redslate 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks. This was very helpful an seems to hit it on the head.
[–]moussif 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Too needy, she wants to see you it's clear but she's really busy with her family. You shouldn't have asked too many times like you did, it's too desperate.
[–]redslate 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks. You're right. I let anxiety get the best of me.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes coming off as a little needy, you should have taken the lead and thrown off a: "me and you are getting drinks tonight" or some shit
Thanks. I'll try to do that next time around!
[–]RiseAboveIt 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Pretty much what the others said. Bit needy. Also remove the smiley faces. It will pay off in the long run. I like the 'probably doing some bday bah blah drinks, you in?'
I understand why you pushed a bit because she's a friend (i'm guessing) rather than someone's number you picked up.
You're right. She is not a random pickup. I got a bit anxious as I was pretty scared on this one. She's a coworker that I've been trying to get some balls to ask out for months. I did get a first date an tries to squeeze a second in during a super busy time of year.
For now I'm gonna back off and see if she contacts me on Xmas and my birthday.
Thanks for the help!
Oh also what is the problem with smilies exactly? I only used one.
Thanks!
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