I'm no longer looking for a one night stand at this point in my game. I am getting to know the girls that I date before I f-close. Essentially I am spacing escalation between a number of dates. Each date I go a little farther and so on..

The problem I'm having, is that each girl I've done this with, keeps having un-breakable LMR, when I decide to escalate fully. This trend lasts for 3+ dates, until I become frustrated and go cold completely. One example (5th date, down to her panties on date 4)

I pick her up and we get a few drinks at the bar. It's about 10pm. I decide we want ice cream, so we go get some. After that, I take her to a hill by her place to do some night sledding. Afterward she invites me in for a movie.

Make out for a while, I take off her shirt. Make out for a while, then pick her up carry her to her room. I strip, and then take off her pants, and head south, only to have her bring me back up. Says she isn't ready. I completely stop and go cold. She starts it up again, I head south, brings me back up again.

The only answer I can come up with is that the girls I am attracting are only seeking personal validation thru me. My question: what do I need to tweak or work on to find the girls who want what I want? Tired of investing a lot of time into girl after girl, only to find out it was wasted.