After breaking up with my Ex, I was rusty getting back into dating but didn't want to waste to much time worrying about what could of been.

I learn a lot being in a LTR and decided to use what I have learn.

First Girl

This one was interesting, I met her off of tinder but for some reason she didn't want to voice chat her excuse was that she was shy. I called anyway, the reason for this is I been stood up and flaked out a lot and realized most people are cowards. They will disappear without telling you how they truly feel so getting in their face will trip them up. I don't do this for pressure I do this to see if they are serious.

On the phone I said some basic bullshit, nothing special, than out of no where I ask,

Me: "Should I bring condoms, things might get heated", Her: "I don't really need sex like that"

The old me would of worried about coming off desperate and try to resolve the conflict, instead I said

  • Me: "Well I need it"

  • Her: "Oh you need it huh"

  • Me: "Yeah I'm going to pick up something from Wendys you want anything"

The night ending with me having sex with her.

The take away from this story is don't settle for less, some girls will try to shame you and tell you to have a nice conversation and see where it leads. This is why you pre-screen , Every girl I pre-screened I slept with, I lost a lot of dates with the above attitude and had a few women call me a creep and a pervert , but creep simply means they weren't attracted to me.

Whats scary is these girls(The ones who called me a creep) ask for nice restaurants in other words I never had any chance with them no matter how good my game was, but they still wanted to meet. If you are having trouble closing it means you aren't negotiating properly

  • Know what you want
  • State what you want
  • Demand what you want

Nice guys stop at step 2 as they don't believe they can demand sex, note demand doesn't mean rape or force it means walk away , no sex is a deal breaker as you aren't looking for friends.

** Girl Two **

This one was weird, I almost didn't even text her back but decided to anyway, right off the bat she says

  • Her: "I'm not looking for sex, so don't expect sex we can meet up and talk though"
  • Me: "No thank you"
  • Her: "Well I don't want you expecting sex, some guys just expect it"
  • Me: "If we like each other we can talk about that"
  • Her: "Ok"

She was setting me up for a convert social contract , girls do this, not nice guys, this is a girl move. She was trying to get me to agree not to be pushy and not to hit on her but go within her comfort zone. This sounds innocent and kind, "Let a girl be comfortable and in control", but leads to no chemistry and no excitement. Safe is boring. I ended up having sex with her on the second date due to logistic, she was creepy though because after all that big talk she takes my hand and puts it in her pussy, just out the blue.

tl;dr Most guys don't pass basic shit test when it comes to sex, "Can we talk and be friends and take it slow and get to know each other" ,