I've been into PUA for around 6 months now.

I've been on many dates and experience a lot of women since the beginning of my PUA journey, and although I manage to close most of them in the end, after careful consideration and reflection, the experiences were usually sub-optimal because I failed to project a "fun" and "approachable" vibe.

My inner game (frame) is strong. I have firm boundaries and a strong "mission" to focus in my life. Sometimes, this is to the point where in extreme cases I don't even compromise when it comes to waiting for my friends. That said, I make exceptions for close friends that have earned their place in my heart, and good reasons.

All-in-all, the biggest weakness I have when it comes to game is Outer Game, specifically projecting a Fun and Approachable vibe.

The reason I came to this conclusion is because a girl told me she was going to put me onto the "get over him" list after I stopped replying to her texts for 2 days, after we've been on a couple of dates (frankly I was busy working on my startup). Another time, a girl I was having a relationship with thought I was "too good for her" and "out of her league" initially. And finally, more commonly, almost all girls that I've dated have yearned for more of my time and commitment, in ways like "you don't text me enough" and "i miss you", etc.

One final thing I'll add WRT my Outer Game is showing clear direct sexual intent in the first five minutes of the interaction. Currently I'm sticking with good old compliments (your hair looks lovely, I like that dress) and strong eye contact/kino, but I'd like a more efficient way to convey clear romantic interest in the girl, very early on in the conversation. Reason being because EVEN THOUGH I'm doing everything listed above, girls still somehow think I'm not interested in them. Most girls tell me "I'm very bad at picking up on signals" and "I'm horrible when it comes to knowing whether a guy likes me or not".

TL;DR

So three things:

  1. Fun Vibe - girls gravitate and get hooked towards fun emotions.

  2. Approachable - to prevent girls from auto-rejecting me.

  3. Strong Romantic Intent - make sure she knows me and her are not gonna be "just friends".