Why is it that when you don't put any effort and you are not even trying, girls will seem to show a very high interest into you ?

Basing on my own experience, I had the highest success with women who I didn't even try to impress. I would literally tell them "I am a fucked up person. I've been hurt in the past. I can't protect you. I don't have any hobby. I don't respect women and I only use them for sex. You better stay away from me, as I am certainly not a good person for you". I would ignore their texts, phone calls and flake 90% of the time. I would reply to them after hours, days and don't even remember their names or stuff we used to talk about. I would tell them I am hanging out with other women.

And they usually ended up as the ones who were attracted to me the most. They would always want to get to know me better, invest in me and they couldn't stop thinking about me.

And now on the other hand I have the women who I found as a perfect match for me. We had few instant dates and great talk but ALWAYS when it came to the point when I started pursuing them, asking them out, I lost. Attraction went from 100 to 0 immediately.

Ended up sleeping and hanging out literally only with women who I didn't give a single Fuck about. They were all like solid 8s or even 10s. Not that I can complain. But they never were the ones I really, really wanted to be with.

I don't understand. I was even trying to push them away. I would tell them that I don't care about them and that I would only use them for sex. That I am a fucked up person and I don't believe in love and that we will never have a chance to be together. Literally being a total jerk in front of them. We would talk about or exes, our sexual experiences with past partners, telling each other about or worst sides. And they were all attracted as Fuck.

Why is it that when you don't even try to impress a woman (hell, even literally tell her how fucked up you are) she won't stop thinking about you. And the women you want to be with run away as soon as you let them know you are interested?