So theres this really hot girl, who is in everyones eyes a perfect ten. One day you approach her. No bullshit, just saying that you like her and would like her to be your girlfriend, and have sex every night.

She agrees like its an easy business merger, and she plainly says that 'sure lets do it'.

Then you return to your cubicle and celebrate your acquisition, and added value to your life. Now that hot chicks your girlfriend, how different your lifes going to be. Every nights going to be a fuckfest and everydays going to be spent in comfortable assurance that youve finally found the one.

But you what, there's a problem. The moment it ends, or she decides its over, then thats it. The whole thing was like some temporary relapse, and youre back to your cubicle.

Thats validation.

If you give yourself validation before anyone can, then i guess nothing would matter anymore. Maybe things would be different. You may get that ten in a totally different and more meaningful way.

But the question is how. When we have so many fucking insecurities brimming from our conduit minds, it becomes hard to feel like the man we wish to be.

Im still learning guys, but i do know that breaking free from that physichal body and feeling like a field of connected energy helps. I know it sounds vague. But the easiest way to describe it being centered and relaxed. Act from within, not entirely through that mind, because it builds too many illusionary barriers.

When you want to talk, go talk. Thats it. Let the emotions flow. Doesn't matter if it's nervousness or excess passion or even casually relaxed.

You are the validator.