Hey Seddit,

Spent way too long lurking here rather than going out. Easy trap to fall into, so now I'm going out and opening as many people as possible. I genuinely enjoy meeting people, so I find it pretty easy. I regularly can and do open both men and women without much trouble. Rejection doesn't hurt me, so I have no more anxiety opening a stunning woman than I do just another guy at the bar. This definitely makes the initial stages easier for me, because I have very little AA.

My sticking point seems to be right after the open. I'm a reasonably attractive guy, physically, so I have no issue getting a positive response from a confident open. Usually I stick to opinion openers. After the open though, I feel like I'm not doing enough to really polarize the set. Women will be mildly interested and will give me some pretty obvious indications they find me attractive at the beginning. I think I go too quickly into rapport building and playful teasing as that's my comfort zone and everyone (myself included) gets bored because there's not enough solid attraction between us to build off of. I'm not in interview mode or anything, as I am genuinely curious to learn more about them as people, but I definitely don't have the kind of investment on their part that makes the interaction as fun or engaging as it should be.

Part of it is definitely my own body language, as I am likely subcommunicating too much investment up front, so its a big focus for me right now in addition to getting more comfortable with kino-ing naturally. My question is: What can I do in addition to investing less with my body langauge to really get the girl chasing after me at the beginning rather than the other way around? I'd really like to improve in this area, because I feel like it is by far the weakest part of my game. Thanks!