Step One: watch this video, it might be one of the most honest and insightful things I've ever heard a woman say about men - https://youtu.be/gMl0Ze22rDA

Notice in particular how she points out that women won't tell you this, because it makes her feel vulnerable. Like she's handing you the cheat code to her pussy.

What she's talking about is the difference between men who get laid and men who don't. All men have a masculine energy that women pick up on, the question is can a man tap into their masculinity and use it to turn a girl on. Even when she's not attracted to you, she's still aware of your masculinity.

Notice as well how she says that a man is at his most masculine when he's acting from a place of total honesty and lack of inhibition. Where he says what he wants to say, does what he wants to do, and fucks who he wants to fuck. And he doesn't give a fuck what other people think.

Now of course, that level of unrestrained masculinity isn't really workable in everyday life. That's a classic example of "When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong". It's also not that point - you don't need to be swagging hard 24/7, even if she's into that, she'd probably find it exhausting, and you'd do reckless and stupid shit. That's why men need self-discipline and self-control.

But now you have something to aim for. Now you know what turns her on, what she wants in the sack, and what she looks for in a man.

This is also why women can't stand guys who lack confidence, lack authenticity, lack purpose, and lack that killer instinct. The root cause is all the same - not being in touch with your masculinity. And it makes sense. Take two girls who are otherwise identical but one is in touch with her femininity and the other isn't. Which one are you gonna be more attracted to and aroused by?

If you really want to start taking leaps in your inner game, the big mental leap you need to make is understanding that women want a man. And more specifically, a man who is aware of his masculine energy and knows when and where to use it.

That's why confidence attracts women so powerfully. That's a man's way of saying "I know what you want" without having to say it.

Basically what I'm saying is, start getting used to the fact that your unrestrained lust is exactly what she is looking for. She just has to go through the motions of making sure you're not a fraud or a psycho. Then flirting and dating should become a whole simpler as well. You don't need to shower a woman with attention and affection, you realize now how those things are counter-productive. You now know how to make a woman chase because now you know what she's really chasing. She might like a relationship, but before that, she wants to know that you can turn her on and make her crave being the focus of your desire.