I like this girl at work. Lets name her (Kate) I see her only 2 days in a week and only for a few minutes everyday. She is a 9-10 and every time I tried to talk to her I’d get confused and she is also very shy and of introvert nature. I thought of a plan and gamed her friend lets name her (Violet) who is less attractive to me. I became close to her and she started to like me. Just so I could see the girl I like, I kept her interested in me.

I asked her (Violet) one time for hang out with her friend (Kate) and she agreed on it. We 3 went out. We had a great time the first time. Now I know a little bit of game so during the high notes of our first hangout I planned the second hangout. The second hangout was with 1 more girl. It was also successful until I fucked up really BAD! So (Kate) was sitting in the backseat of my car and music was being played from my phone. She was using my phone to change songs and she saw my Spotify search for her profile. (I was stalking her Spotify profile to know what kind of songs she likes so I could play them later). Now she didn’t tell me anything about it and kept quite but I realized it when I got my phone back and I was cursing myself. During our second hangout I also made some other mistakes like being very cocky with her friends I went too far with it. Mostly as someone would say I was mansplaining things by cutting her friends if they said something wrong. Anyways, I texted her that night to send me the email address of one of her friends, she didn’t reply. I made plans again with her friend (Violet) and asked her to invite her (Kate) too and she said you should ask her directly. I sent her another msg, she didn’t reply to it either.

Now my question is, I want to ask her out directly but since now she has seen that I’ve been stalking her. What should I do what are my options? I don’t wanna seem like a creepy guy or a coward who can’t ask her out directly. But now I know that she is clearly not interested in me I just still want a NO for an answer. Is there a way around it PLEASE HELP.