I have gotten to the point where I am congruent. It was a long, hard journey of several years but I have ascended. When random black guys on the street stop you to "no homo" compliment you on your swagger and claims are made that you look like you "bathe in pussy juice", you're doing something different than 99% of people.

I'm Russian and originally from NYC. Without a doubt not I am a bit nuts (very high energy and say ridiculous things, just look at my twitter) for NYC. This makes me absolutely insane in North Caroline. I have a slight understanding that things work a bit different here but I have yet to figure out how to escalate properly here. I am not a dinner / movie / conventional date type of guy. This seems to be an issue when 60% of girls are married/engaged and the other 20-30% have boyfriends. While I literally had a girls start fights with their boyfriends to try to hang out with me longer or say it doesn't matter that they are not currently single (one girl tried to make a sex date 5 months from now lol), OVERALL I am having issues with escalating the night of.

Let me make it clear. I am able to get numbers, text game, and overall "long term" seduction. I am looking for opinions/advice on short-term (night of) seduction as after a month of being in the south, my results are, in all honesty, pathetic (despite the irony of everyone I meet thinking I'm the guy who is leaving with girls nightly).

An Example from last night: I am currently rolling with my heterosexual bff who I have met recently. He is 43 and I am turning 26. We have good a good dynamic, different but complimenting skillset and seem to average out to a good age (He was told he looks like hes in his late 20s last night). Last night we were in a large club and my friend picked a set that was sitting down. I open directly "how are you doing tonight?" and sit down opposite of them. It became clear that they are health conscious girls. My friend asked them what they were drinking and they both asked for water. Thats fine, I know what to do. We start chatting about diets. Raw, Paleo, Vegan vs. Vegetarian, I got this shit. They are intrigued. I transition into talking about sleep, REM cycles, sleep diets. They are leaning in. I throw it back to my BFF who was back with drinks by now and listening, saying hes an amazing Chef. He takes over. I mention that he sails and wants to move to Guam and I told him he should sail there. He said it was dangerous. I pull out a hardcore DHV story from how another (now married hah) friend got into a tough sailing spot and managed to pull through. Then told my bff that I would totally sail with him to Guam and we can do it. I throw it back to him by deliberately asking when is he taking me flying ? The response was obvious. He starts talking about how he flies. At this point, I have been talking to the older girl and my friend to the younger one. The younger one leaves to go to the bathroom. I make an excuse shortly after and tell the two who are left I'll be back. When the younger one gets back, I immediately drag her on the dance floor and leave my friend with the other girl. We dance and talk about life and spirituality and how certain events must happen. Please steal the following like from Jay-Z as I did: You/We/I (depending on the situation) could have been anywhere in the world but you're/we're/I'm here with me/together/you. I appreciate that. My friend and the other girl come over to dance. We stop the discussions and I WRECK the fucking dance floor with my girl. Everyone backs up 10 feet and I tell her it happens all the time, she says I'm sure, you dont exactly give them a choice.

Long story short. after running what I think would have been a perfect game, trying to get a kiss proved to be the most ridiculously difficult test of my abilities. I lean in, she says she "not that type of girl" and "doesnt do that". I tell her I would much rather have her do it out of her free will rather than seduce it out of her. Yea, Im that level of fucking honest. This led to an interesting little interaction about how she appreciates that. But I did say I would rather NOT seduce her, not that I would not try. and this is already when I pulled her FAR away from her friend at the opposite side of the club in a corner. I get her to a couch sitting side by side. Give her one last chance, she declines. I start seducing. HEAVY kino concentrated on the neck, pulling the back of the hair, breathing around her ears. Touching her as I do this. She is fine with all of this. Still no kisses :( (That's the saddest comment ever). She stands up to leave. I pull her on my lap. Restart. No kisses. She says I am very good and persistent. Long story short. No kisses. We were on the dance floor later. I had enough & just walk off from her without saying anything and go to the bar. She goes back to my friend & her friend who are sitting down outside and she looks sad. She says that we would like to go. I couldnt find them in time to restart. But it doesnt matter. Shes on my shit list at this point. My friend wasnt mad. LEarning exp for the both of us. Opinions ? ? ?

"You must get what you want all the time, right?" If you have a correct answer for this. Please let me know. I tried variations of Yes and No. My next variation will be "Girls, You think I do and have already made up your mind, so it doesn't matter what I am going to say"

tl;dr: French prostitute refuses kisses after heavy kino escalation and a fistful of 100's.