Pre-date nerves

SUCK_MY_DICTIONARY · 2015-05-18T05:18:27+00:00

I'm 21 and would probably still get nervous at the beginning of the date. You have a couple options. Some (older) people, might just drink a little before hand. Not enough that your breath stinks but enough that you're relaxed. Probably a good option is to have a backup plan, as in what you'll do if shit hits the fan. If you internally feel like there's something else you can do if this sucks, you're less likely to be nervous.

For example, you're gonna feel awkward about the first thing you say to her, how you walk to where you're going, sitting down, etc. but if you had somewhere else to be, you wouldn't feel as nervous cause you'd be thinking like "alright, we gotta get this show on the road." You're not gonna over-analyze every spare movement because you're gonna be in control of the situation because you're gonna have to be.

Ways you might do this are, make plans with someone for right after, have something else more interesting on your mind before you go... it's tough I know. Right now you probably think she's the only thing that matters. Unfortunately, she's gonna sense that and the ball is in her court whether she's okay with that.

You're 17 though so it might really not matter at all. In the end, you're gonna have awkward times forever, but moreso when you're younger, and there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. You just grow and learn how to get better at it.

davidjascha · 2015-05-18T05:34:04+00:00

I can totally relate. I agree with the suggestion to have something planned before, so you don't have to sit with your own anxiety. Also, it might be perfectly fine to tell her in the beginning, that you're a bit nervous--as long as you still behave like the guy you truly are.

Thesiberiantiger · 2015-05-18T09:48:11+00:00

What you nervous about exactly, is there something you are worrying about?

Title	Pre-date nerves
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Date	May 18, 2015 5:04 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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