So I was recently studying abroad and used the time to work on my pick-up skills. Now I'm not the most charming guy or anything and I'm kind of gangly and nerdy looking, but I used the time to go out and meet new people and just focus on having fun. And lo and behold, although I didn't pull every night I went out I ended up having a lot of success, so really just being yourself is great advice.

Now, aside from a couple times where I just made out with a girl at a club or something, for the most part the girls I was picking up I was seeing multiple times. Maybe this is not how you guys advertise the pick-up process here, but I find it very hard to have sex with a girl and just dump her off the face of the Earth. I'll always try and chat and get to know the girl, and even if I don't like the girl that much personality wise (i.e. i wouldn't date her) I find it hard to just completely forget about someone I slept with.

For example, there was a HB5 I met in a club. Saw her dancing alone and went up and danced with, and within 30 seconds we were grinding and making out. Went home with her that night and we slept together. The next morning I woke up and we chatted and hung out for a bit, and even though I could tell then I wasn't into anything beyond sex with her I found it difficult to detach myself emotionally. I saw her a few more times after that as just a booty call but eventually I felt that she was growing to like me so I called it off. Even then when I said goodbye to her before I left the country I felt somewhat sad even though I had no feelings for her. very weird.

There were a couple other girls I met in non-club settings who I day-gamed and then k-closed and beyond while going out. These girls I actually liked and found myself very attracted to. Once again though I found myself struggling to not develop any feelings for them. I knew we lived in different countries so dating was an impossibility, but yet I still let myself and the girl get hurt in both scenarios. What am I doing wrong? I feel like I'm alright at pickup, but I just don't know how to handle the aftermath of it. Part of it is that I have no idea what I want relationship wise, and these experiences have been making me want to try seduction less and less (although the desire for sex remains just as strong, so obviously I will not stop).