Opening? check. Conversations? Check. Everything else? Wtf is wrong with me

GoRedBad · 2016-07-15T09:38:25+00:00

Get out of the mindset of everything needing to be perfect.

Deliberately put yourself in difficult situations where you are most likely to fail, and learn from them.

Set yourself the challenge of having an embarrassing sexual situation and do your best to laugh it off. It may sting at first, but if you are going to succeed in seduction you will need the ability to see the funny side of your own mistakes.

You might also find some insights in books like "healing the shame that binds you" - HOWEVER, when I started down that path, I quickly realised it was giving me an excuse to relive past miseries and once I got the jist of the concept, I put the book down and had more success just putting it out of my mind and having fun without thinking so much.

You can start by going out alone to a place where nobody knows you, that way it will be easier to get into sex mode without compromising the careful, nice guy image you have clung to all these years.

Crailberry · 2016-07-16T03:09:16+00:00

First of all, quit tripping about your car. Most women will not care about your car, as long as you don't have week old cheeseburgers underneath your seat. Keep it vacuumed, clean, air freshener, etc. if you need to, go get your seats and carpet shampooed and deep cleaned at your local car wash.

Second, I can't really comment on the living at home thing. Because I live at home right now while I pay off all my debt, and I feel the same way you do. How are things supposed to escalate when I don't have a place to take her back to? But honestly, women don't care THAT much....make out with her in your car. I used to take this one girl I was seeing to go stargazing in a nearby canyon here in Utah, and I would fuck the shit out of her there. So there's ways around it.

Third, you need to quit thinking about the end result so much. If all you think about is how you're going to fuck her, you're just going to put a lot of pressure on yourself and it's going to show. Just go on a date with intention to have fun, and to learn. If you do that, you will be much more loose, confident, and just better to be around in general. Look at it like a game almost. An experience. Whatever.

alex0919 · 2016-07-15T14:47:13+00:00

You have fear and anxieties surrounding getting intimate with women and expressing your sexuality.

You're clearly attracted to these women if you want to ask them on dates, you just need to keep introducing sexual dynamics into your interactions with women until you're comfortable. Flirt with them, touch them, tease them - women love sex, if you meet one who says otherwise, she's clearly never had good sex or she's afraid of expressing her sexuality with you, which will be cured by expressing your sexuality with her first.

P.S. It's okay to be creepy, you're going to be polarizing to women if you behave sexually, the good news is, there are women who are sexually and romantically interested.

Title	Opening? check. Conversations? Check. Everything else? Wtf is wrong with me
Author	renzoken99
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	July 15, 2016 7:52 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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