Nervous for a first date...

ON_3 · 2015-01-25T17:42:37+00:00

How did you meet this girl originally? What did you do with her before?

Which city? Big? Small?

With out knowing her style/what she likes and your location, it will be hard to pinpoint what will make for the best date.

(My to go to)

When ever I am uncertain of what to do, I usually go to a coffee bar, where depending on the mood or the time you can order a coffee or a drink.

Go look up local performances, jazz clubs, small venues usually $7-$10 a show.

Go to art galleries.

Find food places, food trucks, local home grown shops where you can share a snack. Find a candy store.

seducer4real · 2015-01-25T19:47:33+00:00

Good question.

Where do you take her?

For the first date i do not recommend that you go out to eat or like a coffee date, instead you want something more active. Like golfing/bowling/concerts, anything that does not involve you 2 just sitting down together and talking. So choose something active that you like to do, and do that with her.

What do you do?

Dont go in for the kiss within like 5 minutes. I , myself, would not kiss on the first date(unless it went shit, if it was good, i wouldn't kiss), but many people do. So it is up to you to choose whether you do it on the first or second. My advice for you specifically, since this is your first time dating a girl, I would not go for the kiss on the first date. Get to know her on the first date and hold hands. Make sure you hold her hand at some point. Dont put your arm around her, just grab her hand and see how she responds. If she interlocks her fingers with yours, that is good, she she just holds it like normal, then still keep it and judge for yourself but make sure you do it.

What to talk about?

A technique that i like to use to keep the conversation flowing and keep it interesting is to use mystery. Now, by mystery i do not mean creepy, if youre a creepy dude, youre not mysterious. Mysterious people are people that are charming yet hard to figure out, but when you talk to them, they always seem to be up to something rather thatn someone who always has free time to meet some bitch at a seconds notice. The mysterious guy is busy and generally has shit to do , so wont spend too much time in the intial approach (the reason for this of course is that you want to get the date, then show her that youre the most amazing guy shes ever met). So how do you implement this 'mysteriousness'. First thing you will want to practice is not talking about yourself. Dont get this wrong, she must know who you are, that is fine, but to be telling her all your goals,achievements and the shit you get up to in general completely destroys the idea of mystery. So if you keep talking about yourself, youre boring her because she is not interested in your shit, not right now, anyway. So right now you want HER to think that YOU know her, so she has every reason to hook up with you and get together. So to get to the meat of the 'mystery conecpt', what you want to do is keep the conversation leaning towards HER interest and whatever SHE wants to talk about (as long as its not about her exes or some other hot dude she likes, if that does happen, run out of the nearest door). So lets say she has a passion for biology or fashion, then you ask her why that is so, then you ask how she feels about that particular topic, then how shes going to pursue it etc. Whilst youre doing this, shes going to be thinking : "hang on a second, i dont even know anything about this dude". Thats when she becomes INTERESTED IN YOU. Now she is going to ask you all sorts of questions about you, and here is how not to fuck up. Now that youve reached this stage, you really dont want to mess up. You want to answer the question obviously, but be vague as possible, do not elaborate UNLESS she asks, then you STILL continue to be vague within your answers. So how do you do this, you ask? Here is an example: HB: so, what car do you have? , YOU: A European car. ; HB: What kind of european car?; YOU: A streamlined black car. ; HB: WHAT CAR IS IT? ; you (HOPEFULLY); lamborghini. Do you get where I'm coming from? Youre basically making her crave the answer, making her work for it, rather than you just giving it like 100% of other guys out there. Youre not a fish , youre the goblin shark (extremely rare sharks), youre the rarest motherfucker out there. By making her work for your answers, she feels like she deserved it a little bit.

So do not brag about your shit unless she asks, just dont, and when she does, be vague.

One last tip would be to look as good as you can. Get trims and cuts where necessary, wear some good and manly clothes, do not wear a tracksuit or something like that.

Remember, if you look good, you feel good.

any more help that you need, let me know.

Title	Nervous for a first date...
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Date	January 25, 2015 10:10 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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