ONEITIS MAJOR NEED HELP PLEASE

_primeZ · 2016-12-03T06:40:38+00:00

Unreadable. Leave out the names.

Kitt_55 · 2016-12-03T11:14:44+00:00

Most young males operating in a scarcity mindset catch the disease Oneitis at some point in their young adult lives. If not promptly caught and cured, Oneitis can take years away from one’s life. You can pour all your time and energy into a lost cause instead of using it to improve yourself. Having suffered myself from a very dire case of the disease, I am accustomed to the symptoms. The symptoms of Oneitis can include:

 Spending an abnormal amount of time thinking and obsessing over one girl.

 Believing that one girl is completely different from every other girl that you have ever met.

 Believing that one girl is the most beautiful girl in the world.

 Believing that there is no other girl for you but her.

 Believing that no one else could ever match the love that you have for a girl.

 Believing that a girl is absolutely perfect and could do no wrong in your eyes.

 Putting a girl before everything else in your life.

An additional symptom would include not seeing anything wrong with holding the above beliefs. You may believe that if a girl only truly knew how much you cared about her, that she would love you in return. However, this is not the way attraction or love actually works. When you truly love a person, you do not need anything from them in return. Arriving at this realization took me years and was the most painful lesson that I have ever had to learn. There is no such thing as “the one,” but only people who are more or less compatible together. Love is something you build, not something you find.

While I have no doubt that the feelings which you have are genuine, these feelings originate from a place of scarcity and fear. You may mistake the burning desire you have for a woman as the being the truest form of love. Fear resulting from scarcity infiltrates the heart and amplifies certain emotions to an unhealthy level. If this is the first time that you have ever felt this way, then you may be terrified of losing the woman for whom you feel these feelings. You may fear that you may never again feel this same way about anyone else. The truth is that you may be right. However, this is not due to you having lost out on the love of your life, but to the fact that you no longer live in scarcity. Once the scarcity mindset is removed, you can find someone with whom you can have a relationship with that is built on positive emotions, instead of the hidden underlying emotions of loneliness and fear.

Now looking back, having my heart broken was one of the best things that could have ever happened to me. Had a need based relationship instead ensued, I would have never become the person I am today. I would have unknowingly submitted to comfort and security rather than venturing out into the world to learn its truths for myself. I would have remained a weak man and never developed the deep self-love, self-confidence and self-reliance which are prerequisites to unselfishly loving another person. Source

solidawesomeness · 2016-12-03T08:13:30+00:00

A. Feelings are good to have but you're letting this go too far

B. Edit out the last name in your post

C. Format your post

D. If you talk to her don't bring up the past rejection. She either remembers and doesn't care anymore or forgot, either way reminding her about it is nothing but trouble

E."I can't get over her" Yes you can. Take off the blinds for an hour and I guarantee you'll see somebody just as attractive if not moreso

Title	ONEITIS MAJOR NEED HELP PLEASE
Author	tc8gutstonevergiveup
Upvotes	0
Comments	3
Date	December 3, 2016 6:13 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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