Paying on a date

rickyseddit · 2013-04-01T04:32:54+00:00

Don't listen to wombat999 please. My rule is usually if its under $10 theres no question you should pay, unless she insists twice. If she insists once, say something like, "It's ok you can get the next one ;)". If she really insists let her pay, shouldn't turn it into a big deal.

Now, one thing that seddit has taught me is don't do things like dinner dates with a girl you don't know well. You could be set up for a few hours of awkwardness and a hit to your wallet for nothing because you realize you were only physically attracted to this girl but had no real connection. It also puts a lot of pressure on both of you needlessly.

Same goes for movies, absolute waste of money and time and super awkward if its a girl you haven't closed with yet. You sit next to her and don't learn a thing about her for 2 hours. Don't do it.

Something better would be a daytime activity, maybe a picnic, some sport that you both play, billiards/pool, the beach (if you're closeby, bowling (super easy for kino). Anything that is fun and interactive, and allows you to show that you are a fun and friendly guy. It's better if its a place that you go to often because that shows that you are a socially valuable man. Think of something creative and different and she will have fun and probably be into you.

Then you can transition to another place. This is where I get to my point: if you have two activities, you can take turns paying. There is no rule that says you have to pay for every activity; however I think the general rule of thumb is, the more she likes you, the less important it is that you pay. But that's only in my experience.

This answer turned out pretty long and rambling but I hope it helps.

2013-04-01T04:36:46+00:00

It's really your call. Don't pay for dinners or any of that bullshit but a $4 coffee? You are inviting her out, and you don't want to look cheap either, or make it awkward.

IMO I would suggest to not verbalize paying, but simply act as if it was already agreed. Have her order first, then put your order in while talking out your wallet. When I do this a lot of the time the girl will resist me paying, and after some token resistance I simply just let her.

2013-04-01T04:10:11+00:00

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Title	Paying on a date
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Date	April 1, 2013 4:06 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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