1. If this is a physical interaction, check your body language. Are you standing/sitting with good posture? Are you leaning in too much? Are you fiddling with your fingers a lot or bouncing your leg? You might be expressing a lack of confidence, submissiveness, or anxiety. This won't come off very confident.

  2. How is your tonality? Are you speaking at a high volume? Be loud and speak confidently!

  3. Are you expressing neediness or outcome dependence? What are the motives for what you are saying? Are you seeking approval or are you behaving as you wish, comfortably, confidently, and spontaneously?

  4. Are you being fearful of physical interaction? Are you being friendly and touchy? Express your masculinity, as well as your touchiness/affection with comfort and confidence. Be the man that is physically interactive, not the man that doesn't know how to deal with affection. Hold her hand, kiss her, move her around physically, and feel free to play around.

  5. Are you being indecisive? Maybe you're giving her options asking her where she wants to go or what she is in the mood to eat? This can kill tension. Know what you want and how to get it.

  6. Have you lead the interaction to a plateau? Are you not escalating enough physically or emotionally? Perhaps you're not leading the interaction to the next necessary place to close. Remember, she wants a man. She wants someone that knows what they want and knows how to get it. Figure it out. Close the set. Always. Be. Closing.

The key is to behave as an attractive person would behave. It's not about displaying the correct qualities or behaviors, it's about letting yourself be the person that has those attractive qualities and behaves as he wishes, confidently- independently of the outcome.