Need some help with reading body language. Any experience or link?

Dorman010 · 2011-05-09T09:43:51+00:00

Lots of experience in that field. First thing first - watch where the feet are pointing. This is a big IOI if pointing your way. Notice how the hands are - crossed arms = defensive or relaxing (depending on how low the shoulders are. The lower the shoulders, the more relaxed the conversation partner is).

When your partner is smiling and/or laughing, pay close attention to the eyes. Real laughter and smiles include all of the face, rather than just the mouth. Think on it on an animalistic sense - when a human is smiling, he or she is doing the same as an animal (only with different results). Reveal teeth ("Rawr, I have teeth, don't mess with me!"), squint eyes ("Rawr, I am defending my most important sensory organ - my eyes! I'm ready for you!"). These two are some of the most important indicators whether a smile is fake or genuine. I think the BBC has a special test on this, but I can't be arsed to find it at the moment.

Once you get this down, you will start to feel it in your gut whether the smile is genuine or not.

The hands are very important for body language - you need to make sure that this fits with you like a hand in glove, because you don't want to hand the control of body language over to someone else, you want to be always with the hands-on approach to this, else things might go out of hand. See what I did there? There are so many idioms concerning our hands, and that is because they are so vitally important for body language.

Let's look at how children act when they lie. What do they do? They put their hands in front of their mouths. As if to stop the untrue words from coming out. The younger someone is, the less control they have over their body language. Vice versa is also true. Remember that.

Now, when someone is showing you the palm of their hand, it means that they are probably telling the truth. Therefore, if you choose to lie to someone, make sure that your arms are at your side and your palms are turned towards your conversation partner. If your conversation partner's arms are crossed - find a reason to uncross them. I don't care what reason you find, but uncross those arms. It's been proven that people's body language also affects their mind. Therefore, closed body language can cause an open mind to become closed.

Notice the way in which people's eyes wander when they talk. If they blink a lot, they might be lying. If their eyes go their top left, it generally means they are trying to make something up. If their eyes go to their top right, it generally means that they are trying to remember something.

Speaking of the eyes, one of the best ways to check for attraction is the pupils. When people see something they like (e.g. a baby seeing his mum), their pupils dilute (become larger), as if to see more of this. If you talk about something, and the conversation partner's pupils dilute, keep on talking about this and get some kino going on!

Hope this helps. :)

Title	Need some help with reading body language. Any experience or link?
Author	bijibijmak
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Date	May 9, 2011 4:32 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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