I've been reading all of the things that are posted here and I've been trying to apply them to my life and self as best as possible. I've had little to no success with girls since I started this journey, but I've learned not to care too much.

As many people have said countless times, outcome dependency is one of the biggest hurdles that one must overcome in order to feel (and therefore be) comfortable with what they're doing. Just recently I was rejected twice in a row, but the result was much more liberating than I had expected. Getting rejected is a goal in this process that prepares us for eventual success.

The fear of rejection is what used to hold me back from doing anything. I used to let obvious opportunities waltz by because I overanalyzed every situation. Now that the fear of rejection is gone, I am finally comfortable with how girls treat me. My thoughts are clearer and my actions are more confident.

I've quickly found that this entire PUA style of thinking, perceiving and being isn't centered on picking up girls, this comes as a side effect of being a better person. Though I have no successes to speak of in terms of getting numbers and dates, I noticed a significant shift in the quality of my relationships and day to day life. I'm getting gig offers (I'm a musician) from people that have never heard me play because I give off a vibe of confidence and competence. I'm able to hold much better conversations, and it seems like my words carry much more weight than before. These are the types of changes that fill in the confidence holes I once had.

My journey is far from over, but now I have valuable skills and tools that will last me a life time.

Here some of the most valuable tips I've seen posted:

1). Smile. At everyone, doesn't matter. This establishes a rapport, and familiarity.

2). Be clean. It doesn't take much effort to shower everyday, brush teeth, and apply deodorant. You can (should) do more, but this covers the basics.

3). Don't have public mood swings, try and be a reasonable center of happiness and reliability for those around you.

4). Realize that everyone you see has worth in one way or another. They probably have awesome vacation stories, hilarious jokes, interesting jobs or anything else that drives good conversations.

5). Treat waiters and cooks nicely, as if they personally cooked that meal just with you in mind.

6). Learn when to cut something off and back away. Realize when you might be getting desperate.

7). Do lots of things. Learn a language, take some online courses, anything. Become that interesting person that you are, but in a better realized form so that others can see it.