Is opening by complementing her looks too cliche ?

MindsEvolve · 2016-08-18T15:23:06+00:00

Can you give us an example of your opener? In general, remember that every open can be seen as an experiment, or practice for the next. You don't get better by upgrading to a different version of opening. You get better by simply practicing and experimenting. So feel free to experiment with an indirect opener, but I wouldn't say it's any better than direct. The type you go with is a very small part of a much bigger equation in the realm of coming off as an attractive human being. You can make anything work. I personally like to keep going with a routine once you're comfortable with it, and then make improvements from there. For example, you can try an even more direct version of your current opener. Or try a version where you comment on something about their personality (a cold read). Come up with creative options for yourself, and have fun with it. Start thinking about questions that will lead towards conversations about things you're interested in, so you can start gauging if that's even a girl you want to speak to!

Best of luck,

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boss413 · 2016-08-18T16:29:41+00:00

Yes... kind of. If you want to compliment something about how she looks, compliment something she has control over (her style, her confidence, her taste) instead of something she doesn't. The only exception to this is if you're so remarkably handsome that any indicator of interest from you is enough to breeze past the Attraction-building phase of pickup.

The explanation I like for this is that beautiful women have been complimented on their beauty since before they could understand words, so that compliment is cheap to them. "Oh, I'm pretty? Yeah, seven different people have told me that today, including those construction workers who made me feel uncomfortable walking to work. You're no different from them." Compliment her hair style by noticing it's how Jennifer Lawrence wore it at the Academy Awards--and she's pulling it off? That's something unique, insightful, and actually makes her feel good about something she put time and effort into.

For further exploration of appearance-based openers, give this great post from /u/aswjacob a read.

letsgetrandy · 2016-08-18T17:51:11+00:00

Yes. It's too cliche. It's also the same thing everyone else is doing, so you won't stand out or be memorable.

SexySmexxy · 2016-08-18T18:54:03+00:00

It's boring, but can work if she finds you attractive.

Title	Is opening by complementing her looks too cliche ?
Author	sidthejar99
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Date	August 18, 2016 2:25 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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