I'm pretty new to the Seddit community and don't have any major problems approaching and talking to women. But, where I seem to fall short is escalating it to the sexual level. I've been out with a few and just about the only way for me to escalate is to have alcohol involved, and by then it's almost assumed if it's just you two. I'm just looking for different ways to bring it up with them, and eventually seal the deal, especially without alcohol.