Hi fellow seducers,

I'm here with a question about what's right and wrong, morality. I do my best to be a decent, honest chap and behave accordingly to how I want to be treated. So here are the facts, since roughly 1 to 2 years I discovered I am not shy and insecure around women anymore. Quite the opposite. I'm active, show interest and make bold first moves. And the interest is being reciprocated at times. Yes! Once that happens, I pretty much can get what I want. It was absolutely fantastic until it became routine.

My problem is this: I like the chase, I truly enjoy a first meeting and I definitely cherish the first kiss and the promise for more. I'm excited and can't wait for the second date. And usually girls are into my by then. But I just don't fall in love and do not share their interest or level of passion. As if I feel nothing. And then the sex happens and more often than not, I feel cheap afterwards. And the more there is sex with one girl, the more they are into me. And it all becomes very one-sided. They are in love and me wanting to but unable to.

As I said above, I enjoy it, I like it and I have a fun time with these great girls and women. Especially first dayes, amazing! But in the end and in retrospective, to me it all feels so much like manipulation. I know what they want to hear, so I know what to say. Even when I am really myself, honest and the whole Mark Manson thing, the girls digg it even more. Yet I still not feel much at all at the start.

So, how does this thing works? I want a relationship, a long-term one. I date women, but not one of them capture my heart. I want them to, but it just doesn't happen. Should I keep dating them and see if I fall in love later on, like months later? I used to got in love with a flick of a switch. And now, that switch seems to be gone. Or should I stay low until I shorted out the why I don't fall in love and then be active again on the dating front? By now I know what girls want to hear, I know the little tricks and moves. It's fun in the moment when I do it, but it starts to bug me that it all feels so manipulative. What should I do?

Also, side thought: this is all a game. Men and women play by their own rules and more or less we all know it when we start mating/dating. Girls I date are not dumb, quite the opposite. So am I being somewhat belittling/denigrating by assuming I need to be the one who guards there feelings?

I'm new to this dating thing and definitely could use some insight.