I lost my virginity pretty late in life, around my very late 20's, and now I'm feeling like I have to make up for it before feeling ready to settle down with a fixed partner (unless I'm somehow polaym but that's a whole different story).

I still crave connection, intimacy, vibe match, and shared values, but I also want to indulge in my promiscuous phase. And I'm afraid if these both are mutually exclusive. If they are not, how can I use seduction to my advantage? Are the rules about attracting, sleeping with, and maintaining the relationships while they're fun and sexy still the same? Where do I find such women? Are they all around me?

I'm new to seduction as well, and I don't want to be facetious with the women that I end up seeing. I want to be honest and upfront, about wanting to sleep with them and chase the hedonistic trait than the relationship-y aspects. Would really appreciate advice/your own experiences with such a matter. I really hate feeling like sex has so much of a weight on me! Thanks in advance.