One thing that is important for every student of game to understand is the difference between overgaming and undergaming.

For those terms to make any sense, first we need to define what game is, and I'd argue it goes a little something like this.

Game is the process of seduction applied in practice. When one games a girl, one either adds value to a social interaction to increase rapport/value/investment, or asks for value to increase attraction and arousal.

So when you're asking for too much value when you aren't bringing enough, you're overgaming a girl.

And when you're adding too much value without asking for enough, you're undergaming a girl.

Overgaming is bad because it leads to a lack of trust, flaking, and her playing super hard to get. It makes you come off pushy and tryhard.

Undergaming is similarly bad because it takes all the mystery out and she'll start taking you for granted or think you're weak/uninterested. Undergaming makes you look needy and lacking decisiveness.

Now how do you navigate this? I wish I could say there was an easy answer, but there isn't. It largely depends on the girl, her personality, her likes and dislikes, and your ability to read the vibe.

Some girls secretly like a guy who pushes the envelope, so long as he doesn't push it too far.

Some girls like a guy who's straight-forward and an open book, so long as he isn't boring.

Old school Mystery-style game says you ask for compliance (asking for her to add value), and then reward her by offering value yourself. But those carrot and stick games can be transparent and/or manipulative.

Some women won't give you the time of day unless you approach her directly or by being genuine, and then flirting with her a little.

Some respond better to teasing, others to leading. Some just want to be listened to, others want to be accepted and validated.

But the key thing to remember is the tempo. If she's the one asking for value and you're the one giving it, you're likely undergaming her. If she's being aloof or giving the bare minimum, you're likely overgaming her.

Another thing to consider as well, is that women gauge their behavior with you on the basis of the precedent you set with your behavior. If you treat her like a friend, she'll treat you like a friend. If you're asexual with her, she'll likely to try match that and vice versa depending on how into you she is.

Just something to think about.